Really struggling and need friends to help along the way!

I know exactly how you feel, you work hard and it never seems to be getting you where you want to go as fast as you want to go there.
Remember that weight loss is a continual journey, till you hit your goal and after.
Some stress is good but putting a lot of pressure on yourself to lose 20lbs in 20 weeks before a wedding along with all the other stuff you have to deal with in preparation may be overwhelming. Be good to yourself and set goals that are motivating not daunting.

Don't cheat yourself, you work hard all week towards a goal, don't let other pople or situations or cupcakes or chicen wings de-rail you. You are worth keeping around even if you don't eat the junk on the weekends. Bask in being the kwirkey health food nut on weekends, the one that brings her own snacks and DDs so they do't drink. You can feel more empowered by being able to say no to cheating on the weekends and it will get easier with time. Also you should see the results in your clothes and weight. Not to mention you don't have to restart a diet Monday morning, you are just continuing your everyday way of eating.

Anyway I hope you get the support you'de like. Best of luck.

im new here too, feel free to add

I know exactly how you feel and I have had success overcoming it--and so can you! I read a quote recently, "You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great." I think it can apply to health and fitness as well! I'll send you a friend request. Good luck--I promise in the end it's worth the frustration!

One thing I've found to be true is...to diet or loose weight is to change your way of eating for life. We don't put the weight on overnight and it's not coming off that way either. Find a lifestyle program of eating and exercise that is fitting for you. Like the Atkins or just counting calories or whatever. Be good to yourself and don't get discouraged, it is a process of training yourself into better choices that will work for life...ongoing! So we can maintain our weight. Look ahead and see the picture of yourself at your goal, and if your not there at the timeline you set for yourself, just keep going and you'll get there, that's the key. Your not where you were, Right? So keep on keeping on and we shall arive.

Get some kick butt music and a heart rate monitor and hit the gym! You will start to feel so good that it becomes easy.

Since I started losing weight last April I have inspired 3 people to start exercising and eating better. :bigsmile: They call me the food police at work!

Course, I am a little older than you

I'm new, too. Please feel free to add me. And good luck!!