how do I tell if he might be into me?

Vodkha
Vodkha Posts: 352 Member
edited November 2024 in Chit-Chat
I went to hang out at this guys house tonite I have been previously talking to from online for the last year. We had not met earlier because I just moved back to the town he lives in. The first time we met was just a quick hi/bye deal with a few jokes here and there. Tonite was the first time we spent actual time together. I KNOW I am a grown woman and I should KNOW this stuff, but I am clueless. How can I tell if he might be into me more than a friend? He is shy, so I'm not sure if he would ever flat out tell me or give me hints so I'd figure it out?

We just hung out and watched some movies and played some video games. I normally feel very nervous around guys, but I felt really at ease around him. We have a lot in common, and seemed to be able to relax and joke around with each other. I made some stupid joke and he threw a blanket at me, He hit me on the top of my knee/thigh a few times, and I commented on how strong I was and he grabbed my wrists and obviously I couldn't get away, then I pinched him and he started trying to pinch me all over my legs. It's weird, but it felt like we had hung out 100 times before. I KNOW this sounds all very juvenile behavior, but what could I take from this?

I know I can't rush anything and this is the first time we hung out at length, but I just don't want to allow myself to start to like him if it isn't reciprocal.

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  • paulwgun
    paulwgun Posts: 439 Member
    I think hes probably in to you more than you think, and as hes a shy type is probably nervous about showing it in case he scares you away
    Been a long long time since I was in this type of situation but I am a shy type and failed to read the signs on a few occasions and since learned a few years later that the girl was interested but thought I wasn't interested

    Might it be a good idea to ask him ?
  • JennieAL
    JennieAL Posts: 1,726 Member
    If he's touching you on your legs and wrists... he certainly isn't repelled by you :) If he's making excuses to touch you physically, chances are pretty darn good he likes you.
  • JennieAL
    JennieAL Posts: 1,726 Member

    Might it be a good idea to ask him ?

    Don't ask him... just go with the flow. You'll know sooner or later.
  • fatboy_rob
    fatboy_rob Posts: 17 Member
    Trust me - he likes you.

    He's probably just Shy. Next time you see him leave this thread open on your phone/laptop.

    Then you'll know :-)
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    He likes you,stop asking questions and call him .:wink:
  • rsmithy89
    rsmithy89 Posts: 174 Member
    Yeah he likes you. Making physical contact is a good sign that hes interested. It seems he was looking for excuses to break down that barrier and make some sort of contact.

    He also invited you over to his place. Now why on earth would he do that? :P.

    Furthermore, you chilled with him at his place and even played video games with him. Whats not to like?

    Go for it. Guys dont just randomly invite girls over to their place. Hes keen.
  • Vodkha
    Vodkha Posts: 352 Member
    So, guys usually dont touch girls they arent into? Even if they are just playing around? I feel so stupid asking this stuff!!
  • warmachinejt
    warmachinejt Posts: 2,162 Member
    i am shy. I would not touch you unless i knew a little bit about you...
    careful because from my experience shy people will be nice but apparently that doesn't mean they like you
  • kb455
    kb455 Posts: 679 Member
    I think you're way over-thinking it. Try to just let things play out and see how it goes. You don't want to analyze every single touch or every word that comes out of his mouth.... you'll drive yourself nuts. It sounds like he does like you... I would think if he DIDN'T like you, he wouldn't be acting so playful with you.
  • Devlyn_P
    Devlyn_P Posts: 294 Member
    Guys don't give up their location unless they are really into you.
  • j4nash
    j4nash Posts: 1,719 Member
    just go for it, lay one on him :)
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    I think it can go either way... or in between. It's way too early to tell. I'm not sure if you followed my story (ha!) but it was like this... we are friends now. Now I will say, I believe there is sexual tension between us. There are comments said sometimes that are questionable since we are "just" friends.

    A guy once told me that I will know when a guy is into me. He will follow me around like a puppy dog and will want to be around me. I've chosen to listen to this. In your situation, it's early. Just pay attention to his actions. Does he call? Does he ask you out?
    I wouldn't go by the touches or the playfulness. He can just be a playful person. Or like I said, there can be sexual tension but he still might prefer you as a friend.

    Take your time and observe.
  • warmachinejt
    warmachinejt Posts: 2,162 Member
    follow me around like a puppy dog and will want to be around me.
    quoted for the truth that's what i would do
  • Spinelli2288
    Spinelli2288 Posts: 188 Member
    It sounds like shy guy wants your naughty bits. :happy:
  • Vodkha
    Vodkha Posts: 352 Member
    Thanks for the replies. He seemed very quiet when I first arrived but by the end, was playing around and seemed really relaxed. I really don't want to analyze everything he says and does, I just don't want to put myself out there if he doesn't like me back. Should I ask to hang out again sometime? Or should I wait til he asks? I really don't want to play games with him. I know with him, he tells it like it is. I think if he didn't want to hang out again, he'd just tell me.
  • perrybucsdad
    perrybucsdad Posts: 36 Member
    Shy guys sometimes like it when the girl makes the first move... so go for it.
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