lost 25lbs, still single..

deltasierra
deltasierra Posts: 6
edited November 9 in Health and Weight Loss
That time of year has come around again where despite effort to lose weight and feel fabulous on the outside, the talk of love and romance is making me slightly down, if I get down I eat or drink!

Im a real life Bridget Jones!!

Looking fabulous when you are sat at home on your lonesome with the fridge in view is not helping!! any thoughts appreciated.
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  • DizzyLinds
    DizzyLinds Posts: 856 Member
    I'm exactly the same. No matter how much weight you lose being on your own this time of year is crap! Instead of sitting in on my own...i'll see friends, and yesterday i decided to go shopping on my own and treat myself...retail therapy!!! I spend a fair bit of time at the gym too.
  • allie7383
    allie7383 Posts: 865 Member
    I'm in the same boat.. I'm getting healthy for me, however getting some male attention would be nice perk lol. Just know you're not the only one out there. Believe me I know it's hard when everyone around you is either with someone or married..
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/282-single-peeps
    mfp singles group
    I'll be too busy celebrating a friends bday on vday to be sad and mope over being single. I have 364 days in year to do that!
  • dippystick
    dippystick Posts: 168 Member
    I'm single again with 6 kids. 5 of my kids all have significant others, including children still at home. My other son is in a coma in a nursing home so he doesn't know he's alone. I'm the only one in the family who is alone. I get really lonely especially this time of year. My work schedule (overnights) makes it hard to have friends. But such is life. I guess that's why I come here from time to time.
  • lurkette
    lurkette Posts: 25 Member
    My other son is in a coma in a nursing home so he doesn't know he's alone.

    Geez. That kind of trumps everything else, I think. So sorry about that. I know it would be easier for you to cope if you had someone to lean on, and I hope that comes along for you soon. Also, I hope your son comes out of it and makes a full recovery.
  • grassette
    grassette Posts: 976 Member
    Being single is a gift. You are free. You are young and in the prime of life. Now go out there and see who you can help out. Volunteer. Lead a youth group. Take courses. Learn. Take care of yourself spiritually. Don't let work take up all your time and energy. Build a life for yourself.
  • deltasierra
    deltasierra Posts: 6
    there is some irony in this, I am starting a course outside of work at the end of the month, but its a cookery course! whoops!! haha
  • mrdee555
    mrdee555 Posts: 178
    Being single is a gift. You are free. You are young and in the prime of life. Now go out there and see who you can help out. Volunteer. Lead a youth group. Take courses. Learn. Take care of yourself spiritually. Don't let work take up all your time and energy. Build a life for yourself.

    this
  • mywise
    mywise Posts: 43 Member
    I agree it sucks to be alone, but I split with the guy I was seeing 2 days after xmas and I have never been happier. I don't have the worries, sleepless nights etc. This new year is about me, and doing whats best for my daughter. It will all come together in the end.
  • hannata86
    hannata86 Posts: 57
    Being single is a gift. You are free. You are young and in the prime of life. Now go out there and see who you can help out. Volunteer. Lead a youth group. Take courses. Learn. Take care of yourself spiritually. Don't let work take up all your time and energy. Build a life for yourself.

    *nods*

    there are so many worse things than being single!!
  • dippystick
    dippystick Posts: 168 Member
    My other son is in a coma in a nursing home so he doesn't know he's alone.

    Geez. That kind of trumps everything else, I think. So sorry about that. I know it would be easier for you to cope if you had someone to lean on, and I hope that comes along for you soon. Also, I hope your son comes out of it and makes a full recovery.

    Thanks, but unfortunately he never will. He will have been in this coma/vegitative state for 12 years in May. His friend was playing with a loaded pistol and shot him on the night before he was to graduate high school.

    There are some things happening to him now that leads me to believe at some point this year we will be unplugging him for the last time. He has a feeding tube. I sat with him about 5 hours yesterday. He has a very bad cold and an infection between 2 of his toes. We don't treat with antibiotics for anything anymore. Someday one infection will get bad enough the suffering will end for all of us and there will finally be closure.

