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Might be time to sit down and have a little chat with him. Tell him why you're doing this and what you are doing to lose the weight. Explain to him that while you love and appreciate him making you food, etc you need to watch what you are eating. It's not that you can't have what he brings home or eats or makes for you, you just need smaller portions.

If he wants to bring home beer and chips etc you can't really stop him. Just because he brings things home it doesn't mean you have to eat them.

I'm glad my fiancee doesn't bring home that kind of stuff... but when he does it's fine because I can resist it or allow myself a small portion. If not, I make him put it on the top of the cupboards so I can't reach it ha ha

Let him know you think that the breakfast in bed is SO awesome (super sweet) and just ask him if he can serve you smaller portions because you really like it, but it's just more than you can eat. As far as the beers and chips and dips...well...keep it to one beer and just chips no dip maybe? Or pick up a bag of baby carrots and eat those with the dip instead of the chips. I haven't really given up eating anything that I used to eat before, with the exception of burritos because I find it offensive that the giant tortilla adds 200 calores to the meal. Add me as a friend if you'd like. You'll see in my food diary that I eat normal food, but smaller portions!

You might want to get a new boyfriend or confront him and tell him how important this is to you and your happiness.

Breakfast in bed? Yea new boyfriend time! THE NERVE OF HIM.

Tell him you are not trying to lose weight you just want to eat healthier maybe that will help

Shoot, if only my man would do something nice like that for me! LOL He will straight up tell me that I need to lose weight, but still loves me unconditionally. Although I KNOW, being the type of guy he is, he prefers skinnier, athletic woman. Why he ended up with me, I'll never know! lol

But yeah, I agree with the above poster... not so much about getting a new man unless he's truly against you losing weight and being healthy...but with talking to him and explaining the importance of the situation. Communication (and understand on his end) is key! Be sure to tell him that you appreciate his being kind and making you breakfast in bed but unless it's healthier it will only hinder your efforts. As for the chips, dips and beer... well, that's all you sweetie pie... you can say NO! It's hard, but you can do it. If he doesn't understand, explain it.

Love and Alohas,
Ihilani Kapuniai

Do you notice he is controlling in other ways? He probably has the irrational fear that if you get skinny you will leave him. I've seen this before. Stick to it and tell him to get over it. Its very wrong he is trying to sabotage your effort in becoming healthy! Who wouldn't want a loved one to be healthy and happy in the way they feel? It may be time to step back and take a look at this relationship. No sense in trying to be healthy physically if you are in an UNHEALTHY relationship.

Add: he does sound sweet with the whole breakfast in bed, but snakes DO have the ability to be sweet. I know my comment may be harsh-I just have seen that kind of behavior too many times. Sorry if it offends, just my two cents.

my husband (now seperated) used to be really cruel about my weight and used to cheat, yet i was made to feel like it was my fault becuase of my weight. yet when i managed to start losing a decent amount he used to get take aways n stuff. He couldnt handle my confidence that would start returning when i was losing weight. You need to sit him down. is he insecure?

Oh you should see the way he does it.... "look honey I brought snacks and drinks home for us etc... " ughhhhhhhh he is about 70 pounds smaller than me and very fit naturally so he doesn't know what its like

Talk to him than... sit him down and explain to him what you are doing and how his actions are affecting it all. He can bring home snacks for him but he shouldn't be bringing home snacks for you if you don't want them.

I had to do it with my fiancee.. he used to bring home chocolates, chips, beer, wine, etc. I explained to him what i was doing and why i wanted to do it. Told him if he wanted that stuff that was okay but I didn't often. He now brings home snacks sometimes but it's usually fruit and veggies.

I feel ya on that. It's not my boyfriend b/c I'm currently single but I swear ever since I started MFP I feel like my best friend is trying to sabatoge me. I started right around the beginning of the month and since then (we work together) she has brought me in dunkin donutes 3 times, mcdonalds twice, and she buys candy nearly everyday. I even went out of my way to tell her please dont buy me anything from mcdonalds when she went on friday but she still brought me a fried chicken sandwich and an apple pie. I said no thankyou to all of it, I resisted temptitation even though it was pretty hard sitting in my classroom with her all day eating peanutbutter cups and quarter pounders. I told her that even though I "crave' it I'm not going to eat it b/c I'm trying really hard to be healthy. She even tries to tell me to "just eat it" and "you know you want it"
I dont understand why shes being like this. As far as I know she seems happy and shes skinny so I dont see any reason for her to feel insecure so I dont get it. She's always supportive of me and viceversa so I really dont understand her deal.

I wish I could give you the perfect solution but I dont have one. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. Good luck!

mt boyfriend wants me to stay fat He knows I am trying to lose weight yet insists on his days off of bringing home heavy beers and chips and dips and then days like today makes me breakfast in bed and its a plate loaded with carbs.. He gets offended if I don't eat so I sort of don't know what to do...

I'm no food Nazi, but I don't usually ask twice about things like this.
Offend him.
Don't eat or drink what's not on your diet or pre-planned food intake menu for any given day.

QUESTION: Is he a nice guy just trying to be kind, or is he an insecure man trying to sabotage you, because he's afraid of losing you once you get fit?

Hmmm..."Dear boyfriend, I love that you love my curves babe, but I need this for me. I want to be healthy so we can enjoy more of life together. I know that you care so much for me that you will support this decision I have made, because I want this. It is my dream. Hold my hand and be there with me on this journey, because I love you."

^^ What I meant to say was, Wow. Love this guy (Sam)!

I like how people have him all figured out from the 3 sentences you posted about him. Has he said "I want you to stay fat"
Is he forcing you to drink the beer andeat the chips?

I say offend him!!

No seriously, if you have explained to him that you want to get more healthy and fit FOR YOU....... then he just has to get offended.

If he's never had to try to lose weight himself he probably does not realize how high in calories the food he's consuming is. I seriously doubt he's trying to keep you fat -_-.

The first time Iost a lot of weight the long term b/f I had was really upset. We had many arguements over my weight loss. Come to find out, he was afraid that once the weight was off, I was going to change and not want him. Apparently, he had some self esteem issues.

In the end, not because of loosing weight, we separated and 18 years later...he hates me as much now as he did then! Not a great loss!