Just don't give an #@$.............

Oh dear!! I have been like that. After losing some I put more back on again. All I can say is finally one day I just felt I couldnt take anymore and was the biggest I have ever been. As you can see I have only just started so I may fall off the wagon again!! Good luck

The whole month of December turned me into feeling this way! I'm trying hard to get back into things!!

As someone who works part time with drug addicts and alcoholics, I hear this a lot. At first they recognize they have a problem, what to get healthy, then say screw it, I really do not want to be sober anyway. I like drinking, why do I want to give that up, I am not hurting anyone but myself..................

This is not a case of just simply stopping drinking or drugging for them, there are emotional issues that need to be addressed to get to the bottom of the problem. The same goes for eating and having a case of the F'it's.

I am not going to punch you in the face as I know from experience that wont work, hey, if it did, everyone would be healthy. There are several things you can do to make this crap in your head go away (this also will help with the "getting fed up" with things). First is OA, a 12 step program is an amazing thing and will give you a manner of living which is being responsible for self and all your own choices. Second one is therapy.

Good luck and I hope you find the happiness you deserve.

Change the routine. Instead of going home, go for a walk, run, get a bike, etc. If you continue to stay the current course, the results will always be the same.


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Take pictures of yourself from different angles. I bet seeing areas of fat that you never paid attention to will kick you back into gear. Lmao. Good luck shaking off that feeling. Don't worry about 'skinny', worry about living longer and better for yourself and those you love.

it happens. if you feel really depressed have you thought about counseling?

This wont work unless your head is in the right place and for whatever reason it definitely sounds like its not there at the moment so just log for now...you could set your calories at maintenance level or go without any levels for a bit. keep up the habit of logging good or bad and hopefully you'll soon be feeling up to trying again.

When you do get there don't go at it gung ho (my worst habit!) just aim for small changes and allow yourself treats/cheats so you dont end up feeling deprived.

If that is the case take your tennis shoes to work and walk at lunch.

I had the same problem most of my life. Then something changed it. I watched my Dad die a painful extended death due to diabetes brought on by weight gain and poor eating decisions. He had the same problem, couldn't get the correct motivation. As he became more and more blind, needed wound specialists to wrap his wounds that just wouldn't heal, and became depacitated, the bed soars alone turned your stomach. it gave me one final "gift," a reference I never want for myself. Nor do I want my family or friends to watch me go through it. This was very real. PURE FEAR has motivated me, at least initially. If I could put these pictures in your head you WOULD be motivated. He let himself go beyond to where he couldn't fix it. There comes a time you can't despite what you "think." Thats where we all are headed if we don't---to a place where we no longer have control. That is what you are choosing and there is no going back then.

Only YOU can make a better decision. I know I am, and its more empowering. I can't control the government, the weather, my boss, or a number of other things, but this is physics and it obeys laws. I can make a difference with this and the quality of whatever time I have. Only you can choose this. Why not YOU?

What you first have to realize that this is not a temporary diet- to goal, it is a lifestyle change. I miss a lot of foods, but I do like the feeling of healthy better. Its a choice that you make for yourself. I know its hard, I battle it every day. I plan to have this battle for a long time to come. Make exercise part of your weekly routine as you would scheduling showers, brushing your teeth... eventually it does become automatic.

This mindset is what finaly changed it all for me this time around. I've done just about every diet (including pills and shakes) out there but always failed after a few months. Why? Because it's just a fad or a quick fix. My goal was to lose weight and if it wasn't working for me in one form or the other, instead of figuring out why or how I could make it better, easier, etc, I simply gave up.

About two years ago, it hit me that I really needed to lose the weight and get healthy or I was headed for disaster. My blood pressure and cholesterol levels kept rising and I just didn't feel good about myself anymore. After 18 years of being obese, I was over it! But I knew deprivation didn't work, and I know pills and shakes didn't work so what would? I decided no foods were off the list, I simply had to eat normal portions of whatever was on the menu for the day and exercise to make up the difference. And to give myself a break if I went off the diet now and then.

Guess what? It's working! I've lost nearly 80 pounds and I'm still going strong. Not tired of this new lifestyle at all! In fact, I'm stronger and happier with my life now than I have been in years. It's not always easy, I'm not saying that, but it does get easier.

So, my advice in a nutshell is to stop all the presure. Make small goals - like this week, I will track all my food and next week I'll hit calorie goal at least 3 days and next week I'll exercise at least twice, and the next week I'll get in all my fruits and veggies, etc etc. And if you don't hit a goal, keep working on that goal until you get it, or move on to the next goal and put that goal further down on your list. Don't set weight goals because they're too unpredictible for most of us and that's why people get frustrated and quit. If you work instead towards goals that have more to do with the process, the weight will come off and there will be less of a struggle.

i still feel that way. i've hit a brick wall and i'm not losing any more weight. why should i work my *kitten* off for no results?

we can all just give up together and be fat and happy.

I had the same problem most of my life. Then something changed it. I watched my Dad die a painful extended death due to diabetes brought on by weight gain and poor eating decisions. He had the same problem, couldn't get the correct motivation. As he became more and more blind, needed wound specialists to wrap his wounds that just wouldn't heal, and became depacitated, the bed soars alone turned your stomach. it gave me one final "gift," a reference I never want for myself. Nor do I want my family or friends to watch me go through it. This was very real. PURE FEAR has motivated me, at least initially. If I could put these pictures in your head you WOULD be motivated. He let himself go beyond to where he couldn't fix it. There comes a time you can't despite what you "think." Thats where we all are headed if we don't---to a place where we no longer have control. That is what you are choosing and there is no going back then.

Only YOU can make a better decision. I know I am, and its more empowering. I can't control the government, the weather, my boss, or a number of other things, but this is physics and it obeys laws. I can make a difference with this and the quality of whatever time I have. Only you can choose this. Why not YOU?

WOW....this is powerful stuff here! I don't think I have read anyting on MFP quite like it. I watched my father die from diabetes as well. Talk about PURE FEAR! That was it!