Does anyone else HATE hearing this??

emmab0902
emmab0902 Posts: 2,338 Member
edited October 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
"You are looking well"

Is it just me or do others automatically think omg they think I have gained weight???!!!!

I guess having previously been underweight and then got back to health, hearing it then has meant that when I hear it now I associate it with weight gain!

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  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    Well, it would make me wonder if I looked sick before.
  • adjones5
    adjones5 Posts: 938 Member
    In situations like that I usually think, "oh, he/she must think I am looking well."
  • Natashaa1991
    Natashaa1991 Posts: 866 Member
    my grandma says, "you look so FRESH!" o.O
  • Allison128
    Allison128 Posts: 116 Member
    I know people say that stuff to be nice and as a compliment....I'll give them that....they are trying to be nice... However, I hate when people say "OMG!!!!!!!! You've lost a TON of weight!!!". Thanks... actually a TON is a 1000lbs..... I've lost 20lb. Thanks
  • kitkat9138
    kitkat9138 Posts: 31
    My dad hadn't seen me in a few weeks and he told me I looked healthy. As in - you've gained a few , lol. Wasn't to happy about that one!
  • melodys_attic
    melodys_attic Posts: 114 Member
    I hear ya on that one. I've lost 20 and the way people act I've gone from HUGE to skinny... Then they start with , "but you're fine now, you don't need to lose any more." I wish people would just let each other be. I admit I like the way losing weight makes me look, but I'm also in it for the sake of easing the burden on my joints, reducing my risk of diabetes and all that jazz. Plus... I'm a bit older and some bits don't actually look that great deflated LOL. So yeah... hush everyone...
  • 12skipafew99100
    12skipafew99100 Posts: 1,669 Member
    I know people say that stuff to be nice and as a compliment....I'll give them that....they are trying to be nice... However, I hate when people say "OMG!!!!!!!! You've lost a TON of weight!!!". Thanks... actually a TON is a 1000lbs..... I've lost 20lb. Thanks

    A ton is 2,000 pounds but half a ton is still insulting.:grumble:
  • 65PONY
    65PONY Posts: 68 Member
    Has not happend to me...but I can see where it might annoy some
  • chevy88grl
    chevy88grl Posts: 3,937 Member
    I've had people say this to me and I stop and wonder "Did I look sickly before?" or I'll wonder if they're just being friendly and really do think I look well.

    I don't know. I've given up trying to figure out what people mean when they say certain things.
  • allie7383
    allie7383 Posts: 865 Member
    i've gotten the whole, "wow you've lost sooo much weight" thing at work on several occasions.. While I've lost a decent amount, I also haven't gone from one extreme to the next. People will say, oh you look so great now, you look so pretty, etc.. and all it makes me think is, ok I know I was overweight, but apparently I looked a lot more horrible than I thought.. thanks!
  • Debbe2
    Debbe2 Posts: 2,071 Member
    "You are looking well"

    Is it just me or do others automatically think omg they think I have gained weight???!!!!

    I guess having previously been underweight and then got back to health, hearing it then has meant that when I hear it now I associate it with weight gain!

    I can understand your concern if they say "you've put on some weight " or "wow, look at you" but I think you can relax with "you are looking well" and say thanks! They probably mean just that, " you are looking well". :wink:
  • cheeksv
    cheeksv Posts: 521 Member
    " you are looking healthy" is my favorite! Was I at death door the last you saw me?
  • 1a1a
    1a1a Posts: 761 Member
    With my weight being on a downward trajectory, I love hearing "you are looking well", I take it as polite speak for "you've lost weight" :-D
  • debussyschild
    debussyschild Posts: 804 Member
    Well, it would make me wonder if I looked sick before.

    Yeah, my thoughts exactly. When was I UNwell??
  • HonkyTonks
    HonkyTonks Posts: 1,193 Member
    I always see this as another way of saying you've lost weight
  • Cold_Steel
    Cold_Steel Posts: 897 Member
    Take a deep breath. It is a compliment. If you cannot take criticism or a compliment we all have a problem here.
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