Don't know what's happening...

roguex_1979
roguex_1979 Posts: 247 Member
edited November 2024 in Motivation and Support
I think this week might be a write off. Been feeling down and not motivated gym wise. Haven't over eaten on calories or anything, but today I think I probably will. Might give me a boost...or a kick up the bottom.

Unfortunately, I know myself, and as my other half is working nights from tomorrow, my will power will be at an all time low, especially on the weekend. I know I should drag myself to the gym and I'll feel better, but I just can't. Don't even want to go to work, even though it's only a few hours. I don't know why I feel like this. Usually when I have a low day, it's just that, a low DAY. This has gone on since Monday.

Since I was 19, I have been on and off anti depressants, and was on them for nearly three years constant until about 4 months ago. I felt I was ready to come off as I have a good job, loving fiance, a roof over my head, money to cover the bills with a tiny bit left over for saving for a holiday this year, my daughter is healthy and doing well in school...nothing to be depressed about. It was wobbly to come off them after so long, but I feel like I've been a smoker and finally stopped smoking, so I really don't want to go back on them. I know it's only been two/three days, but it's starting to look a little too familiar.

I am very close to my first goal of getting out of the 11 stone mark (2lbs off), and 7lbs to leaving 150's behind me, I don't want to undo all that hard work...I am doing the best I ever have on a diet!

Don't know what to do. :cry:

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  • MissYogapants
    MissYogapants Posts: 106 Member
    The problem with anti depressants is that they're very dangerous, and people don't seem to realize that. What happens is that people start taking them, and after a while they start feeling better so they stop taking them, here's where the suicide statistics go through the roof. It's important to have contact with a doctor regularly when taking anti depressants, and if you don't want to take the pills anymore you _must_ consult your doctor first. Quitting those pills in a wrong way will make you feel one million thousand times worse than before you started taking them. Now, roguex_1979, this may not be your case, you might have done it all properly, but I just feel I need to write this for everyone out there, it's so important to know these things.

    Could you do things that would make you feel more proud of yourself perhaps? Going to the gym makes me feel a tad proud of myself, but going to the gym when I really don't feel like it makes me VERY proud of myself (once I'm there and afterwards). Or something else, like making those phone calls to old friends you should have called long ago, or seeing someone you have seen (like old relatives).

    And by the way, that's some serious good work you've done with your weight!
  • kiwi1855
    kiwi1855 Posts: 218 Member
    It's important to have contact with a doctor regularly when taking anti depressants, and if you don't want to take the pills anymore you _must_ consult your doctor first. Quitting those pills in a wrong way will make you feel one million thousand times worse than before you started taking them.

    This. A million times over. I thought I was smarter than the directions and the Doctor... and now I'm regretting it. I mean, my overall mental health is ok, but I managed to get a side effect that, though it is improving, is probably with me for life. And, I consider myself lucky on that score.

    You can do it, just do it with your doctor's help - it is far better in the long run to do it the "right" way. Learn from my mistake!
  • roguex_1979
    roguex_1979 Posts: 247 Member
    The problem with anti depressants is that they're very dangerous, and people don't seem to realize that. What happens is that people start taking them, and after a while they start feeling better so they stop taking them, here's where the suicide statistics go through the roof. It's important to have contact with a doctor regularly when taking anti depressants, and if you don't want to take the pills anymore you _must_ consult your doctor first. Quitting those pills in a wrong way will make you feel one million thousand times worse than before you started taking them. Now, roguex_1979, this may not be your case, you might have done it all properly, but I just feel I need to write this for everyone out there, it's so important to know these things.

