People. Seriously, wtf is wrong with them? Cheating is wron

It's men's nature to be polygamous, do your research and you might learn a thing or two.

While I don't think this is the best way to say it, it's fairly accurate. Human beings are not naturally monogamous. That term has fairly moralistic (read religious/spiritual) connotations. We (generally speaking) are just like most mammals. We procreate. Just as other animals will mate with multiple partners to produce offspring, it's inherent for us to do the same.

That being said, I don't condone cheating. I do condone being open and honest with your partner. Communication is key, especially if needs aren't being met.

Don't give up on women just yet. You'll find the one that is right for you.

So i take it you aren't into polyamory....

Technically that should be either polyphilia or multiamory - 'polyamory' is grammatically incorrect! :laugh:
#isalanguagegeek

But that, I think, is part of the problem. Although it's not something I indulge in, I truly believe that it is the way forward if some people want to have sustainable relationships. Our needs have changed so much, and as has already been pointed out, technology has given us access to the entire world, so we have far more opportunity for all kinds of relationships. Relatively speaking, monogamy is a pretty new thing, and while it's fine for some people, it's absolutely not fine for others. It's rare that one person can satisfy all the needs of another; I'm not talking about just physical needs, I mean intellectual, psychological, emotional, etc.

Having said that, I don't think most of us are culturally ready yet for multiple relationships; they take absolute trust and understanding from both partners, and acceptance. While part of me is conceptually open to the idea, I do know that in reality I would have difficulty handling the fact that my partner was spending time with someone else, even if I had another person too! And how would I feel about my 'other' spending time with *their* other/s? So much room for conflicting emotions....yet I know people for whom this works incredibly well. I also know it is something my partner just isn't into, so even if I were up for it, it's never going to happen because what we have is far too precious to jeopardise....and we've both worked extremely hard to get where we are now. Despite my earlier comment about it working well for some, I've also seen far too many 'open relationships' crumble simply because the people involved were usually going along with what their partner wanted rather than lose them. That's no basis for multiamory - that's 'legalised' cheating IMO!

I don't know that women are any more prone to cheating than men...as far as I am concerned, people are people, and if someone has a propensity to play away, they are going to do it regardless. What I would say is that if someone finds this concept hard to handle in their friends, then perhaps they need to not be friends any more. I cannot imagine that any of my friends would cheat on their partners, and to be honest, if they felt a need to, then something must be very wrong in their relationship, and they'd have probably spoken to me first anyway!

When all is said and done, my philosophy is that if I don't like how someone is behaving, and I find it goes against my moral compass, then if talking to them and trying to help doesn't resolve the issue, I make the decision that the relationship cannot continue. That goes for friends, partners, employers, even family in some cases....life is far too short to be hampered by bad relationships IMO, and I most certainly am not a martyr!

I agree, it's so wrong! If I started having any feelings for anyone other than my bf, I'd seriously look at my relationship first instead of going straight in for it. Not only would I be hurting my partner, I'd really hate myself. I just couldn't do it!