I need really good modivation

@lucy others can encourage you, cheer you on, help you with food/exercise questions you might have, and support your change to a healthy lifestyle - but the motivation to do this has to come from inside you. when you decide for yourself that this is something worth paying the price for, it will happen. one day at a time.

First of all you don't do it for someone else, you do it for yourself to feel better, to be healthy. The few times I've lost weight thought it would made me happy and everything was going to change. one another through good and bad. Come on aboard & lets get healthy together!

Your profile SCREAMS a need for perhaps a psychological intervention.... What makes you think your kids dont like the way you look? And who the hell said to you that the only way to help your boyfriend to be happy again is for YOU to be skinny? You really should consider some professional guidance - speaking sincerely here.... If you want to get healthy, be healthy for yourself first! If your boyfriend is putting you in this mental situation of thinking the only way he will be happy is if you are back to your size AU-2 again, TOSS HIM TO THE CURB - NO one is worth keeping around if the situation involves him messing with your mind like this! Because its causing you to think your kids feel the same way.

Youre NOT as bad off as you think, I mean, come on - your body within the past four years grew TWO children... there are people who would LOVE to be in your predicament - from the photos you have on your profile - you dont look like you need to lose 39-something lbs at all!!!

....Your desired AU-size 6 is our USA-size 2. Your current AU-size 8 is our USA-size 12.

how tall are you?

I was like you for a long time, too and found it hard to keep up the momentum. You need to remember that it is hard, especially at first and having a 'bad day' when you eat a lot isn't a reason to give up completely. Just try again the next day.

Also, try to find exercise you enjoy and then it wont feel like a chore. I hate the gym and find it really boring but love going to fitness classes or doing martial arts. I look forward to going to a martial arts class or to a fitness class where there's lots of other people, so I do it regurlarly without dreading it. Try lots of different things to see what you enjoy: running, swimming, the gym, classes, playing football with your friends/boyfriend, fitness DVDs etc. and find out what things work for you.

Good luck!

I think you're in the right space (ie. totally fed up with it!!!!!!) to do it, I know I've felt exactly like you and in the end feeling like that at the beginning was what made me succeed. Trust the good advice - you'll be on 1200 its hard but you can do it everyday, once you get the hang of it, exercise so you can eat more (eat your exercise calories) find some exercise that works for you. Its worth it. And frankly life is better when you are skinnier, for one thing you feel like you have actually achieved something worthwhile Shopping is like way more fun. and your love life will improve. Go for it. 62kgs might sound like not much to bigger people but I can relate, I really look and feel quite terrible when I go over 64kgs and I'm 60 or somehting now, but losing 5 kgs will make a positive difference to your life.
I have found Gillian Michaels dvd's really great, 30 day shred is a good one to start on, its only 20 mins a day and at least if you've got kids you can do it at home. feel free to add me as a friend if you want!
You just need to stick at it long enough (like a week or two ) to find it works and trust that it will work!

Hating yourself is not going to help. You have to love yourself enough to make change. So what, you aren't in the same size you were before having children. If you want to be healthier then do something about it. There is nothing any of us can say to motivate you. YOU have to want the change bad enough to make the change and you have to do it primarily for yourself. Make better choices when eating, exercise (I know that's hard with young ones but you can get moving), drink water and look in that mirror and tell yourself you are already beautiful, but now it's time to get healthy!

You can't look to others for affirmation ... it will be a sad and unfulfilled journey. If you want to get more healthy, great ... but you are clearly seeing yourself as you perceive others see you ...

Do this ... for you!

Look in the mirror, smile, and start each day. Life is a gift!

I think you are being WAY too hard on your weight ... BUT ... if "you" want to get healthier and lose more weight and be strong, that's great ... but again, don't do it for others ... please don't do it for others ... you are a unique masterpiece already, just enjoy that ... and the more you enjoy yourself, and just being you, it will spark that motivation for being healthy ... it's not about a number, it's about being happy that your taking care of yourself ...

for you ... did I say that already?

~Matt

You can do it if you put your mind to it. I myself haven't started eating right yet I know I should its just really hard. I eat what I want but I stay under my 1200 calorie limit and work out at least 30 mins a day. The first week I did that I lost 3.5 pounds so its not impossible to lose weight if you don't change how you eat you just need to watch your portions.

Once you set your mind to it just do it and don't look back. Its hard as hell believe me I know. What I did was I set a date to start got up that morning and thought about doing it the next week cause I just wasn't in the mood to eat less or workout. A few mins later I took my pj's off to get dressed for the day and passed by our full lenght mirror and said screw this I'm done looking like this and I started that day. I have a 2 year old that is up my butt all the time so its hard but I know I can do it and SO CAN YOU. :bigsmile: