How has your dating life changed?!

jeninabilan
jeninabilan Posts: 369 Member
edited October 2024 in Chit-Chat
I lost 27 pounds and still have quite a ways to go, but it seems like I'm definitely attracting more fit guys recently, which quite honestly makes me more insecure! lol

I know I should be more confident about my body in the dating scene since I've lost weight, but for some reason I'm just super insecure about it..

I have a boyfriend now and he is super fit.. great motivation to work harder and keep up with him.. anyone else face this too?

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  • Scott613
    Scott613 Posts: 2,317 Member
    Yep I gotta beat women off with a stick.
  • Puffins1958
    Puffins1958 Posts: 614 Member
    Yep I gotta beat women off with a stick.
    I feel the same way, BUT, with me....it's the men!!!! LOVE your sarcasm :tongue:
  • BeautyFromPain
    BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
    I have heaps of guys all over me, like none before...
    Also, because I have more confidence and believe in myself now (I never did before) that means that I only want the best for me, I will not go out with just anyone..
    And I want someone else who is working towards being healthy
  • PetitePerfection
    PetitePerfection Posts: 199 Member
    definitely!! since I've gained some weight and muscle (was anorexic) guys have been all over me! But i don't even know what to think about it because I've never had that kind of attention before, but it's nice. kinda reassuring I guess?? But I catch a lot of guys staring at my *kitten* lol!! since this past summer, I've become much more confident in myself, I think partially due to the fact that I am now, dare I say it, *sexually desirable* lol, but then the confidence makes me more open to people too. all good, but I get what you mean that it also makes you more insecure, because now people are looking and you feel more scrutinized than before
  • Aviendha_RJ
    Aviendha_RJ Posts: 600 Member
    OMG - my BF is SOOO unbelieveably hot. He's a Cop, & spends a LOT of time in the gym. He's totally gorgeous! Not an ounce of fat on him, & he's really into the healthy lifestyle. It makes me nervous because he says that fat chicks turn him off, but I still feel like a fat chick. I've been sick the past little while & stopped working out, & I think I've put a *few* pounds back on, & that scares me because he's so wonderful to me, & I'm so in love with him, I don't want him to be unattracted to me.

    It's a REAL motivator to stay fit, let me tell you!
  • jeninabilan
    jeninabilan Posts: 369 Member
    OMG - my BF is SOOO unbelieveably hot. He's a Cop, & spends a LOT of time in the gym. He's totally gorgeous! Not an ounce of fat on him, & he's really into the healthy lifestyle. It makes me nervous because he says that fat chicks turn him off, but I still feel like a fat chick. I've been sick the past little while & stopped working out, & I think I've put a *few* pounds back on, & that scares me because he's so wonderful to me, & I'm so in love with him, I don't want him to be unattracted to me.

    It's a REAL motivator to stay fit, let me tell you!

    This is EXACTLY how I feel.. lol

    I've always been really confident, but I almost feel like the more weight I lose, the more confidence I'm losing.. is that crazy?! lol I know my bf says he likes me for me no matter what, but he likes to cook a lot of yummy food.. it's like seriously? How can he eat and drink that and look that fantastic? lol
  • Nitachi
    Nitachi Posts: 142
    OMG - my BF is SOOO unbelieveably hot. He's a Cop, & spends a LOT of time in the gym. He's totally gorgeous! Not an ounce of fat on him, & he's really into the healthy lifestyle. It makes me nervous because he says that fat chicks turn him off, but I still feel like a fat chick. I've been sick the past little while & stopped working out, & I think I've put a *few* pounds back on, & that scares me because he's so wonderful to me, & I'm so in love with him, I don't want him to be unattracted to me.

    It's a REAL motivator to stay fit, let me tell you!

    How are you going to handle a pregnancy?
  • dalgirly
    dalgirly Posts: 280 Member
    Like said above, often confidence goes when weight is shed --- which is sad!

    I find myself sometimes being like well I'm not good enough for my bf, and then I have to remind myself that I'm being an idiot! I've lost 40 lbs since in the last 4 years, but I guess when someone can touch where you are flabby its a little bit of a confidence killer. Before I was bigger but I wasn't dating and so I could just hide lots with clothes!

    Although, my dating life never really changed, lol. It was always terrible!
  • jeninabilan
    jeninabilan Posts: 369 Member
    Like said above, often confidence goes when weight is shed --- which is sad!

    I find myself sometimes being like well I'm not good enough for my bf, and then I have to remind myself that I'm being an idiot! I've lost 40 lbs since in the last 4 years, but I guess when someone can touch where you are flabby its a little bit of a confidence killer. Before I was bigger but I wasn't dating and so I could just hide lots with clothes!

    Although, my dating life never really changed, lol. It was always terrible!

    Exactly.. When I wasn't dating someone, it was easier to hide behind clothes, but there's something about being vulnerable and completely revealed to someone. And even on a mental and emotional level, when you really let someone in, all of your insecurities and weaknesses seem to pop up..
  • COOKINATOR
    COOKINATOR Posts: 94 Member
    Its not really changed for me Im still single lol
  • Bahet
    Bahet Posts: 1,254 Member
    I haven't been on a date in 20 years. My husband won't let me. He's such a stick in the mud. :laugh:
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    I switched hands. :ohwell:
  • Scott613
    Scott613 Posts: 2,317 Member
    I switched hands. :ohwell:
    Doesn't the other one get jealous?
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    I switched hands. :ohwell:
    Doesn't the other one get jealous?

    I just give it a beer to hold.
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