The one thing that bugs me....

MissPriss_423
MissPriss_423 Posts: 56 Member
edited November 2024 in Chit-Chat
The one thing that really bugs me when I'm at the gym is when a guy stares at me. Come on.... I'm trying to workout and you have to stare? I'm already insecure about my body so I don't need another set of eyes looking at me.
And it's pretty obvious when you keep lookin in the mirror, walking around my machine " looking for something" and pretending that you need to walk around the corner to stretch. Really??

Has anyone else experienced this??

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  • twanthe1
    twanthe1 Posts: 407 Member
    You should take it as a compliment - men stare when they think you are hot.
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    I tend to feel like people are looking at me too. I would have to estimate that 50% of the time they are looking past us and it just feels like they are looking! Try to just ignore them...but if they are REALLLY obvious...stare back!
  • revren10
    revren10 Posts: 116 Member
    call them out on it, be like can I help you
  • stephanielindley422
    stephanielindley422 Posts: 273 Member
    You should take it as a compliment - men stare when they think you are hot.

    Or crazy.
  • chelleymarie88
    chelleymarie88 Posts: 775 Member
    I know what you mean. It made me feel uncomfortable at the gym, that's why I started working out at home. (That and the cost of the gym went up!) Yeah- my boobs bounce when I run- as do any woman who has big boobs. Does it mean you have to blatantly stare? No.. Yeah I have a butt. Does that mean you have to stand behind me on the treadmill and stare? No.... There is a point of crossing a line and I can completely understand where you're coming from.
  • twanthe1
    twanthe1 Posts: 407 Member
    I know what you mean. It made me feel uncomfortable at the gym, that's why I started working out at home. (That and the cost of the gym went up!) Yeah- my boobs bounce when I run- as do any woman who has big boobs. Does it mean you have to blatantly stare? No.. Yeah I have a butt. Does that mean you have to stand behind me on the treadmill and stare? No.... There is a point of crossing a line and I can completely understand where you're coming from.

    Women do the same - I think it's mostly human nature. Being rude and gawking nonstop is unacceptable - I don't think most people mean harm by it.
  • run4yourlife
    run4yourlife Posts: 379 Member
    You should take it as a compliment - men stare when they think you are hot.

    ^^^This. And if it bothers you, just ignore it.
  • mcdonl
    mcdonl Posts: 342 Member
    Yeah, men who have no charisma do not realize they just look creepy when they stare.
  • jwalker30
    jwalker30 Posts: 282 Member
    I kind of agree with the person who mentioned it should be taken as a compliment. Now the person shouldn't be creepy to the point of appearing stalker-ish, but I imagine the guy was probably debating trying to start a conversation with you. He probably just thought you were attractive, but felt to shy to say hello.
  • itgeekwoman
    itgeekwoman Posts: 804 Member
    I understand your not wanting them to look at you, but imagine being the girl that nobody looks at. From my point of view, I'd rather they looked then didn't.
    Take it as a compliment, then ignore him and do a wicked workout that even he wouldn't be able to keep up with. I go and watch people when I am working out, just to watch form and see if there's some different way to work a muscle group.
  • chelleymarie88
    chelleymarie88 Posts: 775 Member
    I know what you mean. It made me feel uncomfortable at the gym, that's why I started working out at home. (That and the cost of the gym went up!) Yeah- my boobs bounce when I run- as do any woman who has big boobs. Does it mean you have to blatantly stare? No.. Yeah I have a butt. Does that mean you have to stand behind me on the treadmill and stare? No.... There is a point of crossing a line and I can completely understand where you're coming from.

    Women do the same - I think it's mostly human nature. Being rude and gawking nonstop is unacceptable - I don't think most people mean harm by it.

    Honestly, I don't stand behind a chick's treadmill and go "WOW WHAT A NICE RACK *gawK*" lol. Nor do I watch a man's pants bounce when he runs! Idk, I'm not even a prude, but that gym rubbed me the wrong way. So to speak. :\
  • MissPriss_423
    MissPriss_423 Posts: 56 Member
    It all just makes me uncomfortable. I ignore it... It's jut hard when they make it obvious and do it the whole time I'm at the gym.
  • TourThePast
    TourThePast Posts: 1,753 Member
    I've sometimes noticed people in my gym looking oddly at me and thinking I've been "staring" at them.

    Once I'm concentrating hard on my workout, I zone out and ignore what's going on around me and people have obviously assumed I'm looking at them when really I'm not focussed and not looking at anything, or gazing idly into a reflection of a TV in the mirror behind them - unfortunately the other people in my gym are nowhere near as interesting as they think! :bigsmile:
  • twanthe1
    twanthe1 Posts: 407 Member
    I know what you mean. It made me feel uncomfortable at the gym, that's why I started working out at home. (That and the cost of the gym went up!) Yeah- my boobs bounce when I run- as do any woman who has big boobs. Does it mean you have to blatantly stare? No.. Yeah I have a butt. Does that mean you have to stand behind me on the treadmill and stare? No.... There is a point of crossing a line and I can completely understand where you're coming from.

    Women do the same - I think it's mostly human nature. Being rude and gawking nonstop is unacceptable - I don't think most people mean harm by it.

