Problems with my workout buddy?

LiviLou2011
LiviLou2011 Posts: 437 Member
edited November 9 in Health and Weight Loss
So me and my bestfriend started this journey together, ive been tracking my calories of course, and exercising big time almost everyday (ive taken one day off) and im doing really well...
But my friend and partner in this decided she wasnt going to track her calories anymore which i thought wasnt the best idea considering i know how we both are with food, but i accepted it of course, the last time we went to the gym was about two weeks ago and ive been exercising since, and ive been trying to encourage her to do the same because i know how she gets down on herself about her weight but then she went off on this two week drinking binge she gained all her weight back ( it was 5 pounds) Ive told her she shouldnt drink so much because well thats alot of calories and its not healthy to drink that much, this is about the 5th time shes told me she wasnt going to drink anymore..i just dont like going back and telling her how good im doing, i feel guilty because .ive lost a bit and she gained hers back and i know that it makes her depressed.

I want me and her to do this together!! but i dont know if shes really taking this seriously..and i dont know what to say to her to help her,what do you think?

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  • gashinshotan
    gashinshotan Posts: 749 Member
    She needs to address her alcoholism before she can drop weight.... I was like her and would lose 5 lbs or so but I kept on drinking and what happened was that I always just ended up drinking instead of exercising haha. When I cut off the drinking my weightloss seemed a ton easier cuz I wasn't getting alcohol munchies and because I wasn't so hungover that I didn't even want to do anything but sit/lay around to recover.
  • Ten10
    Ten10 Posts: 223 Member
    I know this may sound harsh but sometimes you have to do it alone. I too had work out buddies but it was always something too cold, too hot or too tired I decided that I could and needed to do this by myself needless to say I have a new work out buddy my iPod. I am not saying that you should give up on your friend but sometime you have to continue your journey by yourself.
  • joehoward
    joehoward Posts: 7
    Dont ever feel guilty for losing weight, especially since you are sticking to your calorie counting and exercise. You dont need to tell her how you are doing she will be able to see it in your clothes size dropping and over all look, maybe that will spark her to start. People have false starts all the time and you never know which one is gonna be the one they stick it out, just dont fall into the pitfall of going out to dinner with her and splurging just because she is, continue you count your calories and exercise and maybe she will come around.
  • kit_katty
    kit_katty Posts: 992 Member
    That's got to be really frustrating. I would suggest not suggesting anything to her, not talking to her about her alcohol issue and maybe cut back or out what you say about your weightloss. Just lead by example, just show her how well you're doing and if she wants to get back on the band wagon, then you'll be there for her, end of story. You can't force someone else, and pushing you could lose a friend. Good luck!
  • LiviLou2011
    LiviLou2011 Posts: 437 Member
    thanks you guys :) good advice
  • sarahh1992
    sarahh1992 Posts: 59
    i work out alone, me and my sister started doing it together, but that just lead to us trying to be better than each other, so that didnt work, i think you need to decide whats good for yourself :) i personally like working out better on my own, means i can focus on me.

    good luck :)
  • lalinzki
    lalinzki Posts: 121
    Dont ever feel guilty for losing weight, especially since you are sticking to your calorie counting and exercise. You dont need to tell her how you are doing she will be able to see it in your clothes size dropping and over all look, maybe that will spark her to start. People have false starts all the time and you never know which one is gonna be the one they stick it out, just dont fall into the pitfall of going out to dinner with her and splurging just because she is, continue you count your calories and exercise and maybe she will come around.
    That's some really good advice..
  • bigbeardiver
    bigbeardiver Posts: 154 Member
    I agree. I started back in Dec after taking 2 years off and my first 5 weeks back. Nothing, no noticable changes. Then the next 5 weeks things started to happen. False starts are common, but once you get into the swing of things it keeps going. I always tell myself, whether or not I have results .... this is still better than just sitting on a couch watching pain dry.

    I stopped drinking during this time too. For fun I entered in my typical night out of eating and drinking ... OMG 2,000 calories from drinking alone. No wonder I was where I was at!
  • BrianSharpe
    BrianSharpe Posts: 9,248 Member
    There's not much you can do other than being supportive and encouraging; it's like quitting smoking - she'll only get serious about improving her health when she makes that decision. What's important is that you're setting a good example and she can see that with a bit of work and self-discipline she can make positive changes in her life too.
  • qtiekiki
    qtiekiki Posts: 1,490 Member
    Not much you can do. She has to want it for herself. Ditto the poster who said to lead by example. Sometimes talking to someone about what they shouldn't be doing can have negative effects. BTW keep up the good work.
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