Help me please...Im falling apart. Many opinions needed

Hi,

I'm sorry you're frustrated.

Do you live somewhere with a group that you can join? (walking group, running group, knitting group... whatever you're in to?) If your family won't support you, others will....

In terms of eating more than you want to, my personal solution is to cut tempting things in half and leave the other half on the counter or somewhere else, then I have to make a conscious decision to eat the rest.

I'm happy to be your friend!

A girlfriend of mine uses this method. Whatever the tempting food is, she cuts one third of it off for herself and then seasons the rest of it with hot sauce or used coffee grounds--rendering the rest of the tempting food inedible.

It's harder of course, when you go out to eat--but it can be done. My honey and I went out last night and instead of each eating a huge, calorie laden meal, we split a very filling, calorie friendly Jambalya. I even had enough calories left over for a glass of red wine. We always look for something with a lot of protein and veggies--and then split it. In lieu of somebody to split meals with, ask the waiter to give you a go box with your entree, split it before you even get started, and have him bag it. Save it for lunch the next day.

It's hard not to binge, I know. But just think of how proud you'll be the day you hit your goal. I'm living in a house with a voracious, constantly eating 15 year old boy, and a dieting man whose daily calorie allowance is about a 1,000 calories more than mine. Sometimes it's difficult to watch them eat a yummy dinner while I'm sucking down protein shakes, but I know that the end result will be a healthier, thinner me. And that is worth whatever I have to deny myself right now.

As far as having somebody to stop you--there seems to be quite a network of people on this site. I'm sure that there are a number of people who would be happy to give you a safety net. We're all here to help support each other.

It's hard - I am in that same boat.
It gets easier as new habits form - KEEP PUNCHING!

Hang in there... I found that protein and fiber helps to prevent temptaion. My co-workers are often snacking on chips and cookies I found that it is okay to have strong boundaries and simply say " No Thank You"

Thanks everyone, and I actually am on a high protein diet since I'm trying to weight train, the problem is so much junk food around. I will try all of your suggestions.

Willpower.

Sorry, but there's nothing else to do in your situation but say "no" to the crap. That's all you. Don't lay the blame for the food temptation on anyone esle. Take responsibility for it, and you'll be so proud of yourself for maintaining control once you do have it.

AlexJourneyHall At some point of a weight loss journey most people come across a barrier or a bump they have to get over. I think that it helps to be busy... Occupy yourself with distractions. find a distraction Not necessarily exercise bc you don't want to excessively focus on that but occasionally doing more exercise on top of your regular routine can help. i.e. and let me forewarn this is a bit geeky: on days that i absolutely have to be sedentary i find a research topic and I sit behind my computer and totally get sucked in as I research and read about my new found passion :~) it's like a great book for others. Anyways the other option is to preset your meals for the day. if you plan on eating all your meals at home prep measure and set it out...this is to help you learn portion control and help your mind get used to the once the food is gone I can't have anything else. thus if you ate your lunch and snack all in one meal you know you don't get to have a snack bc you ate it. other options to consider is calorie cycling. where you eat lower calories for 2-3 days i.e. eating your BMR (realistic bmr, not 1200...unless yours it in fact 1200) and then on every 4 days you eat at your maintenance BMR+Lifestyle+Exercise...so whatever total MFP totals for you in your dashboard. When I do this it helps me look forward to having a pizza day or whatever I want day as long as I'm within those calories and still continue to follow my plan. i think between these you'll either find one that works or it will initiate your own idea. As far having parents not supportive, try talking to them about it or I would try not to focus on that. Once they see how healthy you get you can educate them about healthy living and they will be more in tuned. I say that because i know some of my friends parents that are from a culture that think you are sick when you are thinner even at a healthy weight, thus if I wanted to gain their approval in my weight loss journey I would never succeed. oh i forgot to mention, I peeked at your profile and noticed that you find Jessica Biel inspirational, focus on that vision to getting you to the end. Also focus on the pounds you have left in the dust thus far and how great you feel now without those pounds....nothing motivates me more than gaining 5 lbs especially for my petite body it looks like 10lbs :~). I'll send you a friend request PM me anytime you need to vent.

~believe in yourself~

I agree, you need to stay in touch with your mind and therefore can control the desire to eat things that sabotage the hard work that went into making your weight loss happen..
How badly do you want that healthy body weight? I think it it's worth it. I have dieted a lot and the only way to succeed is to stop and ask why you want to eat these bad foods. It could be boredom or something emotional that you have to ask yourself too.
Good luck!