Weight loss for men - from a girl to her boyfriend

Mollydolly10
Mollydolly10 Posts: 431 Member
edited November 10 in Health and Weight Loss
Hi all!

My boyfriend has been watching me train and run various races, working up to a 5k, to a 10k, 10 miler, half marathon, and now 6 weeks away from a marathon. He is really impressed with my fitness and what it's done for my body (haha) and he is now realizing his weight gain in his stomach.

He is 23, in grad school (graduates in May), and all his college late night pizza eating and beer drinking is catching up to him. He doesn't look at nutrition labels, guzzles 2% milk, and generally just eats junk. He isn't fat by any measure, but he is, in his own words, lazy and has a little beer belly going on.

He has asked for my help in getting started to being healthier and losing weight, but he doesn't know where to begin. He's really laid back and wouldn't do well jumping head first into a precise calorie-counting and exercise regime right away as he works on this thesis and looks for a job.

Anyways, I am trying to find a infographic/website that isn't too overloaded, just the basics, for men losing weight. A lot of the sources I used are pretty girly, and I don't want to turn him off from it, so I would love some help from the men out there on STARTING OUT weight loss for men. As you all know, if you start too fast/too hard, you're more likely to quit - so I'm not talking an intense body building routine, just some tips/pointer.

Thanks so much!

Edit: In the past, he was really into martial arts - he is a black belt in Tae Kwan Do (back in the day!) but it's been probably 7-8 years since he's done it - but he's expressed interest in getting back into something like that

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  • NeuroticVirgo
    NeuroticVirgo Posts: 3,671 Member
    www.menshealth.com .... a little overloaded, but have quite a few articles online and its all "manly" LOL

    Good luck!
  • BerryH
    BerryH Posts: 4,698 Member
    Get him on MFP! Food tracking will make 90% of the difference and there are loads of inspirational, knowledgeable guys who can answer all his fitness questions!
  • jskaggs1971
    jskaggs1971 Posts: 371 Member
    What does he WANT to do? Before jumping headfirst into something as time-consuming as calorie tracking, why not start off with just a little more exercise at first. Is he interested in running with you? Obviously, since you're training for a marathon, you've got a great fitness base already. You could do the first few weeks of C25K with him pretty easily, and probably without much impact to your marathon training. Or, he could get a bike, or really any other activity that he likes to do. Finding a fun and rewarding athletic pursuit is, IMO WAY better than starting out with calorie counting.
  • Get him on here. Read www.nerdfitness.com. Have him add me. You can too if you'd like!
  • Shizzman
    Shizzman Posts: 527 Member
    NF is a great suggestion and mostly it is about finding what he'll like enjoy. So looking at activities he already gets up to or has interest in. I try not to always talk about CF cause I know it isn't everyone's cup of tea :)
  • kealambert
    kealambert Posts: 961 Member
    just brace yourself, before you know it he'll be in great shape and bugging you to bum along on marathons and the like haha
  • redraidergirl2009
    redraidergirl2009 Posts: 2,560 Member
    First educate him on the calories in beer. That's a lot of guys problem. They might eat okay or not terribly, but taking in a six pack once a week and that adds up.
  • Kimbie500
    Kimbie500 Posts: 388 Member
    Suggest he check out the podcasts on fat2fitradio.com. The 2 male hosts of the podcast advocate slow change and transitioning to living like the thinner, healthier person you want to become. The advice is practical and reasonal for men AND women.
  • Have him check out www.coreperformance.com. These guys train D1 college athletes and a lot of pros - but they have all levels of programs. I've dropped 16 pounds in six weeks following their Weight Loss workout program. All of the subject matter experts there have incredible backgrounds.
  • My husband went through this espeically when I was working with a personal trainer. He now rides his bike to work as well which has helped. His biggest problem was the sweets, I used to joke that he would have dessert after every meal. Now he just has dessert after dinner and he cut out all of his soda except one Hansen's at lunch. Those 3 changes were easy for him and made him much more aware of what he was putting in his body and he dropped 20 lbs without even trying. So find out from you boyfriend what habits he wants to change and maybe he can find a way to moderate those habits instead of getting rid of the beer and pizza entirely. I think exercise will cause him to want to eat better though. Some men can track calories, I know for my husband, he doesn't get it, and thinks it's pointless for him, but knows it works for me.
  • MelKut
    MelKut Posts: 167 Member
    I think what would help is just changing the foods he eats. Sticking to one or two beers, having ONE slice of pizza. Switching to 1% or skim milk, whole grain products, adding more fruits and veggies, mozzarella cheese, raw nuts as snacks. Some people just can't track every day, but I really think that if he just makes small changes, it will add up. And not all at once necessarily, mention some of the ideas and talk it over with him, see what kind of changes he thinks are good and have him make some suggestions (which you can inform him about if they are good or bad suggestions).