    Honestly, I don't stand behind a chick's treadmill and go "WOW WHAT A NICE RACK *gawK*" lol. Nor do I watch a man's pants bounce when he runs! Idk, I'm not even a prude, but that gym rubbed me the wrong way. So to speak. :\

    Lol - I agree those examples would be rude. I don't do anything of the sort - but I do glance and appreciate the hard work women put in.
  • MissPriss_423
    MissPriss_423 Posts: 56 Member
    call them out on it, be like can I help you

    Can I help you!?? :wink:
  • mcdonl
    mcdonl Posts: 342 Member
    I know what you mean. It made me feel uncomfortable at the gym, that's why I started working out at home. (That and the cost of the gym went up!) Yeah- my boobs bounce when I run- as do any woman who has big boobs. Does it mean you have to blatantly stare? No.. Yeah I have a butt. Does that mean you have to stand behind me on the treadmill and stare? No.... There is a point of crossing a line and I can completely understand where you're coming from.

    Women do the same - I think it's mostly human nature. Being rude and gawking nonstop is unacceptable - I don't think most people mean harm by it.

    Honestly, I don't stand behind a chick's treadmill and go "WOW WHAT A NICE RACK *gawK*" lol. Nor do I watch a man's pants bounce when he runs! Idk, I'm not even a prude, but that gym rubbed me the wrong way. So to speak. :\

    Lol - I agree those examples would be rude. I don't do anything of the sort - but I do glance and appreciate the hard work women put in.

    A glance and a smile is what I mean... charisma... if they appreciate it they will smile back, if not... you get accused of glancing and smiling, not leering.
  • MissPriss_423
    MissPriss_423 Posts: 56 Member
    I kind of agree with the person who mentioned it should be taken as a compliment. Now the person shouldn't be creepy to the point of appearing stalker-ish, but I imagine the guy was probably debating trying to start a conversation with you. He probably just thought you were attractive, but felt to shy to say hello.

    Okay. I can understand. But seriously it's creepy.
  • MissPriss_423
    MissPriss_423 Posts: 56 Member
    I know what you mean. It made me feel uncomfortable at the gym, that's why I started working out at home. (That and the cost of the gym went up!) Yeah- my boobs bounce when I run- as do any woman who has big boobs. Does it mean you have to blatantly stare? No.. Yeah I have a butt. Does that mean you have to stand behind me on the treadmill and stare? No.... There is a point of crossing a line and I can completely understand where you're coming from.

    Women do the same - I think it's mostly human nature. Being rude and gawking nonstop is unacceptable - I don't think most people mean harm by it.

    Honestly, I don't stand behind a chick's treadmill and go "WOW WHAT A NICE RACK *gawK*" lol. Nor do I watch a man's pants bounce when he runs! Idk, I'm not even a prude, but that gym rubbed me the wrong way. So to speak. :\

    ^^^^. Agree!
  • twanthe1
    twanthe1 Posts: 407 Member
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  • chelleymarie88
    chelleymarie88 Posts: 775 Member
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    ok... *gawk*.
  • brittanyjeanxo
    brittanyjeanxo Posts: 1,829 Member
    Having been on both sides of the spectrum (the one no one looks at and the one that can't walk around her own school without getting a DAYYYYUM) I can say that, yes, it is frustrating when you're just minding your own business and people are openly staring. It's flattering, certainly, but after a while, it starts to get really frustrating, makes you feel like a piece of meat for everyone to ogle. You should try to take it as a compliment, but if it does get to the point where you feel like it's over the line, call them out. Just tell them you're here to get in shape, not to be stared at. Then tell them to get a girlfriend. lol

    ETA this reminds me of the time at school where I punched a dude in the stomach. I was wearing a shirt that I really like, wasn't low cut by any means, couldn't even see cleavage, but I guess it accentuated my girls. Anyway, I had gotten a lot of staring that day, and at first it was kind of flattering, but then it became just ridiculous. The final straw was when I walked by a guy and he said, "DAMN GIRL, LOOK AT DEM TITTIES" so I punched him in the stomach and continued on my way. ...I don't recommend that method. >.>
  • MissPriss_423
    MissPriss_423 Posts: 56 Member
    Having been on both sides of the spectrum (the one no one looks at and the one that can't walk around her own school without getting a DAYYYYUM) I can say that, yes, it is frustrating when you're just minding your own business and people are openly staring. It's flattering, certainly, but after a while, it starts to get really frustrating, makes you feel like a piece of meat for everyone to ogle. You should try to take it as a compliment, but if it does get to the point where you feel like it's over the line, call them out. Just tell them you're here to get in shape, not to be stared at. Then tell them to get a girlfriend. lol

    ^^^ like!

    It's actually worse when their girlfriend walks in later. Lol
  • kelsully
    kelsully Posts: 1,008 Member
    I am sure that is super annoying but I know I will "stare" if I think I might know someone and I am trying to figure who the person is, or if I find something about them intriguing and usually impressive. Only a very few times have I taken a second look at someone for anything out of something other than admiration or that nagging need to know where I know this guy/girl from and that was just really really really weird hair/toupee thing. This hair needed to be stared at.
  • warmachinejt
    warmachinejt Posts: 2,159 Member
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    aww look at the sweet little pwinzes
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