Getting over it

I am so very sorry for your loss. You are so young to be without a parent so soon in your life. In all honesty, losing a parent is hard no matter how old you are, but it has different repercussions at different stages in your life. I know when I lost my mom when I was 40 I felt like a major weight bearing pillar of my life had collapsed. Ever since I've been afraid of losing my dad and having no sense of their securing presence in my life.

I can only imagine the emotional toll this has had on your endeavors to lose weight. Plus you have holidays and young children to put a holiday season together for. I think you deserve to be kind and forgiving to yourself. Don't beat yourself up. Remember to give yourself intentional love and hugs everyday. This love does not have to be food, but if you do eat something you felt you shouldn't have forgive yourself and move on, give yourself big smiles and love when you make good choices.

again, my condolences!

My condolences.


My advice would be - give yourself a break. You'll get back on the wagon at some point, but this is a stressful time of year, made even more stressful at the moment. Don't worry about it.

What I would suggest though is, keep tracking. Don't worry about exercising unless you feel like it, and don't worry about how many calories you're eating - just track them anyway. You ate a whole tray of Christmas cookies? No problem, no big deal, don't berate yourself - just track them and move on.

At some point, you'll feel like sticking closer to your goals again, and if you haven't gotten out of the habit of tracking, then it will be easier to get back on the horse.