Cardio kick boxing...I hate being the fat girl....argh
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Ok - so I did my first cardio kick boxing class last night at the gym...and it was great. There were about 9 ladies in there with me...and I was the biggest one by far....probably at least 30lbs heavier than anyone.
So, I can look at this 2 ways:
1. motivation
2. defeat
I'm trying to look at it as my motivator to move forward, but I just felt disgusted when I was in there working out...yes it felt great, but with the mirrors all over, I just went "ewwww".
Maybe it was the mirrors, maybe it was in my head, maybe I just need to forget about it...and keep going, work it all off. I was just humiliated or grossed out that I was so big....blah.
I'm 5'8" and about 200...but it looked a lot worse than that last night. Just wanted to "rant" - thanks!
So, I can look at this 2 ways:
1. motivation
2. defeat
I'm trying to look at it as my motivator to move forward, but I just felt disgusted when I was in there working out...yes it felt great, but with the mirrors all over, I just went "ewwww".
Maybe it was the mirrors, maybe it was in my head, maybe I just need to forget about it...and keep going, work it all off. I was just humiliated or grossed out that I was so big....blah.
I'm 5'8" and about 200...but it looked a lot worse than that last night. Just wanted to "rant" - thanks!
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I'm so sorry you felt that way. I don't participate in group workout classes yet, but I think all the mirrors would make most people feel more self-conscious then they normally are. Try and focus on how you felt after you completed the class and try not to worry about being the bigger one in class.
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I'm looking to join a cardio kickboxing class as well but having trouble with types of gloves, mind if I ask what kind you have?
Also, iv been in many group fitness classes and honestly people don't care how big you are in the class, only if you are friendly and willing to do everything they do. Or at least try. So have fun and get strong!0 -
I got some Everlast from WalMart - they are fine...my gym has a bunch that folks can use if they don't have their own.
Yeah, I am friendly and I'm sure none of them even noticed or cared...I did though...blah!!! Just made me feel gross for being as big as I am...and yes the mirrors don't help!!!
Back to cardio tonight!!!!0 -
definitely look passed it because the mirrors are there for you to check your form not for u to be looking at your problem areas silly.... it will definitely get better..... trust me0
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I almost never look at myself in the mirror. And for the record, I take kickboxing with weight gloves thta I bought on ebay or amazon, I forget which.
Anyway - as far as being "fat" - I know thta the gym is mostly full of thin, fit people. the thing is that it's heatlhy for everyone to exercise. Everyone's heart and muscles need to be exercised. You shouldn't feel bad.0 -
Keep in mind that a lot of people in class were probably bigger at one point, too. Use it as motivation. You should feel great that you are there and don't let the reflection in the mirror discourage you, but encourage you. After all, isn't getting healthier, more fit and losing weight the reason you are there? Like anything in life...there will always be someone heavier - or thinner....with more money - or less....a bigger house - or smaller..goes on and on 0
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Girly... I suffered from that same thing. I hated going to the gym because I was a fat behemoth and even the skinny little fabio-guys were putting up a lot more weight than I could do, and I was ashamed.
However... realize that most people are not going to think badly about you out there being active doing something about it. And in fact some will admire you for it and even some will draw inspiration from it.
And in a few months you will find that you are not the fat girl anymore.
Kick boxing is awesome by the way. I have a bag at home and have been doing some mma routines. They do wonders.
Keep it up. Don't give in.0 -
I'm the biggest girl at my Zumba class as well and it makes me sad but it also makes me work harder when I'm there!0
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I went to boxercise the other day. I was the fattest there, had no partner and nearly collapsed many times. Oh the shame. Don't care though, I will be right back there in the new year!0
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***If you keep it up, you can then say " i used to feel like the fat girl, now I am the fit girl with rock hard abs"
Everyone has to start somewhere!!!0 -
Fitness classes, no matter what type, always have such a variety of people at different levels of fitness, different body sizes, shapes etc. There will always be those shallow people to make comments to their friends, but I'm willing to bet most of those people are thinking "good for you", because you're doing something which puts you ahead of the majority of our population who do nothing at all. Don't let your self image ruin a good thing.0
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Realize that most people are not going to think badly about you out there being active doing something about it. And in fact some will admire you for it and even some will draw inspiration from it.
