Tips for when your spouse doesnt need to lose!

Hi!! Well here goes don't know if it will help.... My new husband could lose ten pounds but has a higher metabolism and is not motivated... I am toning and firming and not losing as I had hoped but small gains first!

I use a lunch plate!! That has helped the most because my plate looks full and is plenty calorie wise for me.

I cook healthy foods and everyone has to eat that! I am not a short order cook. They all need healthy so it will not hurt them to eat beans, chicken and lean meats, and veggies.I do cook fairly large portions- my 15 yr old son eats a lot- and he could lose some too.

And I discovered the web site Skinny Taste for all sorts of dinner recipes and Chocolate covered Kate for desserts!!

Good luck! I grew up in the military,my ex husband was military, my daughter is an army bride!

Kim

Hope this helps... but always have a protein, two veggies, and 1 starch and to his meals add an extra serving or 2 of protein and extra starch... for your plate do your 1 protein, add an extra serving of veggies, and reduce your starch portion to about half. It's hard... when my cholesterol went up the roof... my husband was able to eat cheeseburgers and it was so depressing to see my plate with all this lettuce and plain sesame sprinkled tofu... good luck..... just don't give up!

In my opinion there is no 'silver bullet' answer for this. My X and I were on VERY different diets (I'm Paleo and she likes cookies for dinner). The only advice I can give you is to eat clean - which wouldn't hurt either of you - and allow for his higher caloric requirements by cooking a higher cal but still clean food like sweet potatoes or something to supplement. Is he taking any kind of protein supplements?

I'm a vegetarian and my fiance isn't, so I'm used to making two separate meals. But, for the wedding, he's trying to gain weight and I'm trying to lose. So we still eat dinner together, and I want him to still eat healthy, so I give him veggies and healthy protein like chicken breast, but he gets waaaay more carbs than I do, like rice/potato/pasta/bread. So I eat much smaller portions, tofu instead of chicken, more veggies, less or no carbs. That way we're still eating healthy, but portions that are right for our goals. And for lunch, I'm eating low-calorie, homemade soup, but he's taking piles of pasta. I still sneak in some fruit in his lunch box though! When you're out to eat, make sure you go somewhere that has healthy options and smaller portions for you and larger portions or a more hearty option for him, or share one large dish. Good luck!

My boyfriend is smaller and has a high metabolism.....he's trying to gain weight. He loves southern food and i do to so to cope i make healthier choices but add in a southern style food every once in awhile just for him. He complains about some of the things i eat but i tell him i want you healthy like me and your not cooking so stop complaining.

I tend to make his plate much larger than mine, but were still eating the same things

My husband is 5'10" and 145lbs. Being in the military, he does A LOT of Physical Training, and needs quite a bit of calories to offset his very physically demanding job.

Problem is, I have 140lbs to lose! Any tips on how to get him the food he needs, while being diligent in my calorie counting?

sounds just like me my husband is fit and in the navy and i have 130 tolose