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The important thing is you are here and talking. Start small. Small attainable goals. Just get moving, even if it's only for 20 min. It's better than nothing. You can do it!

admitting that you need help and coming here is such a leap in the right direction. the only advice i can give you is to take it one day at a time. you will screw up at some point. don't beat yourself up over it. wallow for a minute, then make up your mind to do better the next day (or meal). one screw up doesn't screw up everything. i have a long way to go, but i have psyched myself into this mindset and know that i can do it. it won't be easy, but you'll feel better, look better, walk better, love better...especially yourself.

feel free to add me and i'll be here to talk if you need anything!

You've hit rock bottom but you are here because you know what you need to do. I've been there, at rock bottom. It is hard to see the light at the end but believe me, it gets better. Only you can find the motivation you need to make changes. Find a positive goal and work towards it. Don't focus on the negative reasons you need to lose weight; focus on the positive.

It is your mindset. I had a mindset of putting off losing weight for years. I had low self-esteem and there was a lot of verbal and emotional abuse in my home. This was while I was working at the shelter. Because we were so unhappy in my marriage at the time, my husband moved out for three months. That was when I knew I had to get it together for myself and for my children. Working At A Safe Place helped me realize that I dealt with some of the same issues the women did, so I knew that as I encouraged them, I needed to encourage myself. That is where the process began with me. I knew I had to do something. I joined Weight Watcher and begin exercising five to six days a week. I realized that God loved me, I was valuable and I had a lot to live for so that was the drive that helped me to lose the weight, to change my eating habits, and my activity level. I knew my chances of having diabetes, heart disease, cancer and stroke would be inevitable if I did not change. I had also just lost my best friend a few months before to a heart attack at 30. She was very heavy set. I say all this to say that sometimes you have to get to that desperate place to change and God allowed me to be there because he knew that if I changed, I could help someone else. That was 2004, so now 7 plus years later, God has restored me. I love myself and though I still have challenges with my marriage and children, etc but I am in a healthy place and I am so humbled and compassionate because of my experiences. You will be a success and I believe you can win this Challenge because you know that enough is enough and you are worth it. You are going to look and feel great!

Self-loathing is seldom productive. You are a lovable and worthy person.

Make a list of all the changes you need to make to live a healthier life, and start making them one or two at a time. Get moving, even just a few minutes a day; I met a man who, when he started, could literally barely walk across the room, and now he is the picture of health. Baby steps are still steps! So if you can only walk to the corner and back, or halfwya to the corner and back, do that! Or check out your local YMCA for open swim times or water fitness classes; taking the strain off your knee may help you be in less pain and more ready to stick with it.

Start replacing the unhealthy things in your diet with healthy things. I LOVE pizza, but instead of ordering one, we'll make one with a healthier crust, more veggies, and leaner meats. I have yogurt with fresh berries instead of ice cream and bake things instead of fry them. And I try to set SMALL goals and achieve them; looking at it as just one whole huge picture is really overwhelming.

You said yourself that you don't really want to die; you have a lot to live for! Talk to your doctor about your desire to live healthier; s/he should be able to refer you to a nutritionist to help get you started. Tell the shame inside you to take a hike. We all have to start somewhere. You have the drive to make your life what you want it to be, and that is something to be proud of.

Good for you, you made it to this site & all the positive people on here will help you to shine :flowerforyou:

Don't hate yourself! Easier said than done I know but you have to learn to be proud of yourself the good stuff you have done and not beat yourself up because you didn't live up to what you think you should be doing! Set yourself some small attainable goals. Make small changes you can live with, take it slow and steady this has to be a lifestyle change not a quick fix. Take each day as it comes and try to to the best you can each day. Don't think of food as a reward or a punishment. It won't take long for you to notice a difference in the way you look and the way you feel!

It may not feel like it but rock bottom is a good place to start - it can only get better! You can do this - you are worth it!!

Good luck.

Hey there! Don't give up! We are all here for the same reason! To get healthy. I also have arthritis in my knees. I find an advil or something before I begin my workout helps tremendously with the pain and I can go on longer. When I first started after just 10 minutes I was in such pain I stopped. Now I'm OK for at least an hr. After my workout I try to elevate my legs for a few minutes and I'm back to normal every day activity. Just remember to take it one step at a time. We did not get this big overnight...therefore it will also take time to get the lbs back off. You can do this add me If you want and we can do this together! Good luck