Newby: Anyone doing this for fertility reasons?

I'm not in that boat, luckily for me, but one of my motivators for losing weight and now keeping it down is my family history of pre-eclampsia and high blood pressure. My mother nearly died with the severe pre-eclampsia that she had having me - I was born 3 months prem weighing a whole 670 grams and am lucky to be alive. I believe my aunt also had problems with pre-eclampsia. I am an only child because of pre-eclampsia.

My mother's whole family has a very strong tendency towards obesity, high cholesterol, high blood pressure and diabetes, heart disease, early death from heart disease...none of these precisely help with pre-eclampsia risk.

So I'm probably over-aware of pregnancy risk factors, and eating well, exercising and keeping my weight down are the only things that I can really control to reduce my risk of pregnancy issues. We're probably going to start trying this year and I'm determined to keep my weight down and have healthy habits through pregnancy.

So not in the same boat, but also motivated by being as healthy as possible for a future pregnancy.

I really hope all of you who are struggling with fertility have your dreams come true!!!! I can't imagine how hard it must be emotionally and what you have to put your body through with fertility treatment sounds awful, so I really hope it works out for all of you!!

I was married for 7 years (still am technically, just separated). I tried almost the whole time to get pregnant, to no avail. My Rather than husband didn't seem to think it was a big deal that we weren't getting pregnant, but my biggest desire in life is to be a mother, so I was crushed. In January 2009, after having my period for 45 days straight, I visited my ob/gyn. He did not seem concerned about my fertility, or my prolonged period. He told me that I was fat and would not be able to conceive. He told me that the only way for me to lose wight was to have bariatric surgery. He then sent me for some tests. He did not tell me what these tests were for. I went and had a glucose tolerance test. He called me and told me (based on this one test) that I had diabetes, hypo-thyroidism, and PCOS. While I know I have ovarian cysts (have had since I started menstruating), my cysts have always been large. I had on removed a few years prior that was 18cm in diameter.

Bariatric surgery was not an option that I wanted to take. I don't believe that just because I'm fat that I can't conceive. I believe there are deeper issues here, but he was unwilling to even discuss my fertility due to my size. I went to my PCP, and he looked at my test results and said that I was only borderline diabetic and my thyroid was just a little slow. Both of which, he said, could be controlled by diet and exercise. I have read that PCOS cannot be diagnosed without an ultrasound, which he did not do. He was simply looking at the fact that I am slightly glucose resistant.

I was soooo angry to be treated this way simply because I am overweight. I have known several large women who have conceived and had healthy babies. I feel like he just wrote me off. Well, my husband and I aren't together anymore, but I do still want so badly to be a mother. I am going to lose the weight partly because I believe that it will help me to conceive (if we ever get back together, or if I remarry). But I'm going to do it MY way, not the way he wanted me to. And I will not allow myself to be bullied by the medical community again!

I too saw a male OBGYN who said I was to fat to have a child. Well I guess he was wrong because I have a healthy 4 year old son. Only sad part is I have been trying to have another baby for over two years and to my suprise I found out a few months ago I had PCOS. The pills to make me have a period are working but the pills to make me ovulate have not been successful.

There's a PCOS group here:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/153-pcos-cysters-losing-together

Best of luck to you

I don't have any infertility problems (I have a just turned 2 year old son and a 9 month old daughter), but I just wanted you to know that I will be praying for you and all the other women who shared their struggles.
My husband and I are wanting more children at some point but I told him I didn't want more until I lost all the baby fat, hence the reason I'm on here
All the best in your weight loss and God bless!

Hi!

I have a history of unexplained IF and 2 miscarriages (and also, thankfully, 2 kids!) ..
didn't join specifically for that reason but I'm hoping that while I'm getting into awesome shape it won't hurt and if anything will help me get (and stay..) pregnant!

Good luck to you all!

I don't have any type of fertility issue but I would like to birth our next on The farm in Tennessee and for that to happen I need to be 150-190lbs so I'm trying to lose it and make that a possibility. Good luck to you. I hope this is what you need to make it work for you! =D

Ladies I'm pretty nervous about my doctor's appointment today. I really hope my FSH numbers are still good. They were pretty good last time I went but that was a year ago. I'm going to be 41 in March. I feel like my time is running out. Also my due date (the baby I lost) is looming. It is Superbowl Sunday. I really hoped that I would be pregnant again by then. I need some prayers/positive vibes if you have any to spare. Thanks!

Having a baby is a big part of the reason I'm here. My fiance and I are getting married in October and want to start trying for baby soon after. Problem is, I get my period only every 2-3 months or so now (mixed in with the occasional month + bleed-a-thon UGH), and I'm not ovulating. My Obgyn thinks it's the weight- all my hormone levels keep checking out (although I am going to get them rechecked this week and I'm very nervous). So, she wants me to try and lose weight and see if my periods regulate again. Hopefully. There are many other reasons that I'm here too, but I think the desire to have a baby and a have a healthy pregnancy will be the thing that finally makes me finish my weight loss journey.

Anyway, I'm new here too and looking for buddies if anyone wants to add me!

I also am doing this to lose weight for fertility reasons. I have been heavy all my life and I have tried to lose before.Thisisthe most I have ever lost. I am more motivated than in hopes the weight loss will help me to be able to conceive the child I so desperately want. I wish you lots of luck and hope you find your happiness in the baby you want.

I am here for fertility reasons. I have been overweight my whole life and struggled with losing weight. My husband and I have been ttc since July 2010 and we have had two miscarriages in that time. I just met with a fertility specialist who told me to lose 40 lbs before moving forward with him. I want to be a mom so badly and hopefully that goal will help motivate me. Good Luck!

me i am !! Ive been trying to conceieve for over 3 years now and the fertility clinic wont help me till i lose weight. I also suffer with PCOS too and have alot of weight to lose. would be great to add you .

Hello! I too have PCOS and have had a very difficult time conceiving. My husband and I have been together for 5 years now and still haven't had a baby. My obgyn has told me most likely the only way I will be able to do this without all the drugs is to lose 100 pounds, so here I am. It's not going to be an easy journey and I'll fall off the wagon here and there but I really want to be healthy enough to have a child!

Having a kid was one of the reasons my wife and I decided to lose weight, not only the conceiving part but being around to watch them grow up and have energy for the kid. We are expecting our first in September 7th.

I don't have any fertility issues that I know of. I don't have PCOS at least, I do know that. I am finally resolved to do this because I want kids really bad, but I will not, & downright refuse to try to get pregnant with this weight on. I know how dangerous it is, and I don't want to ask for any issues. Pregnancies can come with their own problems without my body and fat causing them.

Frankly, I know I'm probably an oddball here, but I love my birth control and am not ready to be off it yet. My skin has never been clearer, my hair is shinier, my periods are not near as heavy or as painful. Sucks trying to remember it everyday and can't wait for that to be over.

But yes, I am definitely on this journey with children in mind. It is my main goal. I'm tired of waiting, and my husband is 6 years older than me, and he doesn't deserve to wait any longer. He will be an awesome daddy. Although he will be an instigator and I will probably be having to put him on a time out as well. LOL!