need some support

anawhatsme · December 2011

i'm not sure why, but for the past couple days, i haven't been staying within my limits as i should.
i wish i knew why because then i could work on it.
i felt so good a few nights ago, then i somehow lost it.

just looking for some support, understanding, advice - anything.

thanks.

moodymarble · December 2011

First you need to post your diary so we can see what you're eating. Then we may be able to give advice.

anawhatsme · December 2011

i am following weight watchers and i have a journal i made in excel to track my points.
some days it's hard enough posting in one food journal - i can't imagine doing it twice.
it's a drag really because i would like to post my food journal here, but it's just not compatible with points.

i can tell you though, my food choices have been poor.
too much junk food.

i know what i am doing wrong, i just don't know why i am doing it.
why was i so pumped and on track a few days ago and now i'm slipping deeper into a hole?
i just don't understand myself sometimes.

FitDC · December 2011

Hi Ana - Try completing your food diary at the beginning of the day (then you can make sure you meet the mark in every category)- print it - stick to it. Drink the recommended water. Walk at least 30 minutes every day or every other day. Presto!

FitDC · December 2011

You can help yourself feel better by walking outside - it's a proven fact to be a mood booster. Listen to some motivational speakers to encourage you and stir you up as you are walking (Zig Ziglar, Joel Osteen, etc) Don't give up - Shake it off. Everyday can be a new beginning! :flowerforyou:

anawhatsme · December 2011

hmmm...so you're suggesting i pre-plan my food intake/meals?
that sounds like an interesting concept.
but what happens if i don't meet what is planned?

i wonder if it will set up to feel like i've failed.
i have deep rooted food issues and i think a lot of this is psychological.

in my mind, if i mess up just a little, i seem to see that as a reason to keep going down the wrong path.
even when i know it's wrong, i still snowball the poor choice.
i know i do it, i just don't know i do it and why i can't get past it.

i also seem to be an all or nothing person when it comes to weight programs.
i'm either doing very well, or very badly.

i really frustrate myself when it comes to this stuff.

moodymarble · December 2011

It really has nothing to do with yourself, persay. Well it does n it doesn't. Old habits are hard to break. It's been said that it takes about 21 days to create a new habit. I noticed today that you hit your 5th day on here. Give yourself time to form new habits. I've found with my journey I'm not depriving myself of anything. If I want something I just allow for it in my calorie goal. I never thought I'd hear myself saying this but since I've started this change I'm actually craving salads and healthier foods. I still struggle with my sodium intake but I no longer add salt. Yay me! You too CAN do this!! I've read on many profiles here this quote "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels!" It's stuck with me. Maybe you need to find a mantra that sticks with you. When you're overindulging or eating too much junk think of the mantra. It can't hurt right? Anyways, good luck on your continued journey!!!! Always remember 2 things: 1. Tomorrow is a new day!
2. You CAN do this!!!! :flowerforyou:

anawhatsme · December 2011

You can help yourself feel better by walking outside - it's a proven fact to be a mood booster. Listen to some motivational speakers to encourage you and stir you up as you are walking (Zig Ziglar, Joel Osteen, etc) Don't give up - Shake it off. Everyday can be a new beginning! :flowerforyou:

i have been more active lately.
i actually feel unhappy if i miss my walk.

funny you mention motivational speakers.
my mantra lately has been 'no excuses', and i heard that from wayne dyer.

thanks for your message.
i appreciate your support.

anawhatsme · December 2011

It really has nothing to do with yourself, persay. Well it does n it doesn't. Old habits are hard to break. It's been said that it takes about 21 days to create a new habit. I noticed today that you hit your 5th day on here. Give yourself time to form new habits. I've found with my journey I'm not depriving myself of anything. If I want something I just allow for it in my calorie goal. I never thought I'd hear myself saying this but since I've started this change I'm actually craving salads and healthier foods. I still struggle with my sodium intake but I no longer add salt. Yay me! You too CAN do this!! I've read on many profiles here this quote "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels!" It's stuck with me. Maybe you need to find a mantra that sticks with you. When you're overindulging or eating too much junk think of the mantra. It can't hurt right? Anyways, good luck on your continued journey!!!! Always remember 2 things: 1. Tomorrow is a new day!
2. You CAN do this!!!! :flowerforyou:

thank you!
i agree that you shouldn't deprive yourself.
that's why i have always loved weight watchers, because it's a program that doesn't leave me feeling deprived.
BUT...
i have been wondering if maybe i SHOULD be depriving myself of foods i tend to go overboard on.
i really think i have an addiction with food.
and a recovering alcoholic can't make room in their day, or week, for one beer.
know what i mean?

