don't you just hate it, when people
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I did. My username was just to the left of it.One can choose to assume the worst of every comment, and live a bitter existence.
One can choose to give people the benefit of a doubt, and live a much more pleasant existence.
(cue the "They're jealous!" comments)
Oh, this is fantastic...who said this?
I meant, was it a quote from someone famous or what. Since it was an original from you, Well Done, Smartycat!0 -
All mine, baby...
I meant, was it a quote from someone famous or what. Since it was an original from you, Well Done, Smartycat!
I did. My username was just to the left of it.
Oh, this is fantastic...who said this?One can choose to assume the worst of every comment, and live a bitter existence.
One can choose to give people the benefit of a doubt, and live a much more pleasant existence.
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I think their response is a polite, tactful response. They want to know how it feels for YOU. The wrong response, IMO, would be to tell you that you look so much better. That would be rude, shallow and about themselves and how they feel; which is far less important.0
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who you havent seen for awhile, and see that you look awesome, the first thing that they say, is "so do you feel better?".
Why does everyone assume that if you are fat, that you feel awful.. One of the reasons that i was fat for so long, was that i felt great. My blood pressure was good. cholesterol was good, i felt great. Is that so hard to believe??? I will be coming up with a snappy answer for this. It's really starting to annoy me. How about you. any good comebacks?
I don't care what you say, If you lost 128 lbs you feel better.
I know I certainly wouldn't want to get snarky or sarcastic with a person that noticed and commented on my weight loss.0 -
I disagree with needing a snappy response as well.
Here's the thing, when I first started losing and getting comments, I was uncomfortable with the attention and a little pissed that I'd only made small strides but was getting huge compliments like I'd run a marathon or something. Then I realized, everyone was just trying to encourage me and all their comments/compliments (even if they were over the top) were coming from a good place and I should take them as such. The need to be snarky was my own problem and I got over it quickly...
Now I reply to everything with a positive energetic thankful response. Even if I think it's back-handed or has a bit of *****y venom behind it, I'll kill 'em with kindness. And if you feel up to it, share with them your reasons for losing the weight since it wasn't for the typical health reasons. I'm sure that's all they really want to know when they ask you how you feel now.
I kind of agree with TheRoadDog too - there HAS to have been some changes in your physical and maybe mental well being since losing the weight. You may not remember how you felt back then but I bet you've got more energy and better mobility. And I say that because 80 pounds ago, I was fairly healthy too but I stil feel way better now than I did then.0 -
I've had that happen every time I have lost a noticeable about of weight. I know people are just trying to be nice and recognize my accomplishment. I usually just smile and reply with thank you.
When I was at my highest (300 pounds) I had energy, normal blood pressure, and normal cholesterol. My doctor always said I had the insides of a healthy fit person. He was surprised I wasn't sicker from being so heavy.
In any case, I just say thanks or whatever fits their question comment and go on about my day. Take it as a sign that you are accomplishing your goals and don't worry what they were thinking when they said it.0 -
I agree - people just don't know what to say. We can choose to read the compliment, or we can choose to take it the wrong way, no matter what they say. I remind myself of that and the courage it must have taken to say something to me in way of a compliment because they wanted to give me some sort of support/encouragement.
That being said...the ones that are more difficult for me are when they guess how much weight I have lost (and guess too high), or say "That's all?!" when I tell them I've lost about 110 pounds thus far. I've been told they are just trying to say I look great and look like I've lost much more, but it does get to me a bit. That's ALL? Are you friggin' kidding me?! (And I keep thinking, "Just how much did they THINK I weighed?! Holy crap!")0 -
I always say "thanks" when someone comments on my weight loss, the changing shape of my face or the comment that "you must feel so much better." Like others have said it usually gets a semi stunned silent response as if they expected you to go on and on about how you lost it and why. The real thing that makes me upset is when I disclose how much I have actually lost, to some it dosent sound like an amount to match the results, like you have to lose 50lbs+ to look and feel the way you do:noway: I think they are just waiting for you to say " yeah I lost like X amount but I still need to lose X amount ", like no matter how good you look and feel they still secretly want you to be unhappy because they are:ohwell:0
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I've never been asked that... very interesting...
Ask them what they mean. Remember though, what you've done is great! Don't let others make you think otherwise...0 -
someone asked me that today. And I was thrown. The answer is no. lmao. I feel normal but my clothes are too big now. hahah0
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I think some people assume that because they feel bad when they are overweight. I know I do but everyone is different. It is wonderful that you feel good. I wish I did.0
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I see why you're frustrated by questions like this. People assume if you're not thin, you must be unhealthy, but that's just not true.
I think everyone should just hush up about weight comments all around.
But that's not realistic to hope for so I guess if I were you, I'd answer: "i feel good, but I was healthy before, so I felt good then too." Or just try the classic "why do you ask?" (always a good answer to a bad question). Just to try to send a little gentle education out there.0 -
Some people don't want to give the "Wow, you've lost weight" because its SO typical so they try to think of something different to say that doesn't focus on the actual weight. Really if you've lost any weight purposefully, then you ARE feeling better about SOMETHING, whether its confidence, accomplishment, breathing, flexibility, whatever!! Otherwise why would you lose weight? If I was happy at my start weight and felt GREAT I'd stay there and eat more...0
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I usually inform them that my butt-bone hurts and I'm cold most of the time, but that seems to bum 'em out.
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I hear ya on the cold part....since I lost weight, I find that my hands especially get so cold, when it never used to bother me much.I usually inform them that my butt-bone hurts and I'm cold most of the time, but that seems to bum 'em out.
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I dont think it would be very nice either! i have dropped 50 pounds and I feel like CRAP that NO ONE has noticed! NOT one person has said anything. In fact on face book I have got comments about people telling me I shouldnt be so happy about it! So i dont know! it seems to me that people dont care when you are fat then they get mad when you start to loose. So I would just give a nice yes I do feel better and walk away. I have lost 50 lbs and i FEEL SO MUCH BETTER!0
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No, I think my first assumption would be that they were trying to be nice and ask about my success and how I feel. Coming up with a snappy answer to someone who has the intention of being nice and making conversation is not something I would do.
Definitely this.
Be proud of your weight loss and tell them I feel great and feeling better everyday! Then ask them, " want to join me on the weight loss wagon?" 0 -
People just can't win. If they had said, "Oh, my god you look so great!" Would you have thought, "Geez, did I look so horrible before?"
Maybe, they were trying to be sensitive to the whole "weight loss for looks" thing and make a nice convo about feeling good. Your snappy answer will sure cure them of that.
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and then they might invite me to lunch...gah!What I really hate is running in to people I haven't seen for a long time. Having friends is such a pain!!
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I'm happy to tell people how much BETTER I feel since I lost weight, began eating healthier, exercising...
I honestly think everyone deserves to feel great about their body, so I love talking "healthy", letting them know what has helped, and how my "journey" is going. Heheh.
I've always had "bigger" friends-who have never been happy with their bodies. Now, if someone is honestly overweight, and content with it, then good for them I guess.
I'm just not one of them, and will proclaim as loud as I can that I DO feel better!0 -
I just hate anyone commenting on my weight full stop. I hate people asking how I lost weight, and I especially hate people making comments about my sex life in relation to my weight. It's none of your d**n business!
Agree 100%.0
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