Over weight Friend

As you know weight loss is a personal journey and she has to be willing to take the first step. You have extended yourself and now its up to her . Good luck!

Tell here that it's a marathon and not a sprint. Start SLOW. I mean REAL slow. If she starts out too fast or alters her diet too much, she will quit.

All she has to do is join the site and log her foods honestly and carefully. That's it. Nothing else for now.

The next step is to go for a long walk/hike. You two can chit chat while doing it. She won't even notice she's working out.

Next would be to pick ONE meal from her day and make a decent subsitution. Leave all the other meals alone. that should be a 300-400 calorie cut right there.

Cobmining both the cardio and diet changes, that should be close to 600 calories cut on any given day.

since she doesn't want to be in public, maybe you could do some simple exercises with her at her home or yours. netflix has the 10 min Solution videos. Or have a meal with her everyday or so to show her what you eat. She might become motivated.

Well it seems like your being a great friend but as most have heard before, "you can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped." You can only do so much for her; be her support & motivator but it totally up to her to put in the work much less decide to change her lifestyle. I would drop subtle hints and if she doesn't pick up on it then just let it go. And when she does complain just be straight with her and be like Ive tried and you know I'm here but if you aren't going to help yourself you need to stop complaining.

Ask her to go to the gym with you as support? I always like going better with a buddy.

As you know weight loss is a personal journey and she has to be willing to take the first step. You have extended yourself and now its up to her . Good luck!
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This.

Thank you! My best friend makes it really hard to be happy for her progress because her attitude is that she's doing X and getting Y result and, therefore, so should I (plus 99% of her FB updates are about how far she ran and how hot she thinks she looks - so she's not helping herself there either). I'm 31, and she's 20 something. I have hypothyroidism, and she has a clean bill of health. I'm almost 6 feet tall, and she's barely 5 feet tall. Our workouts, diets, and progress are not going to be the same - and they shouldn't be.

It's really up to her... If she's not ready you can't force her.
You can only give her information and it's up to her to use it or not.

But what got my but moving when 30 lbs seemed impossible.
A friend got tired of hearing me whine about my weight and said:
"Just lose the first five lbs."
I was ready and that gave me just the push I needed to move.

When at the end of the day I click the "Complete this Entry" button at the bottom of the page and it said "if every day is like to day in 5 weeks you'll weigh XXX lbs." I would think can I do this for 5 more weeks? And once I figured out how to give myself a range the answer was usually yes.

So 5 lbs at a time I got to my goal. When you've got a lot a weight to lose is can get overwhelming. When It comes down to brass tacks I've only got 1 lb to lose... the next one.

Click on the link below and scroll down to my entree tif you/she wants to see the long version of how I started:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/400702-i-want-to-change-my-eating-habit-but-don-t-want-to-feel-like?error_user_id=2131607&error_username=auntiebabs&page=3

Sounds like she's scared. Why don't you start small - ask her to go walking with you. Ask her what you can do to help motivate her. Explain that you're worried about her health. But, only do it once - if you push, she may close up. People need to personally decide they're going to do this- otherwise, no amount of support or motivation on your end is going to work.