Ever been told by a friend that you will never be THAT skinn

All the time! People wanting me to stop losing or ill blow away with a big gust of wind or something -.-
I usually try not to show it, but it makes me angry.

Yeah... It got old really fast with people telling me I was wasting away to nothing or telling me I looked sickly or too skinny. I'm sure some people do it out of jealousy to be malicious, but I do think most people were saying that stuff because they were maybe worried about me or trying to be caring. Some people are just oblivious to how rude they're being.

Sounds to me like your friend can't handle you being A) skinnier than her or as skinny as she is.

I don't buy the people are "concerned" excuse one bit. If your goal is in the HEALTHY range (near the top of your BMI as even I think the bottom of the BMI is a little too skinny looking unless you're very tone and buff) I mean I could see if you wanted to go under your healthy range, but ya - this sounds like simple jealousy to me.

You find that your friends and even family have you slotted into a "role" and if you change your role (from chubby or fat friend, or even "bigger-than-me-at-least" friend to equal or skinner than, suddenly THEY are uncomfortable with their new role that you forced them into and that means they have to adjust or make a change themselves.

Interesting enough, my best friend is the only one who does this to me. She's 5'7 and recently lost a lot of weight (she's now about 245 lbs). But she's always been unnecessarily mean to "skinny girls". Fiercely insuting even teenagers!

She tells me not to get skinny. Gives no reaosn other than it is 'gross". I wonder if she's jealous or has had a bad experience(s) with girls who were "skinny". Because she seems fierce in her disdain for anyone (females only) of that size.

I've stopped talking to her, because I cannot stand all the insults and sneers she throws at skinny people. And the fact that she tries to sabotage my healthy eating. Which can be hard, as she was very supportive and every other aspect of my life. But, I can't stand ridicule. Even when directed toward others.

My goal is to feel stronger and be thinner (in healthy bmi). I'm 5'9/5'10 and the extra pounds don't look like much on me. Losing 20 lbs appears like I've only lost 10. So, when I tell people i want to lose about 40 lbs (which can look like 20), I tend to get teh usual, "bt you're not fat, you're just top-heavy/big-boned."

It's annoying as hell, so I try to keep my fitness details to MFP friends.

Oh yeah it happened a lot to me when I was still way overweight. Fortunately with all things going for me now, I can now prove it to them. Now these very same people say to me that I'm way too skinny & I'm staring to look anorexic. Since when did a 120 pounder woman who is regularly lifting heavy weights & is in her healthy weight become anorexic??? Geez! :noway:

Anyway as the above poster said, don't listen to them. They merely do it out of insecurity or jealousy because they themselves don't want to change their bad habits or they have been dieting all along but never got successful & so they want you to "join" them.

EDIT: sorry I misspelled the word "starting" as in starting to look anorexic.

It would be so nice if the people that are supposed to love us the most would actually act like they love us... where's the unconditional support? Also, I'm getting really tired of the "skinny-bashing" I'm seeing everywhere. I am by no means skinny - I have a lot more work to do - but I don't want to have to deal with strangers, or worse, my friends and family, hating on me when I do reach my goal! It's one thing to express concern for a friend who is struggling with an eating disorder, but to be deliberately cruel to a friend who's working hard to get healthier? Never ok.
Hang in there, sweeties, we have each other.

i once had a so called best friend who told me to "aim lower" when looking at guys....harsh,

but now iv found myself a wonderful boyfriend whos drop dead gorgeous and she can eat her words!!!

Is it horrible that I'm kind of crazy like that and just because they said you will never be "THAT" skinny, that the next time I see them I will be sure to be "THAT" skinny because they have added kerosene to the inferno burning inside of me.

sounds exactly like me! Well put!!

Now I feel guilty. I told someone that they would never be "that skinny" like Keira Knightley. I kinda meant it as a compliment. They have boobs and a butt, so their skinniest will be thicker than Keira Knightley, but much hotter. I hope they didn't take it the wrong way, and I need to work on my tact and phrasing. Maybe your friend kinda meant it like I did?

All the time! People wanting me to stop losing or ill blow away with a big gust of wind or something -.-
I usually try not to show it, but it makes me angry.

i hate this too, and those people are usually fat

Not by a friend, but my mother has said to me "You'll never be as skinny as your sister". To a certain extent, I suspect she's right, my sister & I are of a similar height (she's slightly shorter) but I have much broader shoulders and wider hips than she does, so I think I'm always going to be perceived as bigger.
Amusingly from my perspective, my sister has put on weight recently & so we may well "swap" weights! I only need to drop another dress size to be the same dress size as her anyway

It happened to me also because I used to be very overweight & curvy while my sister is one of those naturally thin people who has a model type of body. However now that I lost the weight & my dress size down from XXL to S while she recently gained weight & inches, I'm the one now wearing her old, smaller clothes even though we may not be exactly the same weight.

Mean people suck.

yup some of my family!