Scared..Help?Please..

neveahnadira
neveahnadira Posts: 197 Member
edited October 2024 in Chit-Chat
I really feel awkward asking you guys this but I'm a little bit desperate and can take some advice now. This completely health unrelated

My parents own a piece of land about 5 minutes away from where I live. There is a teak tree (its wood is expensive) whose branches are slightly extended to the property right next to it. The creep who lives there is burning the roots of the tree on purpose and even threatened the manager who went down there and told that he'll do whatever he wants. We are going to talk to him this evening once my ...mom gets back from work. My staff expects me to go too and shout at this guy if needed because everyone thinks I am really tough. I act like that. If I go,I am planning to record the conversation in my cell phone but in the inside,I am freaking out.Really,I don't want to get involved involved with these kinda people but my mom cannot talk that sharply and dad is abroad(he won't be back for few months) :/

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  • Helenatrandom
    Helenatrandom Posts: 1,166 Member
    If he is going on YOUR (mom's) property to destroy your (mom's) property, I think you may need to call the police and have them deal with him, since he has threatened the manager. You should have legal recourse.
  • jarrettd
    jarrettd Posts: 859 Member
    Definitely tell the cops the guy has been threatening, and ask them to accompany you for your confrontation.
  • bethvandenberg
    bethvandenberg Posts: 1,496 Member
    I HATE confrontation. Plan what you want to say.... I was always taught Positive, Neg, Pos. So maybe you know we enjoy our relationship with you. However, this is un exceptable. What can we do......Then you really have to shut your mouth and listen.... .iike a reality show shut your mouth and listen...you know those cliff hanger moments where you swear he's counting to 30 before he says anything. Try that. Go calm. You'll get heated b/c of the adrenaline. Stay calm b/c he doesn't expect it. Breathe. Record just so you remember. Practice with some people...I mean why not. If you know all the scenarios then you will have thought it out and rehearsed it. You've got this girl. Stay calm, get the point across, find what his motivation is and what you can do to take care of that and go get em. :)
  • peaceinside
    peaceinside Posts: 272 Member
    I agree with Helen!
  • guppygirl322
    guppygirl322 Posts: 408 Member
    He isn't allowed onto your property, only allowed to trim any branches on his property and then place the branches he has trimmed back onto your property to deal with. That being said, I rules vary from state to state, but I'm sure they would all be similar. But no, he can't come onto your property and burn your tree.
  • RahBuhBuh
    RahBuhBuh Posts: 585 Member
    I wouldn't bother talking to someone like that on my own. I would call the police to come help. In most places the police will come on a mediation call. They will stand by while you talk to him to make sure that nothing escalates.
  • pinkgigi
    pinkgigi Posts: 689 Member
    In Australia, you would be able to call the local council who would have a word with him. If it was me, and I didn't have that option, I would deal through solicitors.

    GG
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    going in guns blazing is probably not the best way to handle someone like this guy. He is a neighbor after all and probably isnt going anywhere. I say stay calm, find out of there is a compromise everyone can reach, work out a plan of action to get it done and go on your ways. If he stays unreasonable or insists on damaging your property then get legal assistance
  • ChrisStoney
    ChrisStoney Posts: 479 Member
    Best t the least sit in thing to do is go there with another person who can at least sit in the car. Then Just be yourself and talk to the guy, find out what his beef is then see how you can resolve it. Going in and yelling, and making threats will not help. He may have allready killed the tree, it doesn't take long to pour bleach into the ground or run around the tree with a chainsaw.

    Why does he want the tree down, and why do your parents want it up?
  • neveahnadira
    neveahnadira Posts: 197 Member
    Thank you so much for all your help MFPs :) I feel much confident now. Let's hope everything works out well!
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    if the roots are on his property, then it is his property and he can burn them.

    he would win a case if you brought it against him, unless he is burning the roots on your side of the line.

    you could, however, negotiate something ex. "we will pay you $___ if you stop burning the roots and allow the tree to stay on your side." or "If you pay to have the tree moved, we will move it." ^^


    Good luck!!!
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