My husband just doesn't get it!!!

Its hard I know, but look at the bright side, youre loved for who you are and not what you look like:flowerforyou:

Krystal

I'm glad mine just tells me to eat what I can. So I guess that means if I want to bring the measures out then he's not going to care. But I think the moment I start trying to measure out his portions i think that is where he'll draw a line. lol

Not a day goes by that I'm not thankful that everyone in my household is on board with my decision to turn our eating habits around! Just remember that you're doing this for YOU and your kids and keep thinking of those sweet little faces for motivation!

I've got 100+ pounds to lose (I read your profile... mine's very similar!) and even though I've only lost about 3, I can't believe how much better I feel - that's worth it alone! If you need motivation, post here! Everyone's so supportive - it's like an electronic Weight Watchers meeting :happy:

I had an ex-bf who used to practically force-feed me - guilt was his most common tactic. In the end, I don't think it was that he didn't want me to succeed, but rather that he didn't want to have to change his eating habits (or feel self-imposed guilt over them!) so he derailed me. Give your husband time to adjust, and try not to take his jabbing to heart... running & keeping up with your kids at the park will be worth it!

Some people are threatened by your attempts to improve yourself.
It may be because he thinks that when you look and feel better you may realize that you could do better
or it may be that with your sucesses it will show off his failures.
All you can do is to continue to do what's best for you and reassure him that you still love him.

I too have had family and friends be less than supportive at times.

1) Your husband is probably a little scared to see you actually following through on something that you've set out to do. Him seeing you measuring your food out and taking your health seriously must have triggered something in him to make him say that. He sees that your changing and men in general aren't too fond of change.
2) He doesn't understand how hard it is to make healthy changes and stick to them. He probably has no idea how important it is to follow the rules you've placed on yourself in order to conquer the changes you've set out to do! Especially in the beginning of the course of change. At this point he just can't comprehend the necessity of these changes. He'll come around!!
3) He's probably also a little frustrated because he might think that he'll have to change too in order to keep up with you or have something in common with you.

Despite the fact that he less than supportive right now, stay strong, keep doing what your are doing!! Since at the moment, the motivational speak isn't pouring in from your husband, maybe in special places around your house you could put up little quotes or inspirations that will mean something to you!!! My personal favorite is " Food will never taste as Good as Health Feels" Your perserverance will carry you through to your goals!!! :=)

Just do the best you can to let it roll off of your back. I told my husband when I started that I felt dumb for measuring my stuff, but HE never made me feel that way. So sorry that it's like that for you. He'll get over it and so will you, when the weight continues to come off. I think that he's probably feeling threatened. Maybe he needs some reassurance that you're still you, no matter what your weight. Afterall, it isn't (only) about how we look, but what we're doing for our health. :flowerforyou:

I am sorry you had to deal with that. Mine tries to feed me sweets at night..... him and my son...ugh!

This really sounds typical for someone not making a change along with you, and I wouldn't let it get to you too much. I don't drink anymore and a lot of my friends do. Occassionally they must think about it because they'll ask me, "Doesn't it bother you to be around me if I'm drinking?" :noway: I always say, "Not as much as it bothers you to be around me not drinking." Just do what you have to do for you, let him worry about himself. I have a friend who would like to lose weight and her hubby makes rude comments about it and sabatoges her every effort. She gives in after a couple of days and has no luck. I think he secretly likes things the way they are, and she gets something out of it also. LIke one pal said, don't try to take control of his habits though.

You're not alone, anytime that you need that extra little boost, jump on this website. I have been on for literally 5 minutes, and I'll tell you what, haven't seen a negative comment yet. Not only that, but try just saying something like, " I know that you love me no matter what, and I am probably being a little on the strict side of this, but it's only because I love you so much, and I want to make sure that I do everything that I can to make sure that I have a ton more time to love you as much as I do!" It just might work. Just stay positive, and you can do it!

My man used to whine about my calorie counting and diet but he discovered that when I'm dieting and exercising he doesn't have to hear me complain about how fat I am.

He hates to hear me complain about being fat when I'm not overweight, just out of shape; therefore, my diet not only keeps me happy but it keeps him happy too. When he realized that my b*tching and complaining declined by 60%, he became a happy camper!

i hear ya! everyone else had very good responses, so i'm not gonna try to outdo! lol but i would just second what they said. i think he's jealous, i've noticed A LOT of people around me automatically start talking bout their weight the minute we talk about me counting cals. they always start giving me the reasons why then haven't lost weight or jsut start making fun of trying. so i'm guessing that you dealing with your weight makes him think about how he should deal with his. i don't know your husband or his weight stats, but i'm guessing you're making him nervous that you're making a change to make your body healthier and he's not. don't give up!!!! maybe it'll motivate him to come around once he knows this lifestyle change isn't going anywhere for you. i would honestly say too, to sit down and talk with him about this at a calm time. like, NOT after he's just got done making fun of you for measuring lol but seriously, at a time when you're both calm, sit down and tell him how you feel and see if things change. best of luck! we're here if you need to scream! lol:flowerforyou: