crying babies...

cashnhaydensmama
cashnhaydensmama Posts: 41 Member
edited October 7 in Chit-Chat
OK, let me start this post by saying that
1) I have two kids--a 2.5 years old and an 8 month old
2) I love them more than ANYTHING in this world and I can't imagine a life without them. They complete my life.

That being said...there are days when I feel like throwing myself through a window (j/k...kinda LOL) when I've got a 2 year old throwing a temper tanrum and a fussy 8 month old screaming at the top of his lungs. And when I say screming, I really mean SCREAMING. He is so loud that I have had visitors (on three different occasions) actually leave my house because his scream is so intolerable. I'm pretty used to it most days so it doesn't seem to bother me as much. I know he's fed, changed and not sick so I guess I can kind of block it out and go on about making dinner or whatever it is I need to get done. (most days, today...not so much)

My husband works 60-70 hour work weeks and I'm a new SAHM, I just got out of the Navy 6 months ago. With my husband working those hours it means that I am pretty much the only one home with them all day every day.

I just want to say that I really appreciate and respect the work SAHMs do so much now! Oh, and if anyone has good tips to keep my sanity I would definitly appreciate them! LOL :happy:

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  • SarahMorganP
    SarahMorganP Posts: 921 Member
    Wear your baby and he should stop crying. You can wear him on your back and still do everything around the house you need to. Babies cry for more reasons than just being wet, hungry, or sick. Sometimes they just want to be held. I wouldn't like to be left to cry by my husband when all I really want is some love.
  • ginny1214
    ginny1214 Posts: 338
    I have a 21 month old and my son will be 4 in a few months (2 yrs 2 weeks apart both March haha)
    I feel your pain. I stay at home too, nothing makes me feel better except for leaving them in a room and going outside to breathe for a few seconds AWAY from them...I'd jump out a window, but I live in a 1 story house.
  • cashnhaydensmama
    cashnhaydensmama Posts: 41 Member
    Wear your baby and he should stop crying. You can wear him on your back and still do everything around the house you need to. Babies cry for more reasons than just being wet, hungry, or sick. Sometimes they just want to be held. I wouldn't like to be left to cry by my husband when all I really want is some love.

    I assure you, both my kids get lots of cuddles. I have a Moby wrap, but when I'm cooking dinner I don't feel comfortable wearing him while I'm so close to the oven/stove
  • takehimaway
    takehimaway Posts: 499 Member
    I don't have anything to help you, as I won't be having any babies anytime soon, or ever, thanks to my hysto, but I think it's pretty awesome you named one of your kids Cash.
  • JamesonsMommy
    JamesonsMommy Posts: 771 Member
    You poor poor girl :( I have a lot of respect for SAHM's too
  • adjones5
    adjones5 Posts: 938 Member
    Some people don't realize how hard it really is to be a stay at home mom. I don't have any kids but when I watch my nieces and nephews I definitely develop a greater appreciation for what my sisters do!
  • cashnhaydensmama
    cashnhaydensmama Posts: 41 Member
    I agree whole heartedly! I used to be one of those people who thought it was the easiest job! But I'm so grateful for the opportunity to be one. It's amazing being able to spend so much time with them and watch them grow up, rather than have to hear about it from their babysitter.My two year old spent more time at his babysitters than he did at home and it broke my heart. Don't get me wrong, I plan on going back to work eventually, I'm just not in a hurry. :)

    Also, this is in NO way not supporting working moms because I know that is just as hard. Just hard in diferent ways!
  • jimmynorton24
    jimmynorton24 Posts: 60
    i got 4 boys , there crazyness makes me cry!!!
  • Alexdur85
    Alexdur85 Posts: 255 Member
    I have two, two years apart as well. My eldest is 4 and my youngest is 21 months. It used to be like that. I'd sometimes cry in the middle of my living room because they were both crying for me and I couldn't figure out which one needed the most help and who to go to first. It gets better. Now they play and laugh and I can get stuff done around the house. I used to wear my youngest in a moby wrap. It was a godsend. I wish she would let me wear her now. You can actually wear kids up to like 4 years old (or some obscene age) with it. I cooked, cleaned (depending on what I was using chemical wise) and pretty much did everything with it.
  • Alexdur85
    Alexdur85 Posts: 255 Member
    Wear your baby and he should stop crying. You can wear him on your back and still do everything around the house you need to. Babies cry for more reasons than just being wet, hungry, or sick. Sometimes they just want to be held. I wouldn't like to be left to cry by my husband when all I really want is some love.

    I assure you, both my kids get lots of cuddles. I have a Moby wrap, but when I'm cooking dinner I don't feel comfortable wearing him while I'm so close to the oven/stove

    Wear him on your hip when you are cooking and point it away from the stove. The only time I didn't wear my daughter was when I was cooking with oil (i.e. cooking bacon).
  • Lleldiranne
    Lleldiranne Posts: 5,516 Member
    My third was a high-needs baby. There was nothing that would console him except being held, sometimes. And like you said, holding him (or wearing him) was sometimes not an option - like when cooking or going to the bathroom. I had to let him cry from time to time.

    I just want to assure you that he turned out okay, it didn't make him a little deviant or anything. He's 8, and has the normal 8-year-old behavior issues, but he is a smart, loving, cuddly, independent kid. Now, I'm sure you realize I'm not saying to let your little one cry all day. And I know how hard it is to hear him (or was it her? sorry, don't recall) cry, but for those times when you absolutely cannot hold or wear baby, it'll be ok :happy:

    Oh, and hang in there, it does get better!
  • karenwill2
    karenwill2 Posts: 604 Member
    Whew! I know what you are saying. I am a full time mom but since my boys are 6 and 3 I just recently got to become a full time college student too. First grade and preschool rocks. So now I am able to go to the gym because they are in school but the holidays bring back all the craziness again.

    I love my boys. I am so happy that I never had to miss a milestone. And working moms have it rough too. Motherhood is a mother for sure!
  • sm423
    sm423 Posts: 208 Member
    My boys are 16 months apart, so I feel your pain. They are older now (7 and almost 6), but I just wanted to tell you, it gets better. I think what your doing is just fine. If they have been fed, changed and given some of your attention, and of course given a nap, then the best thing to do is just let them cry it out a bit. Do what you have to do. Because if you sat there all day just loving on them, then you would never get anything done. I know it's hard, but they will get older and understand to some extent that mommy has stuff to do, lol. Also, just create a small safe place for them to play. That way you know they are in a safe area when you can't give them your full attention. Good luck and hang in there.
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