Please help, I weigh 260 lbs. and want to get pregnant, plea

Have you been tested for PCOS? talk to your PCP and OB/GYN, they can help you lose weight, which will help tremendously and also if you have a health condition like PCOS, (which I also have, and I have a baby who is about to turn 1 in 9 days) there is medicine they can prescribe you to assist you in getting pregnant! You most definitely need to find out WHY you haven't gotten pregnant yet and than you and the doctors can focus on getting you pregnant!

I highly recommend a lot of the advice here. Talk to your dr (or OBGYN). Continue to work hard at losing weight but also go NPNT (no more birth control just letting nature do its thing). You can have a baby at 29 (and being 260). women do it all the time. You can do it that heavy and still have no complications!

If you truely want to have a family, dont let your weight stop you. BUT dont let that be a reason you arent continuing to do your weightloss/getting healthy.

My story: I lost 50lbs here in 2010. I found out at the end of the year that I was pregnant (after being told that having a baby would be difficult). I had midwife after midwife tell me I was likely going to have gestational diabetes (never developed it). While pregnant, I worked out as best I could and watched what I ate as best I could. I was 196 when I got pregnant, I gave birth around 226. I was back to 196 at 3 months post baby! I even did a 1/2 marathon (my first) at 27 weeks pregnant.

You can do it!

i had my daugher a month before my 31st birthday and i was 270lbs when i got pregant lucky for me i didnt gain much weight during my pregnancy but the last two months was very difficult for me to move around. im now 30lb heaver not only did i not lose teh 8lbs i gained, i gained more due to me a new mom and eating my stress away. Trust me lose the weight before you get pregnant.

Yes, you can have a healthy baby if you are diabetic and overweight. I did but it wasn't a fun journey. I also had to visit the dr. every week and get lots of tests since I was high risk. I was a nervous wreck until the HBA1c test came back under 5 which meant my sugars were good 2 months prior to my conception and 1 month into it. If sugars are high, then the risk of the baby not forming properly or having other issues is higher. Once my son was born, he had to be in NICU for 2 days so they could regulate his blood sugar. I guess when babies are born to a diabetic, some may have a hard time regulating thier own sugars the first few days. So they had to poke his poor little heal every hour for 2 days. It was all black and I just felt terrible! Anyway, I know how it feels to long for a child. Just try to look at the bigger picture- the health of you and your future baby. I recommend losing some more weight first and keeping a really close eye on your blood sugar for at least a few months prior to conceiving. I wish you all the best on your path to getting healthy and starting a family!

By the way, he was totally fine after those first couple of days.

It is not immpossible to have a baby at th weight. I got pregnant with my daughter at 250lbs. However, I was not diabetic and didn't develop GD. I was very very lucky. I had to return to the dr several times to have my sugar tested and it was so much aggravation. I ended up having a c-section. I'll never know completely for sure but could have been because of my weight. It was an emergency c-section after almost 24 hours of labor and the recovery was something I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy. I wasn't able to care for my own baby the way I had thought about and planned to take care of her. I literally didn't change her first diaper until she was almost 1 week old because I couldn't lean over. The pain was too much. My advice would be to loose a little more weight. If its type 2 diabetes get it under control first if possible then attempt for the baby. The pregnancy would be much more comfortable and relaxed. My mother was 32 when she had my brother with no complications. 29 is not old or too old to have a baby! Good Luck!

Congrats on the loss so far. I was 267 when I started my fitness journey for the same reason. I'm also 29 and about to get married. I want to start a family with the person I love. It is pretty compelling motivation. From my experience these are my thoughts:

You are not alone. Please don't feel alone in this.

Whatever you have been doing to lose weight so far has worked for you and you have an opportunity to refine your strategy. This is a great place to do that. Find your fitness stride. Find your nutrition stride. Find some support.

See your doc for a physical. Be clear about your goals. He/She will understand what you are trying to achieve and will respect the steps you have already taken to reach your goal. If you don't feel respected, find a new doc! I made a one year plan with my doc and I have an open door to a OB consult or a follow up if I feel like I want to refine our strategy. My doc was awesome and I totally appreciate her.

If you'd like to add me as a friend feel free. I'm always happy to motivate and be motivated by others that are serious about their goals. There is nothing more serious than trying to find your happiness.

29,, you're a baby yourself!! relax!!!! and do what your doctor says.