at the same time, i know what i'm like.
if i do deprive myself of something i love to eat, i will eventually have it and i will sooooo binge on it.
i hate that food has such a hold on me.

gailashton · December 2011

It's not about skinny.... it's about being healthy, happy and feeling better about your person . Eventually this new way of living becomes a habit too just like the bad ones did. If I can do this anyone can do it one day at a time, one step at a time..... Just Do It! Have faith in yourself. Love yourself!

anniewinter · December 2011

hmmm...so you're suggesting i pre-plan my food intake/meals?
that sounds like an interesting concept.
but what happens if i don't meet what is planned?

i wonder if it will set up to feel like i've failed.
i have deep rooted food issues and i think a lot of this is psychological.

in my mind, if i mess up just a little, i seem to see that as a reason to keep going down the wrong path.
even when i know it's wrong, i still snowball the poor choice.
i know i do it, i just don't know i do it and why i can't get past it.

i also seem to be an all or nothing person when it comes to weight programs.
i'm either doing very well, or very badly.

i really frustrate myself when it comes to this stuff.

Then you just delete what you haven't eaten for that day I am on Lite N easy diet, and go to Community College from 9-3.30..5 days a week, just the night before put what you think you are going to eat and if you eat more or less just change the things you have/haven't eaten. Also keeping a handwriten food diary will help as well if your to busy to be on MFP 24/7 then you just put it all in before you go to bed from the diary you've been logging all day. If you want some help or support you can always add me..

xx Annie

anawhatsme · December 2011

i agree it's not about being skinny.
my main concern is being healthy.
i want to be in shape, i want to be fit, i want to be able to play hard with my kids.

a slim body is just bonus to me.

moodymarble · December 2011

If you do deprive yourself do you not find yourself eating all sorts of other things to try and quell the craving? I no I do. So it's a lose/lose situation. Portion out a small portion of what you want and put the rest away. If it's not staring you in the face you're less likely to eat it. Comparing a food addiction to alcoholism is like comparing apples to oranges. You can live without alcohol but you can't live without food. However, you can live with less of it. While investigating weight loss programs and strategies online I came across an e-book title that struck home with me. It's called "Taming the Food Monster". For a lot of us that's exactly what it is, a monster and one that's not always easy to defeat.

anawhatsme · December 2011

thanks annie.
i appreciate your advice.

it wouldn't be so bad for me if i didn't eat everything i pre-planned to eat.
my concern is what if i eat something i didn't plan for.
that is what scares me.

i will try the pre-planned daily menu though.
i like the idea and i have nothing to lose by trying it.

but like i said, i am a bit nervous about what will happen if i mess up.
but i will have to go through it to know.

thanks to all of you for helping me out.

anawhatsme · December 2011

If you do deprive yourself do you not find yourself eating all sorts of other things to try and quell the craving? I no I do. So it's a lose/lose situation. Portion out a small portion of what you want and put the rest away. If it's not staring you in the face you're less likely to eat it. Comparing a food addiction to alcoholism is like comparing apples to oranges. You can live without alcohol but you can't live without food. However, you can live with less of it. While investigating weight loss programs and strategies online I came across an e-book title that struck home with me. It's called "Taming the Food Monster". For a lot of us that's exactly what it is, a monster and one that's not always easy to defeat.

you're right - you can live without alcohol but you can't live without food.
this is one of the things that frustrates me because i can't just stay away from food.
i need food to survive.
if i want to give up alcohol, i can cut it out of my life and avoid it.
i wish i could do that with food.

maybe it's not an addiction, but it sure feels that way.
the food has control over me.
i allow it to have that power.
i am like a slave to it.

and you're right -
if i don't get what i crave, i will eat lots of other things to try to compensate.
i don't want to deprive myself.
i think it's good to indulge now and then.
balance is key.

i just seem to handle it well long term.

cofakid · December 2011

i think we have all felt that way in the beggining. weightloss is not an easy journey, but you CAN do it. just take it one day at a time. My advice is take it slow. I was a chocaholic. I started by limiting myself to one serve of choc a day (instead of 3) then after a few weeks one every second day and now i have it say once a month when i feel like it. its just a matter of sloowly weening urself off things. Take it easy and dont be too hard for yourself. Just remember if you make a small mistake its not the end of the world, just try not to make it into a big mistake...good luck! im sure you will do well

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