    Fully agree. I did do it properly through the doctor, and that's why I don't see why it should be affecting me...if that is what it is. Might just be an extended low day. Thank you for your reply.
  • Tiff587
    Tiff587 Posts: 264 Member
    Dont panic!
    I'm sorry you are having such a rough time you have my sympathy.
    I went through something similar when I came off mine, my doctor had to gave me a lower dose to wean myself off, it does not mean you can't be without them, but they are a strong chemical and your body needs time to learn to cope without them. I did have a hard week or two, but I came out the other end smiling! :-)
    I take St Johns wort now and I think it helps me through my bad days without chemicals.
    Just don't let yourself fall back into eating badly, you will be upset with yourself. Get a friend over with a trashy film or to get you out of the house. Remember all the amazing things you have and how well you have done. You should be very proud of yourself!
  • AmandaCaswell1982
    AmandaCaswell1982 Posts: 170 Member
    I've been there too, sweetie... so many have. It is dangerous when coming off these meds- and you will feel like crap for a little bit. Know though, there is usually a light at the end of the tunnel. My suggestion to you is to EXERCISE. It helps me and that's what I'm basing that advice on, but it generally makes people feel better because of endorphins and the fact you're doing something positive for yourself. My friend swears by St Johns Wort (be careful if you're taking birth control, however because it can decrease how effective your birth control is!) and I take B vitamins myself. Treat yourself like youre recovering and take care of your body. You CAN and WILL do this and you will come off on top.
  • g_warne
    g_warne Posts: 28
    I know what you're going through!! It's not nice. Anyway, I always try and remind myself that exercise is so good for the mental health and if I don't feel like going to the gym or similar I try not to be too hard on myself and pick a different form of exercise. Maybe just a nice evening walk, or a hike to an area I've never been or similar. I also find that if I start getting in the bad spot I need to suddenly make time to doing something new, exciting, or treat myself. That way I feel more positive about me and that helps motivate me.
  • forme2310
    forme2310 Posts: 157 Member
    Howdy I just wanted to say you have done some really amazing things. I know its not easy and I have been in a funk myself Remember not to isolate as usually people speaking from my own personal experience when the my disease of compulsive overeating is winning I tend to with draw and be content in my office by myself. But that is not the way to win the war.

    I also belong to OA as well as have great friends on here th understand what I am going through. But it also gets me out of the house and active.

    I wish I had a magical wand as I would wave it over the both of us but I don't.

    So I have decided to dance in the Rain to reach the rainbow. Are you ready to dance with me as all of us can get there together!!!!
  • I have noticed that a lot of people are having off weeks. So maybe it's just a bad week.
    Anti depressants are so horrible. They help some people and some people they make worse. When I have been put on ANY antidepressant in the past, I have become very suicidal. So I wont touch the stuff anymore.
    I am sure you are having a bad week, and don't feel bad about that. It takes time.
  • Aesop101
    Aesop101 Posts: 758 Member
    Sometimes you have to go through the motions and the motivation will follow.
  • MaximalLife
    MaximalLife Posts: 2,447 Member
    I am no doctor and no expert.
    This is NOT advice.
    I was put on anti-depressants years ago after a horrible accident and brain injury.
    Once my head cleared and I realized what they were feeding me, I got off.

    I weaned myself off these drugs SLOWLY .
    And there was a season of withdrawal where I felt intense melancholy about life - even wondering if it was all worth it.
    It passed.
    And I punched through, remaining drug free to this day.

    I never, ever would take any kind of anti-depressant medication again.
    The pharmaceutical companies have totally corrupted the medical profession, and practitioners are all way too fast to dole out medication. Today, most people are on something to help cope.
    Count me OUT!
    I blame those medications for my weight gain.

    NEVER AGAIN!
  • The worst thing is that depressive cycles often lead to patterns of behaviour that simply increase the depth and duration of the depressive cycle!

    As much as you don't feel motivated try to force yourself to do some exercise. Some intense cardio will help you produce endorphins which will interrupt your anxious and sad feelings. If you have a gym membership maybe try a new class - Zumba or another fun looking one that you haven't tried. You can smile, laugh and even feel a little silly when learning new routines and that good feeling can carry on through the next few days.
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