would you tell or not?

put yourself in her shoes. If she knew your husband was cheating and hadn't told you, would it damage your relationship once you found out?

For me it's a no-brainer, I'd tell. I'd be furious if I found out my friends knew and didn't tell me.

Definitely tell her. I don't think you should do it anonymously, just sit her down and show her, it will be tough, but she has the right to know.

I would tell her. If she is your friend you dont want her to catch a disease by the moron. It's gonna cause her a lot of pain, but its better for her to find out and move on and find somebody that is worth spending the rest of her life with. I've been cheated on and I found out by myself. After I found out I found out that everyone around me knew but didtn have the cojones to tell me. It hurt beyond believe when I found out but I was thankful to have found out and find somebody else than to keep living in a lie.


TELL HER!!!!!!!!:frown:

Tell her about it.... don't send it anonymously.

If he's on that site, he may be on others too! I'd tell her. Just because he's taken that profile down, doesn't mean he's removed others - and won't do it again. I'd tell her for sure x

If he's on that site, he may be on others too! I'd tell her. Just because he's taken that profile down, doesn't mean he's removed others - and won't do it again. I'd tell her for sure x

That's not even what I mean, its only part of it. The whole poingt is, you're her friend, you know, you have a duty to her to tell her. I'd want to know. And if I found out my friends knew if that was me, I'd feel even more let down.

If your friends husband has been on a dating site it stands to reason that he's looking for SOMETHING to fill a void in his life. Even if he hasnt done anything about it yet, theres a deff possibility he might. As her friend i think you need to tell her....who knows, after its out in the open they will be able to deal with the issue and put things right BEFORE it goes any further

Email the screenshot to him and have him tell her.

Once upon a time I would have said "yeah you have to tell her", but after the fiance of a friend of mine made a revolting pass at me (years ago) I told her sister knowing it would get back to her. NIghtmare for all ensued. SHe rang me at work! Demanding to know what was said exactly, word for word almost. SHe was really cold towards me asking me these questions. When she'd established that her fiance was really drunk, she said "thank you" put down the phone and then I never heard from her again, for yEARS. We had a lot of mutual friends, and there were things that she arranged and didn't invite me to. That hurt a lot. My reward for 'doing the right thing' was to be excluded from various meet ups and meals out that I would have loved to have gone to. But mutual friends didn't really want to get involved, bring it all up again, or fight my corner I guess. Eventually she did ditch the fiance, so I guess what happend did chip away at her trust in him. After she dumped him, she didn't immediately re-establish the friendship, but over the course of the next five years or so, because we have mutual friends we did genuinely become friends again. Thank goodness, because I really like her. But my advice would be that if you value HER friendship, think very carefully about being the messenger. It#'s true what they say, the messenger gets shot.

she should definatley get told about this!! just think all of her friends that know this and she doesnt even know herself! you should get her to sit down with a coffee of something and talk to her about it. and then she can decide what she wants to do from then onwards.

different situation with me - but i cheated on my ex last year. i was going out with him, and slept with a few other lads at the time! (not just another 1 lad, im talking 5!) and i got caught out in the end, and my bf (at the time) went thro my phone and saw all the texts! its not nice, and i have learnt my lesson not to do it again! because i lost someone i really loved at the time.

but she should definately know about this! and whether they both can sort it out, or whatever she decides to do

Having an account on a datingsite does not mean he actually cheated on her yet!

That is the silliest comment, why else would this person be on the site, he may not of cheated YET but that would be the plan ! ! !

I have been in your situation, my friend's husband was chatting online and was posting close-up shots of his penis....... I blocked him but kept his profile so I could show my friend when I told her, he said on his profile he was single, I too like you lived a long way from my friend so I had to tell her over the phone. You have to tell you friend to protect her from catching something from him if he isn't careful. The question is would you want to be told if it was happening to you. Your friend may react badly and not believe you but at least you know you have tried to help her and I am sure she will be grateful in the end.

When you phone your friend make sure you both have time to talk on the phone, be calm, be honest and let her know you are there for her in anyway you can help.

I think you have to tell her. She probably won't want to hear it, and she probably will hang up on you, but I think she needs to hear it. It would be best if the friend who actually saw it could tell her though.

I guess there is some website now where you can anonymously send a message saying "your partner is cheating on you."