Anyone somewhat embarrassed by the weight loss?

I know exactly what you mean! I don't really like any comments about my weight at all, I find it really uncomfortable to think that people are even watching my weight, you know?

Like, it's great to be told 'you look nice' but when people say 'you look great, have you lost weight?' I feel mortified!

I have only been on this site a week but am at my heaviest I have ever been and I have really felt the scrutiny since going from a healthy weight of about 10 stone to 12 stone in the last few years. I'm amazed at how important my weight is to other people!

ha!

I have a tip to get around this.

As you lose weight, begin to wear a fat suit every day. Make the fat suit increasingly large by adding extra cushioning as you lose more and more, so your weight loss is completely invisible.

Then when you've lost 50lbs take the fat suit off and give everyone a shocker, and get it all over and done with in 1 day.

Perfect!

awesome, if a little sweaty!

I have a tip to get around this.

As you lose weight, begin to wear a fat suit every day. Make the fat suit increasingly large by adding extra cushioning as you lose more and more, so your weight loss is completely invisible.

Then when you've lost 50lbs take the fat suit off and give everyone a shocker, and get it all over and done with in 1 day.

Perfect!

awesome, if a little sweaty!

Nah, people aren't that observant, I lost most of my weight getting on for 10 months ago, and some people I see every week are only just noticing now. I had someone this morning ask if I'd lost weight over Christmas. I have been maintaining since last August.


Anyway, to the OP. YES! I hate people commenting on my weight. It makes me feel awkward, like they picture me fat in their heads.

I have a tip to get around this.

As you lose weight, begin to wear a fat suit every day. Make the fat suit increasingly large by adding extra cushioning as you lose more and more, so your weight loss is completely invisible.

Then when you've lost 50lbs take the fat suit off and give everyone a shocker, and get it all over and done with in 1 day.

Perfect!

awesome, if a little sweaty!

The sweat would just go further to convince them you're still an unfit porker.

Only you would know better. It's like espionage.

Sorta.

At the moment i wouldnt mind someone noticing that i have lost weight! I mentionned MFP to a friend yesterday because she wasnt sure about joining weight watchers becase of the money, told her not to bother and check this site out and mentionned how much i had lost and she gave me a look that said "you have lost weight?"

Whilst i am proud of what i have lost i know i will be a little ashamed of the end amount and may not actually mention the amount to people.

Same here. I find it to be a very uncomfortable topic to talk about. And I do usually try to use improvisation or change the subject to other subject matter.

I'm not sure why it bothers me so much. It bothered me before when I was thin as well - whether it was a positive or negative comment.

Maybe it's because it amazes me how everyone seems to have an opinion about another's weight AND have the right to voice this opinion out loud.

I know what you mean. I lost a lot a while ago and everyone commented. On the one hand it was nice to get compliments, but the insecure girl inside kept thinking "if you think I look good now, how horrible did you think I looked before?" Plus I was losing weight because of an eating disorder -- basically killing myself to get thin -- so all that validation just made me feel like anything going on inside didn't matter to anyone as long as the outside got smaller, even if the weight I was losing was coming out of my muscles, including my heart.

Our society is so obsessed with weight we think it's an unconditional compliment to point out that someone has lost weight, and often it is. It isn't your failing to be embarrassed by the comments, it's just indicative of our social infatuation with all things skinny. It's a social flaw that too many people don't even think about even as they participate in it.

I know that probably wasn't a very helpful response, but hey, at least you aren't alone in the awkwardness!

I'm not embarrassed by the weight loss, but by the actual # itself. When people ask me how much weight I've lost, it's actually hard to say the #. By doing so its like I'm giving away actually how much I used to weigh.:blushing: I don't know why, but I do hate doing this sometimes.

Me too! I was asked the other day and I didn't like it,, I mean,, I am doing good, but to say I weigh 250.. oh come on.

I have a tip to get around this.

As you lose weight, begin to wear a fat suit every day. Make the fat suit increasingly large by adding extra cushioning as you lose more and more, so your weight loss is completely invisible.

Then when you've lost 50lbs take the fat suit off and give everyone a shocker, and get it all over and done with in 1 day.

Perfect!

awesome, if a little sweaty!

The sweat would just go further to convince them you're still an unfit porker.

Only you would know better. It's like espionage.

Sorta.

Utter genius haha!

Be proud and confident in who you are no matter what shape or size. Be extra proud and confident if you are working to improve your health. Weight loss is not an easy demon to tackle. Congratulations.

I was always told that if you knew all the more people thought of your looks, you would worry a lot less.

Have a healthy day.

Oh, yes, I have these feelings, too. I think that when we're heavier, we're almost "invisible". That's what we get used to. Then, when we've lost the weight and someone notices, it's like your magic invisible cape has suddenly been removed and it's uncomfortable to actually be "seen." I know that my first reactiion when someone says something about my weight loss is to downplay it. I ALWAYS say something about how much I've still got to lose. I wish I could just appreciate what I've done so far and not always downplay my accomplishments.

I totally understand - especially the invisible bit - since I have lost weight the amount of people that have never spoken to me before are all of a sudden my friend and wanting to know the ins and outs of my personal being. I am very open about my self to my friends and my family but for these people to whom I was invisible before I am not about to tell them anything to personal.

They then give me a complement about my loss which I dismiss and then they continue with - I remember you when you were huge and used to wear your husbands clothes bla bla bla and some how there nice comments are wiped away with horrible memories!

I know they are trying to be nice - but I would rather they kept it zipped

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I have tried explaining this feeling to my close friends & family, but I guess it's one of those things that's hard to explain. I'm not necessarily embarrassed that I've lost weight, but I am definitely more self-conscious about my body.