Keep it up. Don't give in.
So true!! I've FREAKIN LOVE LOVE LOVE KICKBOXING and have been doing classes for months now... I know the feeling you mention about looking in the mirror... that is a real hurdle that we all have to deal with at one point or another. I'm finally at the point when I look at myself that I am damn PROUD of what I am doing. I push myself to sweat BUCKETS and when I do look up and at the mirror I want to see a FIGHTER staring back It's mind over matter! I promise! Learn to love that reflection and she will make you proud!! 
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Thanks everyone!!! I am more motivated...I will go to that damn class each week until I'm healthier...
Zumba is next...I'm there though!!!!
Thanks for the motivation!0 -
I feel your pain!
I am the biggest person in the class I attend. I am always the last person when we do a line up and cross the room as part of the routine (jab, cross, jab, kick).... also - when we do the squats and lunges across the room. Bleh.
Hate it - BUT - I noticed today that my resting heart rate is getting lower. I just keep reminding myself that I am doing GOOD things for my health and MOST people in that class are not looking at me thinking 'look at the fat girl' they are thinking 'WOW - she is doing it'! I would wager that many of them are impressed my big *kitten* can keep up through the whole class even if I am the last one across the room!! :laugh:0 -
Just remember that you are there for yourself and no one else. Keep going and you will quickly become NOT the fat girl. 0
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Keep up the kickiboxing! It becomes addictive. I have been doing it for 10 months now and can't stand off days.
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it IS intimidating, and i remember saying "eww" to myself, but one day, you wont be the biggest one ( or however you put it ) and you will thank yourself..best of luck to you..keep at it :drinker:0
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Girly... I suffered from that same thing. I hated going to the gym because I was a fat behemoth and even the skinny little fabio-guys were putting up a lot more weight than I could do, and I was ashamed.
However... realize that most people are not going to think badly about you out there being active doing something about it. And in fact some will admire you for it and even some will draw inspiration from it.
And in a few months you will find that you are not the fat girl anymore.
Kick boxing is awesome by the way. I have a bag at home and have been doing some mma routines. They do wonders.
Keep it up. Don't give in.
My thoughts exactly. Most people are just as self-conscious about themselves and aren't looking at you. The point is that you are out there taking steps toward better health. There are a lot of other people out there sitting on the couch, so you are already ahead!0 -
It is motivation I think! Be sexier then them... thinner then them or atleast better looking! And if it really bothers your or makes you uncomfortable Do at home cardio kick boxing (I do) and then when you feel confident enough join GO BACK TO THE GYM AND RE JOIN THE CLASS 0
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I was the fat one when I started my cardio kickboxing class 5 months ago. I was ashamed at how I did, but I was too ashamed to NOT go back. Paranoia of people saying I couldn't handle it, ect. I have now done it 3 times a week for 5 months. I am one of the fit people in the class now, AND started instructing classes there a couple months ago.
Now that the studio has grown, we have several big girls in kickboxing (which is by far the most difficult class there. It's brutal!) 2 of them over 300 pounds. And they come all the time. And I know from experience that if they stick with it and watch their eating, they will shed that weight. There are many people at the studio that are shrinking! It's an amazing thing to witness and be a part of and I love it!
I can honestly say that kickboxing class is what got me addicted to exercise. Just like most things, you can take it at your own pace. After the first three classes, you'll really start to get better form. Then your endurance starts to build and you start to work harder. The class never gets easy, but that is what makes it such a great class!