    I don't think I'll ever find anyone. This is kind of hard for most people to handle, so I go it alone.
  • Mom0fTwo
    Mom0fTwo Posts: 326 Member
    I think valentines day is a load of crock

    this is what it is based on:

    The Early Medieval acta of either Saint Valentine were expounded briefly in Legenda Aurea. According to that version, St Valentine was persecuted as a Christian and interrogated by Roman Emperor Claudius II in person. Claudius was impressed by Valentine and had a discussion with him, attempting to get him to convert to Roman paganism in order to save his life. Valentine refused and tried to convert Claudius to Christianity instead. Because of this, he was executed. Before his execution, he is reported to have performed a miracle by healing the blind daughter of his jailer. End of story

    This really has nothing to do with what everyone thinks valentines day is about LOL
    So when you are feeling down about this time of year think of the poor man that brought this on you, his luck was waaay worse LOL
  • andrejjorje
    andrejjorje Posts: 497 Member
    Gee guys. It takes a lot of many things to realize, understand and practice that. It is doable for few people but it is not easy. Small steps like becoming self confident, self motivated etc would be necessary to reach that level of spiritually.
    At this point she needs more practical advice. My personal opinion.

    Being single is a gift. You are free. You are young and in the prime of life. Now go out there and see who you can help out. Volunteer. Lead a youth group. Take courses. Learn. Take care of yourself spiritually. Don't let work take up all your time and energy. Build a life for yourself.

    this
  • melsinct
    melsinct Posts: 3,512 Member
    I know, I know...easy for me to say now that I am happily married, but I never thought it sucked to be single. I enjoyed the times throughout my life where I could just focus on myself. If you can't be generally happy in a life you created for yourself, that happiness won't magically appear because you are dating someone. It is absolutely true (and so cliche) that when you aren't looking is when you find someone. It's always when you least expect it.
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
    I much prefer being single. Hit up bars if you want to date, set up an Ok!Cupid account, rescue a dog from the shelter and hit up dog parks, just don't stay home with your fridge.
  • scapez
    scapez Posts: 2,018 Member
    Lost 20, still single and having fun while looking for THE one! :heart:
  • mg720
    mg720 Posts: 212 Member
    I know, I know...easy for me to say now that I am happily married, but I never thought it sucked to be single. I enjoyed the times throughout my life where I could just focus on myself. If you can't be generally happy in a life you created for yourself, that happiness won't magically appear because you are dating someone. It is absolutely true (and so cliche) that when you aren't looking is when you find someone. It's always when you least expect it.

    YES! can not agree with this more
  • cygnetpro
    cygnetpro Posts: 419 Member
    I was married for a long time. I've been single for a few years now. I have to admit that there are times that I miss being in a relationship (tired of going to the movies alone!). But in reality, one of the other posters nailed it-- you are FREE.

    I now plan vacations around what I want to do. I go wherever in the world strikes my fancy, and I don't have to worry about whether my ex will enjoy it. I go to bed when I want, I eat what I enjoy eating, and I can focus on things that feed my own soul.

    I know it's rough sometimes, and I must admit that sort of fear getting old alone. But try to embrace your singleness. Most of my friends in marriages and long term relationships are miserable, and they envy me! :smile:
  • ErinBeth7
    ErinBeth7 Posts: 1,625 Member
    It is hard being on your own this time of year. Christmas through V-day can be a lonely time. Especially, since the media rubs it in your face "get that special someone this or that." I try to remember why I stay single and think of some of my exes that did me wrong. Then I just get angry and think I am better on my own. Its a vicious circle!
  • Goalsforsusie
    Goalsforsusie Posts: 34 Member
    Get your gal pals together and have a Galentines day!!!!!
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    I've been mostly single almost a decade. I've found losing weight by itself isn't going to do it. You have to be out and about and seen.

    They don't just appear before you unfortunately. I'm still working on a gadget to teleport my soul mate to me.
  • nnapieralski
    nnapieralski Posts: 132 Member
    It's not about how much you way, it's about how confident you are. You could be a perfect size 4 and be GORGEOUS.....but it you don't have the confidence or attitude to back it up, no one will be attracted to you. Confidence is sexy.
  • Deedsie
    Deedsie Posts: 348 Member
    My other son is in a coma in a nursing home so he doesn't know he's alone.

