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She probably feels as though you're trying to change her habits along with your own, even if you're not. But don't let her negative attitude get you down. Just keep doing what you're doing, eating right and working out. Hopefully soon she will calm down.

I no longer eat with my family unless we're going out for dinner, or for holiday meals. I try my best to keep eating healthy things, and it's more difficult for me to do so when I see them eating burgers, pizza, fries, chips, cookies, all of the bad things. Maybe you can do what I do, which I believe you mentioned you have been.

Good luck, and don't be discouraged!

Back when I was a teenager living with my mother, I decided I wanted to go on a diet. To eat healthier, not eat the bad foods anymore, and I explained this to my mother. She ended up getting a really bad attitude with me about it.

When I lived with her, we ate out alot. McDonalds and the asian place down the street were common dinners, and when she would cook meals it wasn't too healthy. Macaroni and cheese, pizza, things like that. I explained to her that I wanted to eat more veggies, fruits, eggs, things along those lines, and she just laughed and rolled her eyes at me, and most of the time she wouldn't even buy them when she went shopping. But then at the same time, she would pick on me and harass me about my weight. I couldn't win!

You'll get through this, though. I'm sure you will. Just keep your chin up, and keep eating right. Don't let one person get you down.

People tend to get angry when the issue is something THEY are struggling with, or feel passionate about. If your mom has dropped 65 lbs, she's doing well, but it's VERY slow going for her. That's about a pound a week, which is GOOD, but some people have so much weight to lose (over 100 lbs) that they just are tired of "dieting" and wonder if it's worth it.
You're younger, have more self control, are really working to eat healthier. She's probably just tired of working for so long to lose weight and doesn't have the energey, stamina or desire to stay the course.
She's probably frustrated and would LOVE to dive into some awful choices - and is fighting HERSELF, and it comes out at all of you.
That being said - I don't know if your mom is that way normally. If she tends to get pissed off and says stuff like that - or has been that way most of the time, should be used to it by now, and realize it's not YOU, even if it is directed AT you. Difference.
Maintain your attitude - eat the healthy way you like, and avoide the conflict. When you can't avoid it and have to comment, you can say I realize changing our life styles isn't easy, yet you've done great and you're still working hard to get even better - I'm proud of you. Walk away before she hits you with a rolling pin! lol
Oh - as to the navy - GO ARMY! (1972-1974)...our Commander in Chief is making DRASTIC budget cuts, so stay current w/ your recruiter to be sure the program you want will still be available when you want to go in.
Good luck!

I can sympathize with your struggle, but don't let someone else's attitude affect your own. When I lived with my mom, I refused to let her fix vegetables for me (or any food for that matter) because she would add about 4 to 5 tablespoons of butter to 2 servings of food. She used to fly off the handle at me, too, because somehow I was "offending her by criticizing the way she likes things." More than likely, it's a reflection of her own struggles, as everyone else here has suggested. As the saying goes, "Hurt people hurt people," meaning that if someone feels less than, they will try to make others feel less than, too. If it were me, I wouldn't change what I was doing, and I'd probably just gently say, "This is a lifestyle change for me. I feel happier and better doing it. I wish you could be happy that I feel happy." And then just leave it at that. Best of luck and keep up the good work. Sometimes it's hard in such an environment, but being independently healthy & motivated will keep you happier in the long run.

I'm going through almost the EXACT same thing right now. I even posted a thread about it yesterday.

My mom seems to be okay with me losing weight, but not with the way I'm doing it. I'm trying to eat a lot healthier, exercise more, and on occasion treat myself to something like a burger if I've done well. Her theory is that you should eat whatever you want, just smaller portions. I know both ways "work" in theory, but I also know that if I'm constantly eating pizza and burgers and chinese food and whatever else that I'm NOT going to lose the weight I want to lose. For me, those things should be reserved for special occasions, not for every day meals (at least that's my new way of thinking).

Whenever I bring up eating healthier, she just says "hmm". I went to the store yesterday to buy some healthier snacks than what she keeps in the house and she seemed really mad about it. She's quite overweight as well, so maybe our moms are feeling the exact same way. A lot of people suggested just not talking to her about my weight loss plan, which is something I'm going to have to work on. I'm really excited about this so I WANT to talk about it a lot! But I guess I'm not being sensitive to her feelings, so I'm trying to change that.

Anyway... sorry I just wrote you a novel, just know that I completely understand where you're coming from and hopefully it gets better for both of us! Feel free to add me so we can support each other

Shower her with kindness and love as soon as the negativity starts.

This.

Here's the thing: for your mom this is an ongoing struggle (possibly several decades old). She's doing something that works for her, but is hard and slow and makes her feel deprived. She resents giving up food she loves. You are joyfully, and without any evidence of effort, depriving yourself of everything she struggles to say no to. And you don't have nearly as much to lose. Chances are good that she feels both judged ("your way isn't good enough, I had to do something much more drastic, and look! It's easy! haha!") and jealous. The fact that you aren't actually judging her hasn't crossed her mind; she is judging herself and displacing that feeling onto you, because it's too uncomfortable to admit that she's doing it to herself. Giving up her own weight loss program and thereby abdicating a nonexistent competition to you is childish but not surprising. Also under there is probably some anxiety about your career choice; no mother wants to imagine outliving her children.

My advice: do not say one word about your own choices. Instead, shower her with compliments. Tell her how sad you are that she feels that she's in competition with you. About how inspired you are by her weight loss. How you see her working hard and it teaches you how to work hard. How you learned from watching her experience with WW that it helps to have a plan, and a support system, and tools to stay mindful of what you eat. How you'll miss her when you finally leave home, and you hope that she decides to keep making healthy choices for herself, so she'll be around to play with her grandchildren (if you ever intend to have any) or to enjoy time together when you have time off.

And from time to time, ASK HER ADVICE about healthy choices. Especially if you already know what she'll say, and that it's sound. Then you can follow her advice and thank her profusely for her help. Don't forget, this woman changed your diapers and stayed up half the night when you were sick an all those other things mothers do for their children. She needs to feel like you still value her. Make it a priority to show her that you do, and she'll come around.