heightest

Salukisazuki
Salukisazuki Posts: 14
edited November 9 in Motivation and Support
Hi right, this is more of a rant really but i needed to vent.

in a tall girl 6'2ft- something i have hated my whole life as i find it challenging to buy clothes and shows and i was bullied very seriously because of it.

Anyhow- its not going to change so I have to get on with it.

Are people heightest?

I just went to an interview, dressed smart in a nice skirt and shirt and heals (making me 6'5ft) BUT i feel better in heals when im dressed up.

The interviewers word to me where "blimy your a big girl!" and it completely knocked me for six. Now i beleive that he wa refering to my heigt NOT my size (14/16)
My responce was " sorry, would you you say to someone blimy you have brown hair? No, I think your very rude for pointing out my physical differeces" possibly not the best thing to say to someone who might have a job going (i dont think i want to work there now anyhow)

Was i wrong to defend myself? It made me very uncomfortable to having something im aware of already pointed out to me.

Why do people feel its ok to do it? Its something i have gone through my whole life, and at school the bullying caused me to self harm alot. My boyfriend says he doenst care but when we met he said to me that was the tallest women he had ever met. He too gets really pissed off when people comment on my height when we go out, which happens almost everytime.

basically i want to know WHY people feel its ok to do this? How i can make a bit more peace with this and also how the hell i get over wanting to punch idiots in the face for being so insensitive!

Its my right to wear nice shoes as a women and if it makes me taller why is that a problem? I am almost getting back to the place of self loathing again and i dont want to go there, Im doing something positive about my weight but i Am assuming Im not likely to shrink!

any other women suffered with such issues?

Thanks xx

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  • CharlieBarleyMom
    CharlieBarleyMom Posts: 727 Member
    You need to stand tall about your height. There are people out there who are just blown away by a woman taller than 5'7". For you, that's a short person! I was almost 5'11" for most of my life... I have shrunk just over an inch since now that I am in my late 40s. I always had a hard time finding slacks -- especially because I wore an 18 (US) or larger... in the United States I found that if you were fat you had to be short to buy clothes... there were no Talls to be found in over 18... that has since changed and inseams are made a bit longer and I believe that is due to the fact that there seems to be a trend toward taller women.

    Embrace your height. If someone says "my you're darn tall!" - say "I really am, and I love it!". Yes, wear your heels, I am always in 3" or taller heels.

    Being tall has some disadvantages which you've recognized, but it has some huge advantages - being able to see over everyone else - being able to reach the items on the top shelf even if they're all the way in the back - being noticed first and foremost - and just (in my opinion) being better!
  • Ruchgupt
    Ruchgupt Posts: 38
    I have the opposite problem! I always get, "Damn, you're short!" And because smaller people rarely get taken seriously at first glance, it's always a tough thing to get people to see past the height.

    So I definitely agree--our society has an 'ideal' and too tall or too short always merits a gasp.
  • Chagama
    Chagama Posts: 543 Member
    I'm not female, but...

    My Dad was 6'5", if someone said "You're tall, do you play basketball?" his response would be "No, you're short, do you play miniature golf?"

    Be proud of who you are and don't worry about those silly comments.
  • marquesajen
    marquesajen Posts: 641
    People think you're a novelty. I'm 5'10" and have been since I was 13, which was the hardest part- being that young and being this tall. For some it is intimidating to see a woman dressed very well (like you!) and to be that tall. You're powerful! Your interviewer shouldn't have made that comment, but as it is, there are more short women, so we'll continue to get these comments. My best advice is to reply with, "Yes, I am" and move right along. Hopefully if you treat it like it is (which is nothing but a fact) then others will realize that they should just accept it and move on. I mean really, it's just height!

    Good luck with your interviews :D
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