People. Seriously, wtf is wrong with them? Cheating is wron

lol there are all kind of woman just have to find the right one Not easy nowadays but somehow I believe woman are like that because all the bad things that happened to them kinda like getting a revenge in their mind I think :P

Lol, sadly enough, it is pretty difficult to find many people who have any sense of loyalty and such when it comes to relationships. Some people honestly just need to grow up and work on themselves before they even consider being in a relationship at all... And, you're right; if you are really done with the person you're supposed to be with, then LEAVE THEM!!! Just because you don't really want to be with your significant other doesn't make cheating ok; it still makes you a cheater...

There's a morally sound woman right here! I get just as angry about cheating and have actually walked away from friends who have chosen to cheat on their partner as I think it's disgusting. My first boyfriend cheated on me after 5 years together and for many years I lost my ability to trust, no one should have to lose a piece of themselves because of someone else's disgusting actions!

The same thing applies to men. I know you're venting and you may be loyal to one woman, but there are MANY MANY MANY MANY MANY *deep breath* MANY man out there who cheat on their wives/girlfriends, and for them, it's not even about love, it's just physical, then they don't understand why their wife/girlfriend has kicked them to the curb.

Cheating is wrong, but sometimes, flirting is a way for women to feel like they are special. If they are in a happy, healthy relationship, flirting will just be a smile, a joke, and lapping the extra attention, but have no intention of taking it further...maybe that's not even flirting. But if they are unhappy, they will flirt and possibly cheat because they don't have the strength to leave their other half, or there are other factors, such as money or children.

I'm not condoning cheating. I was in a horrible relationship with my ex husband, I was depressed, he thought he was the best I would ever have, classic verbal put downs, I put on weight, he mocked me and he was (and still is) a compulsive liar who got us both into debt and now I am paying for it, and yet I NEVER cheated on him. I could have, several times, but I don't think cheating is right. I wouldn't want someone to cheat on me, so why do the same. Cheating means you have no respect for your partner and don't care about their feelings.

People cheat when their needs are not met in the relationship, so if you are a lousy lover or treat your girl like **** then don't be surprised if she cheats.

I agree can't stand a cheater... not RIGHT in any shape or form. So it's awesome to hear a man say it! :drinker:

Men and women alike often seem to have this complex where they always want what they can't have. As soon as they get it, they don't want it anymore. I know this one guy who only is ever interested in women who already have someone else. It's strange, but I do think some people have issues like that, for whatever reason... Doesn't make it right, but that's just an observation I've made I suppose. Cheating is definitely wrong - and it pisses me off when some people say it's not cheating to kiss or flirt or whatever. If it would hurt your significant other to see you doing it with another person - it's cheating, plain and simple.

So i take it you aren't into polyamory....

I'm an incredebly loyal woman and think cheating is wrong. I seriously think you must have no respect for the person your with to do that to them and if you hate them that much then why are you with them? I don't get why people don't just leave the person they are with and move on if things are that bad.

Sorry my little rant is over I've been with my other half five years now and would never ever cheat on him.

The same thing could be said for men, too.

I do often wonder if the high amount of infidelity is simply because we're conditioned to believe monogamy is the one and only way, and many of us are wired for polyamory. It certainly creates an environment for those who are simply different to grow up to believe their urges are wrong or warp their perceptions of themselves.

It's men's nature to be polygamous, do your research and you might learn a thing or two.

While I don't think this is the best way to say it, it's fairly accurate. Human beings are not naturally monogamous. That term has fairly moralistic (read religious/spiritual) connotations. We (generally speaking) are just like most mammals. We procreate. Just as other animals will mate with multiple partners to produce offspring, it's inherent for us to do the same.

That being said, I don't condone cheating. I do condone being open and honest with your partner. Communication is key, especially if needs aren't being met.

Don't give up on women just yet. You'll find the one that is right for you.

So i take it you aren't into polyamory....

Technically that should be either polyphilia or multiamory - 'polyamory' is grammatically incorrect! :laugh:
#isalanguagegeek

But that, I think, is part of the problem. Although it's not something I indulge in, I truly believe that it is the way forward if some people want to have sustainable relationships. Our needs have changed so much, and as has already been pointed out, technology has given us access to the entire world, so we have far more opportunity for all kinds of relationships. Relatively speaking, monogamy is a pretty new thing, and while it's fine for some people, it's absolutely not fine for others. It's rare that one person can satisfy all the needs of another; I'm not talking about just physical needs, I mean intellectual, psychological, emotional, etc.

Having said that, I don't think most of us are culturally ready yet for multiple relationships; they take absolute trust and understanding from both partners, and acceptance. While part of me is conceptually open to the idea, I do know that in reality I would have difficulty handling the fact that my partner was spending time with someone else, even if I had another person too! And how would I feel about my 'other' spending time with *their* other/s? So much room for conflicting emotions....yet I know people for whom this works incredibly well. I also know it is something my partner just isn't into, so even if I were up for it, it's never going to happen because what we have is far too precious to jeopardise....and we've both worked extremely hard to get where we are now. Despite my earlier comment about it working well for some, I've also seen far too many 'open relationships' crumble simply because the people involved were usually going along with what their partner wanted rather than lose them. That's no basis for multiamory - that's 'legalised' cheating IMO!

I don't know that women are any more prone to cheating than men...as far as I am concerned, people are people, and if someone has a propensity to play away, they are going to do it regardless. What I would say is that if someone finds this concept hard to handle in their friends, then perhaps they need to not be friends any more. I cannot imagine that any of my friends would cheat on their partners, and to be honest, if they felt a need to, then something must be very wrong in their relationship, and they'd have probably spoken to me first anyway!

When all is said and done, my philosophy is that if I don't like how someone is behaving, and I find it goes against my moral compass, then if talking to them and trying to help doesn't resolve the issue, I make the decision that the relationship cannot continue. That goes for friends, partners, employers, even family in some cases....life is far too short to be hampered by bad relationships IMO, and I most certainly am not a martyr!

I agree, it's so wrong! If I started having any feelings for anyone other than my bf, I'd seriously look at my relationship first instead of going straight in for it. Not only would I be hurting my partner, I'd really hate myself. I just couldn't do it!