IN DESPARATE NEED OF HELP

Look ahead. Small steps. You CAN do this. Keep your food journal. Get moving any way you can. I think about what my brother taught me in golf, when I would take a swing and the ball would move three feet. "Did you move forward? Good job! Good job!" ALL PROGRESS COUNTS, even the internal decision to step back on the journey to health..

Only person who is going to do it, is YOU. YOU have to want it BAD enough! You have to be PISSED enough and TIRED enough of the way things are NOW. So, the question is, are you fed up enough to make the change for life?

You know how it was done before! Just start RIGHT NOW and do it again! Go for a long walk, eat healthy and get started! Go through your cupboard and throw out all the cr*p stuff. Start clean again TODAY!

Sounds all a bit mean but you said yourself you need a good kick . I wish you all the best of luck! Hang in there and it will be worth it in the end! Read through the success stories, this could be you in a couple of months if you turn your life around again!

WOW! When I clicked 'reply' there had been no replies yet. When I clicked 'Post Reply' there were already 5 people who are trying to encourage you! This is such a great website. Add all the motivators as friend and come here everyday to log what you are doing and before you know it you will be back on track!

Just give up!!! What? That's not an option! Good, that's what I wanted to hear. It's not an option! Giving up is for the week. They have all kinds of built in excuses. You have NO excuses. You dropped a bunch of weight once and you know what to do. You can feel as bad as you want about gaining it all back. (at least you didn't wait until you gained it all back and more) or you can learn from it. You can't change what has happened...it happened and it's now OVER. Forget it and start back right now. Not tomorrow, not Monday, not the new year...right now. Don't let anything or anyone get in your way. You are a focused person cuz your health and happiness depends on it. Get busy. Put together a solid plan and follow it. You are going to get up every day, you're going to eat everyday. Make every meal a battle and win more battles than you lose. You can so do it. We are all here to help. Just ask us and we will do everything we can to keep you focused and motivated.

Now go get that *kitten* you want! Yeah!!!

You can do this!!! Just take it one day at a time. Do not hold the past against yourself and continue to punish yourself with eating more and gaining more. The first step in making a change is changing your choices today. If a 1000 calorie deficit is too hard of a goal to meet at first, then start with small goals - try to lose one pound per week instead of two. If you mess up one day, it is no big deal, you just wake up the next day and do better. It is when we have day after day of "bad" days that gets us in trouble.

I just want to add that I know EXACTLY how you are feeling. I don't know if you recall, but I have stated before that I have been down this path before. I lost 88 pounds in 2005...in 2007 I gained it ALL back plus a couple of more. Then I "dieted" my way up the scale another 35 pounds (basically dieted, lost 5ish pounds, binged, gained 10, wash, rinse, repeat). I know what it feels like to accomplish so much and then to let it slip away, only I did it on a much larger scale. My road is longer this time around, but in the end, I will be better for it. I have lost 64 pounds out of 125 so far. Sometimes I have bad days, but they are WAY outweighed by the good days, which is steadily taking off the weight.

Again, YOU CAN DO THIS!!! Feel free to message me if you need additional support. :flowerforyou:

I felt the same... knew what I needed to do, knew something needed to be done, but didn't know where to start!

So I started at the beginning... logging what I was already eating.

Then I started realizing what I was already eating was insane, so it made me want to go to the grocery store.

It took a week of experimenting to find a food plan that worked out for me and was cheap enough.

Then I did it.

Then I fell off the bandwagon for 2 days.

Then I did it again!

Just start SOMEWHERE! And start NOW! We have your back!!

You already know what worked for you so..............
mystery solved? Get going already.

First, stop beating yourself up. That is what is going to keep you where you are. You slipped up, now move on. This is a long term forever change. You will not be perfect everyday. Start now doing the best you can today. If you don't do as well as you'd like tomorrow is another chance. You can do this one day at a time!! Good luck. If I can lose 40 pounds and maintain now for 6 months and counting you can do it too!!

If you have lost your mojo my friend, I do not have your's. But my friend you can have some of mine!! I have plenty and you are welcome to it. You have this my friend. You all have been my friends since the day I started here at MFP. My friend you have shared your mojo with me on numerous occasions. You have picked me up when I have fallen. Whispered in my ear words of encouragement. And when all else failed kicked me square in the *kitten*. For this my MFP community I will be thankful for an eternity. So my friend if you have lost your mojo please , please take some of mine,. I have plenty just take it and run with it, use it and pass it on when you have found yours

My friend if you need some mojo please take some of mine I have plenty to share. If you need a friend go ahaed and send a request. If not I wish you nothing but success in your restart here on MFP.

Girl you can get this done!!!!!

Don

you just gotta start over. Nothing for it. Going off the deep end won't fix anything ... unless it's a really hot day. EVERYBODY has good days & bad days... ok, bad months.
Just gotta get back on the horse. It's a LIFE journey- a learning experience.

Don't stress- worry about it after New Years- I'm SURE there will be plenty of challenge groups after the holiday. I'll do the 30 day shred in February, April & June if you want to join me. I do it every month that has 30 days (and Feb) these are coincidentally also pre-swimsuit & pre-holiday months so it works out well

Merry Christmas!

Don't live in the past. What happened, happened. Today is the first day of the rest of your life! Just do it! You know you can! And we're all here to help you!

You can do this, but it has to be a lifestyle change. It's not a diet, it's not about deprivation. It's about sensible choices, exercise and all the support you get here. It's about holding yourself accountable for every day and everything. Last year I lost 50 pounds, gained it all back and then some. So far this year i've lost 77 pounds and have another 15 to 20 before my goal. If I can do it, anyone can do it. This time I am determined that I am not going to go up again. If you stop doing what works of course it's going to come back. You have to find the strength within you to get past whatever it is that makes you go back to that place. Getting to a healthy weight will do wonders for your body and your brain. I never imaged 8 months ago that I could feel this good, this energetic and this healthy! Pound by pound, day by day, we can all do this, be strong and be healthy! Now get on with this girl, this is your time to do it once and for all! Lets do it together......

^^^ This

Have so been there! I had gained about 50 pounds during my early 20s and then lost 60 and maintained for about 3 years. Over the last 13 years, I gained 110 pounds and have yoyo'd for years! If someone would have told me that I would have ever weighed as much I did - no way would that have ever happened. Granted, back then, I had no children, I worked out 1-2 hours daily - used to run 5+ miles and lift, was on a golf league, had a sales job where I was moving all the time. Then life stepped in and I let it all go. Moved out of state - got a desk job - got in a funk - gained 50, had a pretty tramatic childbirth and could not work out for over 2 years - gained another 40, second child years later - gained another 20. Fact is - I did this to myself. Everyone has hardships, everyone has parties, holidays, etc. For years now, I have been full of excuses as to why I just couldn't do this. The one thing I learned - maintenance is just as much work - if not harder - than losing it. I am realistic in my weight loss goals now as my life does not allow for a 2 hour work out during a day, but I am committed to getting healthy and staying healthy. No looking back! This site is so great - I continually read the message boards for motivation. You have been successful once - you know you can do it again. Remember - If hunger is not the problem - food is not the solution. Also, it IS hard - but is so, so worth it and you know it!! We are all here for you!

One blog that I read really made me think about my journey and how this is for life - not just until that number I want appears. Check it out - http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/diaryoffatdad/view/why-i-will-not-win-my-battle-with-obesity-176411

His words were moving! Great read!