    My dad is the same way, he is about 6'4" 230-240 lbs, but he can drop 15-20 lbs in 6-7 weeks just by having half a loaf of homemade bread for lunch instead of a whole loaf (lol) and not taking jam to lunch for his dessert (as well as other small changes). He tells me, "I just eat until I'm full, then stop. If I feel hungry later, I'll have a fruit." or at dinner when we set a soda on the table "No, just bring me water, my jeans are starting to feel a bit tighter."
    But I would NEVER expect to see him logging calories....
  • 0RESET0
    0RESET0 Posts: 128
    Sounds like he just needs to get himself moving again. if he wants to get back into martial arts, sign him up. they will whip him back into shape in no time. No sense in overloading him with the full calorie counting thing if he only has the sophomore 15+. Once he is living the healthy lifestyle and mingling with those that do as well, he will start to have interest in other healthy activities that he hears about.
  • tlkerch
    tlkerch Posts: 3 Member
    Although I am not a guy, I would suggest he work towards getting back into martial arts if that is what he likes. However, losing a few pounds and becoming more energetic first will help him be successful. Rather than worry about calorie counting just yet, start by helping him make better food choices....less pizza and less beer. Maybe add in some of those lacking foods such as fruits and veggies. Next help get him moving. On your low mile days or off days, encourage him to go for a walk with you....remembering to walk HIS pace, as you are there for him on this event.

    Yes, this is a great site, but it might be overwhelming at first. Show him the site and how you use it, then leave it alone. Let him decide when he is ready to use it.

    Be patient, be positive, and be present with him as he makes his journey.
  • jcstanton
    jcstanton Posts: 1,849 Member
    Hi all!

    My boyfriend has been watching me train and run various races, working up to a 5k, to a 10k, 10 miler, half marathon, and now 6 weeks away from a marathon. He is really impressed with my fitness and what it's done for my body (haha) and he is now realizing his weight gain in his stomach.

    He is 23, in grad school (graduates in May), and all his college late night pizza eating and beer drinking is catching up to him. He doesn't look at nutrition labels, guzzles 2% milk, and generally just eats junk. He isn't fat by any measure, but he is, in his own words, lazy and has a little beer belly going on.

    He has asked for my help in getting started to being healthier and losing weight, but he doesn't know where to begin. He's really laid back and wouldn't do well jumping head first into a precise calorie-counting and exercise regime right away as he works on this thesis and looks for a job.

    Anyways, I am trying to find a infographic/website that isn't too overloaded, just the basics, for men losing weight. A lot of the sources I used are pretty girly, and I don't want to turn him off from it, so I would love some help from the men out there on STARTING OUT weight loss for men. As you all know, if you start too fast/too hard, you're more likely to quit - so I'm not talking an intense body building routine, just some tips/pointer.

    Thanks so much!

    Edit: In the past, he was really into martial arts - he is a black belt in Tae Kwan Do (back in the day!) but it's been probably 7-8 years since he's done it - but he's expressed interest in getting back into something like that

    I don't think MFP has to be complicated. For instance, when I first started on MFP I was logging my food religiously. However, after about a month or so, I started to get frustrated b/c things were starting to get too complicated. Eventually, I stopped logging at all, and I noticed that some of my old eating habits were starting to creep back in. So, at the beginning of the year I resolved to take about twenty minutes each evening to plan all my meals out the night before; and I "quick add" all my calories, rather than log each individual item/ingredient. It's much faster, less complicated, and if I have everything planned out in advance, I find that I'm more successful at sticking to it the next day. I still log my water intake and my daily exercise, as these tools help me to stay accountable in these areas. So far, it seems to be working.

    As far as workouts go, they don't have to be complicated either. Absolutely, he should get involved in an activity that he enjoys. He'll be more likely to stick with it that way. However, unless he's going to his martial arts class three or four times/week, that alone isn't going to cut it. I would encourage him to pay attention to what he does during the course of an average day. I'm betting that there are some things he spends thirty to forty five minutes a day doing that aren't really necessary. Make daily exercise the priority and cut out the stuff that's not necessary. I'm sure he can find 30min-1hr a day to squeeze in a workout. Maybe some days he could even go running with you. Eventually, though, he will have to add some strength training to maintain adequate muscle mass. Strength training doesn't have to be done at the gym, though. Maybe invest in the P90X system or something like that, which can be done at home with minimal equipment.
  • sunnyk8
    sunnyk8 Posts: 125 Member
    Do you think you could get him to run a 5k with you? That might be a good way to start... I did that with my boyfriend, who was never really a runner, and he enjoyed it.
  • akjmart2002
    akjmart2002 Posts: 263 Member
    First educate him on the calories in beer. That's a lot of guys problem. They might eat okay or not terribly, but taking in a six pack once a week and that adds up.

    This is a pretty big deal, actually. You can totally blow your weight loss efforts out of the water with just a few pints in the evening. He needs to understand how beer calories vary with alcohol content and volume, and plan his drinking accordingly.

    For myself, I'd rather have fewer *good* beers than switch to some "low-cal" stuff like Miller Lite, so calculate the calories for all my favorites and get them in the plan.

