friend requests

Pretty_Pain
Pretty_Pain Posts: 71 Member
edited October 7 in Chit-Chat
i know this may seem stupid but im bring this up because ive gotten several lately....when sending a friend request, please take the time to put a message with it, its just polite....i know i and several of my friends deny then when someone doesnt take a minute to add one. reason being i like my list small so i can be supportive and get to know them. if i get know message then im not sure what they are looking for.....thanks..M
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  • WarriorMom2012
    WarriorMom2012 Posts: 621 Member
    I found this more troublesome when I had a profile picture and I would get tons of requests with no message on days my pic was "risque".

    Since I no longer have a face, I have not received any FR's. Guess you could do that if you don't want any new friends :wink:
  • Pretty_Pain
    Pretty_Pain Posts: 71 Member
    unless tinkerbell is risque.....thats not the issue its been up for two days and ive gotten several....
  • BeckyV73
    BeckyV73 Posts: 69 Member
    Seems like a fair request to me!
  • eddie8131
    eddie8131 Posts: 600 Member
    I get a lot of FR's without notes from people who only request me because I am mutual friends with someone else on their list. Perhaps they liked how I supported their friend but it just would be nice to know that. I assume that they are just requesting everyone in their list. But I am pretty easy, I hate rejection and thus hate rejecting.
  • Justjoshin
    Justjoshin Posts: 999 Member
    Be witty, use your charms, let people know why they should be your friend!!

    "I want to get fit" is a poor example of a friend request

    "I see you run marathons, and I just started training myself, would love fellow runner friends for inspiration" - is better

    "Read your diary, and your profile, you reek of awesomeness" - May also be acceptable.
  • Amo_Angelus
    Amo_Angelus Posts: 604 Member
    Love the profile pic of the OP, tink is sooo pretty!

    But on topic, I agree. I NEVER accept requests unless there's a message to go with it, it got so bad that I had to put it in my signature too! Really, you know why you're adding me, is it all that difficult to say it?
  • TriedEverything
    TriedEverything Posts: 188 Member
    I agree, it's nice to get a message - but if I receive a friend request I usually have a quick look at the person's profile before accepting it. Haven't had to decline anyone yet! But I can see what you mean about keeping your list reasonably small - it's hard to keep track of a huge bunch of people! :smile:
  • candykay0605
    candykay0605 Posts: 1,019 Member
    My issue is when posted a topic about wantng to add friends that would be extremely supportive and logged in daily, i had LOTS of people send request but only a few supportive people and even a few who do not login for days at a time is that to much to ask??
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    Are pervy requests accepted also?
  • mrmarius
    mrmarius Posts: 1,802 Member
    happens to me all the time for some reason
  • Krizzle4Rizzle
    Krizzle4Rizzle Posts: 2,704 Member
    Are pervy requests accepted also?

    Aren't those the best kind?
  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,900 Member
    I don't mind not getting a message with it, what I mind is not giving support back ever. If you want support hen you will have to give support too :flowerforyou:
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    Are pervy requests accepted also?

    Aren't those the best kind?
    When I get a message from a guy offering to show his junk...not so much.
  • onefitdiva
    onefitdiva Posts: 331 Member
    I like this topic, I deny friend requests without a message as well, unless I have seen you on the boards posting frequently or on another friends profile or status and I am familiar with you. But if I have no clue who you are what so ever and there is no message, I deny. It is just nice to sort of introduce yourself to basically a stranger when you include a message. I know a lot of people just do not think of it and mean no harm that is why this is a good topic.
  • teephil
    teephil Posts: 135 Member
    I've never had this problem... Should I show more cleavage?
  • engineman312
    engineman312 Posts: 3,450 Member
    I've never had this problem... Should I show more cleavage?

    less is more chief. less is more.
  • Hayesgang
    Hayesgang Posts: 624
    I actually put on my page that I would decline requests without messages and I still get them, so it seems to me they haven't even bothered to look at my page.

    I feel the same way about my friend list I prefer it to be quite small so I can really get to know the people I'm interacting with also if the support and encouragement is only one sided - I do delete people.
  • SinIsIn
    SinIsIn Posts: 1,865 Member
    I pretty much accept everyone that requests me.

    I do go back and delete people that have not made an effort to be supportive or comment or anything.
  • RocketsGirl
    RocketsGirl Posts: 339 Member
    Some people just don't even bother to look at pages or anything. My page clearly states I am not accepting fr but I am still getting them. *sigh*
  • FearAnLoathing
    FearAnLoathing Posts: 4,852 Member
    What I hate is people dont even bother to read my profile,it says right there that I am a freak who loves blow up dolls and porn so you know what your getting into when you add me. But it never fails someone will add me delete me a week later with a message saying I freaked them out or all my fetish talk was too much...ect ect its actually pretty funny so i guess i dont hate it too much
  • engineman312
    engineman312 Posts: 3,450 Member
    Some people just don't even bother to look at pages or anything. My page clearly states I am not accepting fr but I am still getting them. *sigh*

    it must clearly state it to people that are already your friends, because to everyone else, it's 100% private.
  • FearAnLoathing
    FearAnLoathing Posts: 4,852 Member
    Some people just don't even bother to look at pages or anything. My page clearly states I am not accepting fr but I am still getting them. *sigh*

    Thats because when people who are not on your friends list go to your profile they dont see that. When I clicked your profile all it shows me is your pic an the send message add as friends button. So in their defense they can not see that you are not accepting requests because your profile is private
  • Sh1tsRainbows
    Sh1tsRainbows Posts: 1,227 Member
    my friends delete me when i try to be witty :grumble:
  • MyFeistyEvolution
    MyFeistyEvolution Posts: 1,014 Member
    Some people just don't even bother to look at pages or anything. My page clearly states I am not accepting fr but I am still getting them. *sigh*

    ....You're page is private.....
  • Krizzle4Rizzle
    Krizzle4Rizzle Posts: 2,704 Member
    What I hate is people dont even bother to read my profile,it says right there that I am a freak who loves blow up dolls and porn so you know what your getting into when you add me. But it never fails someone will add me delete me a week later with a message saying I freaked them out or all my fetish talk was too much...ect ect its actually pretty funny so i guess i dont hate it too much

    I don't think you are all that bad...

    Hmmm..what does that say about me?
  • Pretty_Pain
    Pretty_Pain Posts: 71 Member
    Be witty, use your charms, let people know why they should be your friend!!

    "I want to get fit" is a poor example of a friend request

    "I see you run marathons, and I just started training myself, would love fellow runner friends for inspiration" - is better

    "Read your diary, and your profile, you reek of awesomeness" - May also be acceptable.



    josh this why i jus love you!!!!!!!!
  • Krizzle4Rizzle
    Krizzle4Rizzle Posts: 2,704 Member
    Removed.
  • Nice to read the MFP etiquette. I'm new, but I haven't sent anyone friend requests yet.
  • MercenaryNoetic26
    MercenaryNoetic26 Posts: 2,747 Member
    unless tinkerbell is risque.....thats not the issue its been up for two days and ive gotten several....

    Tink is totally risque... LOL She's the fairy with the biggest booty and hourglass figure! Her jealousy fits are so crazy her whole face turns red... Tink is one of Disney's sexiest toons right up there with Ariel, Bell and Jasmine.

    I requested someone just because they had a Spongebob pic up. Having a common favorite cartoon character is reason enough to request someone. You could also respond back, "Not currently accepting friends at this time". :laugh:
  • I just randomly request friends and I never add a message. Accept it or not. Quit complaining about EVERYTHING!

    I need to build up my fan base. ;)
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