Don't you Hate it when...

Yeap happens tome all the time but i always tell them at the end of the day it doesn't really matter what you think but how i feel about my body and what i want to do with it.

I dunno, they sound like they are just being nice or honest though. There's nothing more annoying than a woman complaining about her weight or body because we give ourselves (and each other) such a hard time. (I only complain about it on here!)

For example, a colleague, who's had 2 babies recently, looks great and I guess she has gained some baby weight but one would hardly ever know. Every now and then, she'll talk about her big belly getting in the way of things when really I just want her to shut up because she looks fabulous and I tell her so (she's not fishing for compliments either). Maybe she's just trying to be humorous but really women, we must stop that!

I dunno, they sound like they are just being nice or honest though. There's nothing more annoying than a woman complaining about her weight or body because we give ourselves (and each other) such a hard time. (I only complain about it on here!)

For example, a colleague, who's had 2 babies recently, looks great and I guess she has gained some baby weight but one would hardly ever know. Every now and then, she'll talk about her big belly getting in the way of things when really I just want her to shut up because she looks fabulous and I tell her so (she's not fishing for compliments either). Maybe she's just trying to be humorous but really women, we must stop that!

/agree

sure, sometimes it might be born of jelousy but often it's because a) they want you to feel happy about yourself now or b) they think you weight less than you do and are worried you'll go too far.

Hm. I say stuff like that sometimes.. like, "Wow, you don't look like you need to lose that much weight." I don't say it because I'm jealous though or don't want them to "look better than me". I just honestly didn't think they need to lose that much. It's supposed to be a compliment meaning, "You look beautiful as is". I never knew that was offensive.

This is exactly what I was going to say. Take it as a compliment.

I'm waiting for the day when this starts happening to me :laugh: At the moment, every time I see my mother, she comments on how obvious my weight loss is, but she waits for me to bring it up, which I think is fair enough. But no one has said to me that I don't need to lose any more, so I guess I'm just waiting for that day. :happy:

Eh. When I told my best friend how much I weighed he wouldn't shut up calling me a liar until I stepped on the scale in front of him. His jaw dropped and he said I look nothing like his brother (We weigh the same but I carry it better, 3x-4x shirt difference).

I try not to let others opinions interfere with my goals

Wow! I hear a lot of negativity flowing through this topic. I too get those comments but that is because sometimes I do complain about my weight (joking or not!). And let's face it, how many of us started a diet or fitness program before joining MFP but did not follow through?

So at the end of the day when we decide to take ourselves seriously, others don't and it is our own fault.

But on the flip side, the best way to change that is to just do it. When others start seeing the transformation then they will actually believe what we are saying. Some people are actually giving us compliments by saying we don't need to lose so much but we can't see it.

Turn that negativity into positivity and kick butt! Besides it takes too much energy to focus on the negative.... that energy could be very useful on our journey to better ourselves!!!