Negative People Everywhere

TigersFanIndy34
TigersFanIndy34 Posts: 54
edited October 2024 in Motivation and Support
My first time starting a forum post and I"m scared hee hee - I see a lot of debate over stuff and don't want to do any of that. But I wondered in all seriousness what strategies you all have in dealing with the negative people? I mean those who insist you won't lose weight. If you do lose weight they point out how you've done it wrong, too fast, too slow, it won't last, etc... These people also apply negative attitudes in other ares of life (I'm finding a whole lot of it with the holidays coming - people who are pretty determined to be miserable). Now if they are barely friends I don't give it any thought - I really don't. I struggle more with those in my family and who are suppose to be close friends. So far I try to counteract it with my positive attitude and I'm finding that just ticks them off more (which I admit can be a little fun). Yet after awhile it seems I start to absorb their ick-ness and get in my own funk.

Any tips? Snazzy come backs?

Replies

  • CMmrsfloyd
    CMmrsfloyd Posts: 2,380 Member
    Give them a cookie and continue to rock your awesomeness in spite of their bad attitude.
  • robinogue
    robinogue Posts: 1,117 Member
    for me, my attitude was "you'll see" no one thought I could or would do it! I proved them wrong.. But you can also tell them this is a journey, one that you have to decide to be on and this is your decision and nothing they can say will effort your end result.

    Good luck on your journey!
  • sexysize12
    sexysize12 Posts: 105 Member
    I do my best to ignore them after informing them I'm doing what's best for me per my doctors advice and per what I know is right for me and leave it at that. Some people are truly concerned, but I know what you mean when you say negative people those are the ones who aren't cocerned more like bitter, jealous you name it and i don't have time for that either. Keep up the good and positive journey and do what's right for yo:wink: u.
  • PoochPottery
    PoochPottery Posts: 205
    Give them a cookie and continue to rock your awesomeness in spite of their bad attitude.

    :drinker: :laugh:
  • Kamalka
    Kamalka Posts: 164 Member
    I do not talk about it with anyone...I mean I hardy see how I could go to a friend and tell him/her I eat less chocolate or how I reduce fat (I am a man). To me it would be like telling them how many times I go to toilet actually...not of their business.

    The first time I talk about my food is on MFP and I talk so much about it that I do not want to talk about it anymore
  • TigersFanIndy34
    TigersFanIndy34 Posts: 54
    I do not talk about it with anyone...I mean I hardy see how I could go to a friend and tell him/her I eat less chocolate or how I reduce fat (I am a man). To me it would be like telling them how many times I go to toilet actually...not of their business.

    The first time I talk about my food is on MFP and I talk so much about it that I do not want to talk about it anymore


    I agree too on this, I don't feel comfortable talking about it to be honest - I don't like the scrutiny. It's just now starting to be noticed that I'm losing weight and I'm starting to be asked. I think I need more vague answers. So far I've said crazy stuff like "well, mostly just eating less and exercise". That seems to offend people somehow.
  • TigersFanIndy34
    TigersFanIndy34 Posts: 54
    Give them a cookie and continue to rock your awesomeness in spite of their bad attitude.

    Love it!
  • bear_nakey
    bear_nakey Posts: 340 Member
    If you keep getting grief about it, just tell them you are doing what is best and works for you. Then randomly change the subject. Make something weird too, like you swear you spotted Elvis the other day, etc. It will leave them both confused and oddly inspired. :D
  • Melissaol
    Melissaol Posts: 948 Member
    I have a friend that I talk to about this. She really works out alot. She is really fit. So she helps me with some things . AAlso shes a good friend that sometimes I vent to. She just lissons and dont judge.
  • Scorpioangel
    Scorpioangel Posts: 951 Member
    I always reply to the negative comments with a positive. People are quick to tell me now that I am too thin but when my blood pressure was 171/110 no one told me I was killing my self. Now I am proud to tell them my blood pressure is aweseome, my weight is good and according to my Dr. I am in the best shape of my life! I don't get why people have to be like that but they are - so if you say anything, turn their negative into a positive and keep going strong :)
  • Thea7777
    Thea7777 Posts: 13
    A couple of things... first misery loves company - so I've personally found the more positive I am - well, the people I attract and want to be with are changing. The negative ones are people I just don't want to be around - HOWEVER, if you must be around them - then sometimes it's easier just to "play along". Recently, I've taken holiday cookies, treats and etc and wander off with them - only to hand them over to another person when a good opportunity arrived or even *gasp* throw them away! Or with advice, I just agree ... and then do it my way anyway. Well, unless it's good advice :)
  • autumnridge
    autumnridge Posts: 97 Member
    That is the same group that tries to sabotage your efforts by insisting you try their new dessert, etc. We are better off without negativity!
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    You use alot of words.
  • manjingirl
    manjingirl Posts: 188 Member
    Give them a cookie and continue to rock your awesomeness in spite of their bad attitude.

    You rock Mrs Floyd! I am going to rock my awesomeness for ever more. Love it! This just gave me a mega boost.
  • trishian
    trishian Posts: 1
    i usually just tell ppl that life is way too short to be unhappy in it! on a daily basis!!
  • Kamalka
    Kamalka Posts: 164 Member
    I do not talk about it with anyone...I mean I hardy see how I could go to a friend and tell him/her I eat less chocolate or how I reduce fat (I am a man). To me it would be like telling them how many times I go to toilet actually...not of their business.

    The first time I talk about my food is on MFP and I talk so much about it that I do not want to talk about it anymore


    I agree too on this, I don't feel comfortable talking about it to be honest - I don't like the scrutiny. It's just now starting to be noticed that I'm losing weight and I'm starting to be asked. I think I need more vague answers. So far I've said crazy stuff like "well, mostly just eating less and exercise". That seems to offend people somehow.


    If a friend/colleague tells me "oh you lost weight"...I say "thank you" and smile. It is usually it. If conversation has to come into it, I usually tell the story of how I gained it, like I was a bit stressed, anxious and took bad habits due to work and available junk food but now I am ok.

    Most peope if you tell them about your efforts will go like "waw, amazing, I could not do what you do"...which make it more difficult in the following days to do, and it also forces you to answer to yourself and to others why you do it. So, maybe try to make the story on why you gained weight and now you just go back to normal....but nothing to talk about. By the way, even the story is for very closed people, weight like,color of the skin, religion or women age is quite taboo in western europe
This discussion has been closed.

Categories