    Since most beer calories come from the alcohol, you can get a good estimate by measuring a given beer against a known baseline - say, Budweiser. A 12 oz Bud is 150 calories at 5% ABV. The formula to measure a beer's calories can therefore be given as:

    ((vol * ABV)/60)*150

    So if I have a pint of IPA at 6.5% ABV, then my calories are

    ((16*6.5)/60)*150 = 260 calories
  • NightOwl1
    NightOwl1 Posts: 881 Member
    I'm definitely a big supporter of Martial Arts for fitness and weight loss. If he wants to get into another program (possibly training in another discipline he's not as experienced in), I strongly recommend it. I find it to be very motivational and easy to keep up with.

    But as others have said, the key is to find things that work best for him. The issue isn't so much about going too hard, too fast, but about finding something he finds enjoyable. Then he'll want to go hard and fast.

    Then have him lay off the pizza and beer as much, and stay away from fast food and have him eat at home more than eating out. All these should help.
  • kyle4jem
    kyle4jem Posts: 1,400 Member
    My much beloved has been so impressed (and to a certain extent shamed) by my weightloss that he's decided it's time to work on losing his beer belly.

    Well I say beer belly, but he only drinks beer at the weekends - it's spirits or wine during the week - but it was the potatoes and the crackers & cheese that were his weakness.

    He's been watching what he eats and obviously we also share a good wholesome and calorie controlled meal together in the evenings. He'll never join MFP, because he's not a PC bod - he uses one at work and to pay the bills, but doesn't go online like I do (which when you consider that we actually met online is a bloody wonder!:laugh:) However, he did order a static exercise bike(and has a push bike up the shed) but it hasn't seen much use, although it's early days.

    I shall be very supportive of his every effort, but I'm not going to be a preachy nagging husband - he gets enough of that just as a matter of course :laugh:
  • cabaray
    cabaray Posts: 971 Member
    I will probably be in the minority here, but other than suggesting ditching the beer and pizza, I wouldn't push him to try right now. He has graduate school and a thesis to work on. He graduates in May. Sounds like he's not in terrible shape. Waiting a few more months for the stress to go away isn't going to hurt. Once he graduates, then he will have the time and probably more motivation to work on getting in shape.
  • Rage_Phish
    Rage_Phish Posts: 1,507 Member
    First educate him on the calories in beer. That's a lot of guys problem. They might eat okay or not terribly, but taking in a six pack once a week and that adds up.

    This is a pretty big deal, actually. You can totally blow your weight loss efforts out of the water with just a few pints in the evening. He needs to understand how beer calories vary with alcohol content and volume, and plan his drinking accordingly.

    For myself, I'd rather have fewer *good* beers than switch to some "low-cal" stuff like Miller Lite, so calculate the calories for all my favorites and get them in the plan.

    Since most beer calories come from the alcohol, you can get a good estimate by measuring a given beer against a known baseline - say, Budweiser. A 12 oz Bud is 150 calories at 5% ABV. The formula to measure a beer's calories can therefore be given as:

    ((vol * ABV)/60)*150

    So if I have a pint of IPA at 6.5% ABV, then my calories are

    ((16*6.5)/60)*150 = 260 calories

    I'm a huge beer drinker, or I was. I loved high calorie IPA's. Tell him to do like i did, switch to WHISKEY!
  • sharonsjones
    sharonsjones Posts: 574 Member
    just brace yourself, before you know it he'll be in great shape and bugging you to bum along on marathons and the like haha

    Thats what happened with my husband. He started out walking while I went on my runs, then he would run a little ways with me and before you know it we did a half marathon together! Now he runs with me every time and I love it, I love having a running partner. He also started using MFP and I helped him set it up and enter foods and now he does it everyday. Hes lost 30 pounds so far. Good luck!!
  • Tell him to follow you while you are running. It's hard at the beginning, but thing will get better :)
  • wombat94
    wombat94 Posts: 352 Member
    I'll echo what others here have already said.

    I was NEVER an athlete - totally sedentary, until I started Taekwondo a couple of years ago because my daughters were both doing it and it wouldn't cost any extra at their school for me to try it out.

    Well.. that finally got me started and the fitness benefits have been great.

    Now I'm looking forward to my black belt testing in June, I have started a Couch to 5K running program and am now exercising for 30 - 60 minutes 6 days a week.

    Total weight loss passed 50 pounds this week.

    But a big key to me has been my fitness pal - the iPhone app is so easy to use, that I am finally logging food. I never did that in the past and I NEVER really knew where the calories were coming from... now I do and it has change my relationship with food entirely.

    So... if he's interested in restarting taekwondo, encourage him to make the time for it. If you and he are interested in doing something together, encourage him to start doing short runs - a couch 2 5k program is a great way to get up and get moving. I've found it really motivational because of the obvious progress that you make in the first few weeks. And if he's at all interested in working on the intake side of the equation, I can't think of a better place than right here at MFP to get him started.

    Ted
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