So Sick of all the people that say - you just have to....

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  • HotBodUnderConstruction
    HotBodUnderConstruction Posts: 420
    I am so sick of telling everyone that I am trying to lose weight and they say....

    "you just have to work out" or "you just have to diet" or "you just have to eat low carb" - funny - these statements are not coming from the most physcially fit or athletic people I know either... I am doing all of it and still having problems and I am just getting so sick of everyone that thinks they know better.

    I mean really... my friend who drinks a liter of alcohol on the weekend is telling me I ate too many calories yesterday cause I ate 1575 and went to the gym and did 47 mins on the elliptical. Give me a break!

    So frustrating.

    I mean...you do "just" have to exercise and eat healthy. No, it's not easy to do this on a regular basis. It is very hard to exercise everyday, and stay within your macros...but really that's all there is to it. There will always be bumps down the road...you will overeat...you will be too tired to exercise...etc but yeah...at the end of the day it depends on how hard you workout and what goes in your mouth. And before everyone jumps down my throat...yes I used to be overweight and yes I have friends that are much thinner than me (and even people that are bigger) that tell me "what" to do...it just doesn't bother me? Oh well.
  • clouddancer7
    clouddancer7 Posts: 7 Member
    I have a friend who is a large person and when I told her that I have lost like 22 lbs. (I lost some before I joined this site but put in my current weight at the time I joined so that I can keep better records on here) proceeded to tell me how to lose weight faster and better according to her. I just told her that if she knew how to lose weight, why wasn't she applying her own advice to herself because she needs it as much as I do. That shut her right up cause she knew I was right. Some people just don't understand that what may work for them may not work for someone else. We are all built differently.
  • tinamatteson
    tinamatteson Posts: 125 Member
    That is why I never let anyone know about my "lifestyle changes." People think they know better. Its easy to sit on the sidelines but until you are in the thick of it I don't want to hear your "ideas." So unless people are being supportive wtih ideas or wanting to exchange tips I politely remind them that I never ASKED for help :drinker:

    I think thats a good idea - maybe I will just keep it to myself from now on. I think I get way too frustrated listening to everyone be know it alls, they certainly are not putting in the time and effort I am.

    You are so right! It's funny the way my overweight friends want to offer me advice like "Don't go to the gym so often or you'll burn out,"etc. I don't tell them anything anymore.
  • 57rainbows
    57rainbows Posts: 101 Member
    "Great! Would you like to join me in my weight loss and fitness journey? See you at the gym! Let me know how your weigh in goes! Yay fitness buddies!"


    Okay, so you probably don't actually want to say that, but it can be tempting to toss it right back at them. If it's so easy, you should be in the shape of your life, buddy, so lets get busy!
  • skinnieminniemouse
    skinnieminniemouse Posts: 118
    Everybody is different and loses at different rates, but anyone with common sense knows the only long lasting way to lose weight is healthy eating and exercise. Alcohol is stuffed to the brim with calories so your friend is being stupid, it annoys me when people moan that they aren't shifting any weight when they drink SO much every week! Also, your calorie intake was still below the recommended AND you did exercise! Your friend is chatting rubbish!!
  • onek9lover
    onek9lover Posts: 58
    Some people are just obnxious and some people actually mean well because maybe it worked for them in the past and something happened in their life that caused them to lose focus. We are all guilty of this on some level in some aspect of life, ie weightloss, relationships, work, etc.

    A lot of people myself included tend to forget that we are all different and we don't always know all the factors that make other people who/what they are.

    Just a suggestion if you are struggling with loss have you seen your doctor? If you haven't maybe ask about being tested for hypothyroidism or PCOS. Obviously I don't know your medical background, but these are two things I was diagnosed with that hinder my weightloss.

    Actually I am seeing a metabolism and hormone specialist tomorrow - so exicted! I've been freaking out about it... Since Jan 2nd I have been going to the gym 4 days a week and I've only lost a couple lbs - like three or four. I am aslo watching what I eat so much more. I also play competitive sports twice a week and I am just at a breaking point, waiting to see some results... and even though I have been at about 1500 cals a day and working out - I need to cut back even more... like big time. But the hunger is hard.
  • onek9lover
    onek9lover Posts: 58
    The worst part of all this has been people looking at me and I can tell they judge... they think I binge all night... truthfully I do have really nice meals out with my fiance.. or they think I am not active.. couldn't be further from the truth. Its just frustrating to look the way I do and work the way I do... okay PITY PARTY IS OVER

    thanks for all the amazing advice... I am glad everyone likes the post - I think we all know that feeling... there is some comfort in knowing (even if I don't look like it) that I am my peak physical stamina since my lowest weight... even if I don't show it, I will school you in an elliptical session!
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    I got told a few things at my heaviest. Mostly no carbs and not to run. At the time I did listen to the carbs part. I had diabetes and my doctor recommended I do a atkins light version of the diet. As for the running part, I never listened. I was told all the time that running @ 400+ lbs. was a bad idea by everyone. It just drove me harder to prove everyone wrong. Never once have I injured myself or anything. Did my homework, got properly fitted running shoes, and I go at my own pace.
  • tollgirl01
    tollgirl01 Posts: 1
    yea I love those people,, just go to the gym, and you can eat whatever you want, oh yea, I work 2 jobs, really dont have time for the gym, unless you dont have to sleep...
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