Also, when I started I stayed in the back and avoided eye contact with the mirror lol. Now I'm usually in the front, and I like watching myself in the mirror because it helps me improve my form. We also use weighted gloves.0 -
Food for thought - Consider it an opportunity for self-empowerment and internal growth, as well as the obvious physical workout. Keep going, keep your head up, and keep rocking it as hard as you can. It can strengthen your confidence and empower your will to continue on your quest for better health with stronger determination. It's not easy, but it'll be worth it. 0
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Good for you! I need to be motivated like you are.0
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Being an instructor.........................that's why people come to class! They start fat and get leaner. Practically everyone that started with me started that way. Don't be too hard on yourself.Ok - so I did my first cardio kick boxing class last night at the gym...and it was great. There were about 9 ladies in there with me...and I was the biggest one by far....probably at least 30lbs heavier than anyone.
So, I can look at this 2 ways:
1. motivation
2. defeat
I'm trying to look at it as my motivator to move forward, but I just felt disgusted when I was in there working out...yes it felt great, but with the mirrors all over, I just went "ewwww".
Maybe it was the mirrors, maybe it was in my head, maybe I just need to forget about it...and keep going, work it all off. I was just humiliated or grossed out that I was so big....blah.
I'm 5'8" and about 200...but it looked a lot worse than that last night. Just wanted to "rant" - thanks!
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You should never feel bad about getting to be a healthier you!! Don't feel defeated because for all you know, any of those 9 ladies could have been at your spot at a point in time. Eventually you will be right where you want to be and have no problem walking in anywhere!! It's crazy how anyone can get stared at in public by other for being 'big' and also get stared at in a gym for being 'big'.Your in a gym DOING something about it so people should congradulate not make u feel bad! Keep doing those classes it sounds fun and maybe get to know some of the girls,i bet you will feel much better. In time,you will look in those mirrors and be like 'damni look good!!' haha0
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DO NOT let it defeat you! I've been bigger BY FAR than most of the ladies in my water aerobics class. However, after a few months I can kick all their A$$es in the pool. I used to go many years ago to a high impact land aerobics class. We'd get some ladies complaining about one of the instructors because she was larger. Let me tell you, she could kick all our A$$es and used 3 levels of the stepper. She'd lost a bunch of weight and was still going at it, but she was FIT! I bet those ladies in your class are silently rooting you on and commending you for coming. I know I would as would the supportive ladies at my gym. GO GET 'EM GIRL!0
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There will always be those shallow people to make comments to their friends, but I'm willing to bet most of those people are thinking "good for you", because you're doing something which puts you ahead of the majority of our population who do nothing at all. Don't let your self image ruin a good thing.
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I WAS the fat girl in the classes six years ago (185 lbs & 5'4"). I'm so glad I stuck with it, though, because I can honestly say I am typically one of the fittest ladies there now (135 lbs and lots of muscle). When I see someone who has a little to lose, I don't judge, I'm simply THRILLED to see them there and that they're making that step toward healthiness.
Hang in there! Like one of your previous posters stated - Most were probably heavier at one point, too!0 -
If you stick with it, you won't be saying "ewwww," you'll be saying "yeeeeah!"0
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Keep in mind that a lot of people in class were probably bigger at one point, too. Use it as motivation. You should feel great that you are there and don't let the reflection in the mirror discourage you, but encourage you. After all, isn't getting healthier, more fit and losing weight the reason you are there? Like anything in life...there will always be someone heavier - or thinner....with more money - or less....a bigger house - or smaller..goes on and on
^^^^^^THIS!! Couldn't have said it any better!! I was one of the heavier ones when I started my kickboxing class 8 months ago. I stood in the back and didn't want to even see myself in the mirror, but now I am one of the veterans that stands in front and I am someone that the newbies look up too when it comes to form and motivation. Hang in there!! You will get there too!!0 -
I am 5 7 & 245lbs.. I could go & u wouldn't feel bad.. ;-) Hope u smiled!!
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