    Geez. That kind of trumps everything else, I think. So sorry about that. I know it would be easier for you to cope if you had someone to lean on, and I hope that comes along for you soon. Also, I hope your son comes out of it and makes a full recovery.

    Thanks, but unfortunately he never will. He will have been in this coma/vegitative state for 12 years in May. His friend was playing with a loaded pistol and shot him on the night before he was to graduate high school.

    There are some things happening to him now that leads me to believe at some point this year we will be unplugging him for the last time. He has a feeding tube. I sat with him about 5 hours yesterday. He has a very bad cold and an infection between 2 of his toes. We don't treat with antibiotics for anything anymore. Someday one infection will get bad enough the suffering will end for all of us and there will finally be closure.

    I don't think I'll ever find anyone. This is kind of hard for most people to handle, so I go it alone.

    What a horrid thing to have to deal with any day of the year! I'm sorry you have had to deal with this for 12 years. You must be mentally and emotionally exhausted. Have you considered organ donation? I know that many people have religious views that prevent donation. I apologize if that is the case and I upset you further by mentioning but I know some families that have been in similar situations (my cousin died at 16 although he was only in a coma for 4 weeks following a car accident) and being able to have a part of their family live on and save someone else has very much soothed them. Kind Regards, Deedra
  • LaDiablesse
    LaDiablesse Posts: 862 Member
    Get your gal pals together and have a Galentines day!!!!!

    Love that....Galentine's day :smile:
  • miss_magzy
    miss_magzy Posts: 58 Member
    Being single is a gift. You are free. You are young and in the prime of life. Now go out there and see who you can help out. Volunteer. Lead a youth group. Take courses. Learn. Take care of yourself spiritually. Don't let work take up all your time and energy. Build a life for yourself.

    It's true. Rather then focusing on what you are missing out on, focus on what you GET a chance to do. TRAVEL , SHOP, Go out with friends, FLIRT! You have more free time and get really work on yourself. You have the rest of your life to be in a relationship. Enjoy the freedom!
  • airvan20
    airvan20 Posts: 17 Member
    It's a tough day to go through when you're single. I'm not looking forward to it. But I am working on myself so that when I do find someone, I will be more fit, in better shape, and be able to do a lot more things!
  • nickiw68
    nickiw68 Posts: 71
    Yep, agree with you totally, although I would say I have now lost 27 lbs and am slowly getting that confidence back, even to a point where I am starting to feel sexy again....so I'm on the look out for Mr Right!!!:heart::heart: :heart:
  • nickiw68
    nickiw68 Posts: 71
    Forgot to say, that losing weight means you can wear sexy clothes again too!!
  • onedayillbamilf
    onedayillbamilf Posts: 662 Member
    My other son is in a coma in a nursing home so he doesn't know he's alone.

    Geez. That kind of trumps everything else, I think. So sorry about that. I know it would be easier for you to cope if you had someone to lean on, and I hope that comes along for you soon. Also, I hope your son comes out of it and makes a full recovery.

    Thanks, but unfortunately he never will. He will have been in this coma/vegitative state for 12 years in May. His friend was playing with a loaded pistol and shot him on the night before he was to graduate high school.

    There are some things happening to him now that leads me to believe at some point this year we will be unplugging him for the last time. He has a feeding tube. I sat with him about 5 hours yesterday. He has a very bad cold and an infection between 2 of his toes. We don't treat with antibiotics for anything anymore. Someday one infection will get bad enough the suffering will end for all of us and there will finally be closure.

    I don't think I'll ever find anyone. This is kind of hard for most people to handle, so I go it alone.

    My heart goes out to you.
  • ErinBeth7
    ErinBeth7 Posts: 1,625 Member
    I know it's rough sometimes, and I must admit that sort of fear getting old alone. But try to embrace your singleness. Most of my friends in marriages and long term relationships are miserable, and they envy me! :smile:

    I agree! There are times its hard to be single. Some nights I wish I wasn't going to bed alone, but that moment usually passes. Since, I got out of my relationship last October (not by choice) I have had a total blast. I went to races, all kinds of concerts, and tried new bars. I've had so much fun. Some days I wish I was with someone and other days I couldn't be more glad to be single. Such an ebb and flow!
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