Really discouraged

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Keep up the hard work and you will see results. You're not struggling alone - there are a lot of us that have a battle going on in our heads trying to convince ourselves we don't really want to eat [insert your weakness here]. I promise it gets easier over time. Good habits will become second nature and eventually you can stop craving fast food. It took me almost a year to completely stop craving fast food. Now it usually makes me sick :sick: so it's MUCH easier to avoid.

Don't give up! Keep fighting!

I know that feeling!! One time I worked my bee-hind off for an entire week and gained 1lb. I cried. My husband had to comfort me allll day. But here's the bottom line: You are NOT fat and ugly. Our bodies are going to go through ups and downs. Sometimes we'll lose a ton, and other times we won't. That's just the way this journey goes. Don't let your mind tell you to give up! Keep going! Don't give in to that disgusting food that's just going to make you feel worse and possibly put you back on a destructive path. Know that there are millions of people going through the SAME thing!

You can do this! The fact that you care at all is a step ahead of the game of most people. You can do this!!!

Remember that you're not here simply to just watch numbers on a scale tick lower and lower (or are you?). There are significant health risks associated with being overweight. And also realize that weight loss is not always a neat, negatively sloping line where you can see the exact same progress distributed evenly over weeks and months. There are bumps in the road, plateaus and numerous other factors that affect whether or not you see numbers on the scale move or not.

My advice? Be patient. Take measurements. Don't beat yourself up for days where your weigh-ins aren't ideal or you aren't seeing the exact progress you want to see. Make action plans. Plan to fail - and make action plans to react to that (i.e. put in an extra workout, etc). Also, be careful about making changes you CANNOT or WILL NOT sustain indefinitely. Your comment regarding "eating like a rabbit" concerns me - it makes me think this is not something you will WANT to keep up after you've reached your goal weight. This is a lifestyle change and not a 2 month dive from your normal habits just to drop a few pounds and then regain them in the next 4 months, right?

This is a journey, not a race. It takes time. Remind yourself of all the reasons you want to stay on this path. Stay the course. You'll get there.

Hello everyone. I hate to chime in as the husband here, but I wanted to clarify something my wife put in her post. She mentioned "eating like a rabbit" which is kind of an inside joke that seems to have leaked in to her post. That came about when I made a joke two years ago about eating carrots. It stuck them in my teeth and made clicking sounds and everything! Since then it has kind of been and inside joke to refer to any veggies. She actually does really well eating veggies and enjoys them maybe more than I do. I just wanted to clarify that statement. The sentiment about longevity of our eating habits is a good point that many seem to have made. We have made an effort to make foods, particularly at dinner, that are tasty and healthy. I think a part of the problem here comes in the comparison. I'm sure most of you will agree that it is completely unfair to compare the weight loss of men and women. In my weigh in I lost 4 pounds (though it was almost all water weight) and that contributes to the frustration of diet and exercise for her. For the most part you ladies have a tougher hill to climb then do a lot of us guys and I admire the work and determination it takes to accomplish what you do. I hope that doesn't come off as sexist in any way.

Baby your husband thinks you are beautiful! I'm here to support you every step of the way in this. Listen to the advice on this post. Everything I've heard sounds like positive and solid suggestions. In a month when you come back and make a post you will be touting your weight loss victories and these will be the same people here to congratulate you as will I!


Hope everyone has a good Friday!

Well, if it would make you feel better, you can head to the moon, and weigh yourself there. Or you could put a scale in an elevator, and then stand on it while going down. Those will all make you weigh less.

Honestly, I don't like going by my weight. I don't even like going by body fat content, because that's misleading, as well. It's a nice thing to have for numerical comparison, but honestly, what makes the difference is your shape. I know when I've gained some pounds because my butt won't fit in my pants. I don't need a scale to confirm it. When I look in the mirror, and see some extra flappage on my arms, I know I've gained weight; I don't need to measure body fat content to know that. If you're healthy, and you're literally SEEING results, you're doing the right thing.

Weight is nothing more than the measurement of gravity's pull on your body. Try not to let those numbers get you down, because if Earth suddenly shifted it's rotational axis, and the magnetic poles changed, gravity wouldn't be the same. You could gain 20lbs in an instant, but your shape wouldn't be any different. So just remember, it's not the numbers that count. It's what you actually see.

First- hang in there, you're doing great! A lot of us understand what you're going through. I lost about 25 lbs during my first few months, but have been at a very frustrating plateau for a while now. It's tempting to beat myself up about it, but i know that my worth as a person depends on much more than a number on a scale- and so does yours!

Second- what a supportive husband! That is so wonderful to hear It sounds like the two of you are in this together, and that is a great advantage to you! You can help pull each other up when one of you is down, you can vent to each other when you've had a rough day, and you can celebrate your successes together. Best of luck to you both!

Hello everyone. I hate to chime in as the husband here, but I wanted to clarify something my wife put in her post. She mentioned "eating like a rabbit" which is kind of an inside joke that seems to have leaked in to her post. That came about when I made a joke two years ago about eating carrots. It stuck them in my teeth and made clicking sounds and everything! Since then it has kind of been and inside joke to refer to any veggies. She actually does really well eating veggies and enjoys them maybe more than I do. I just wanted to clarify that statement. The sentiment about longevity of our eating habits is a good point that many seem to have made. We have made an effort to make foods, particularly at dinner, that are tasty and healthy. I think a part of the problem here comes in the comparison. I'm sure most of you will agree that it is completely unfair to compare the weight loss of men and women. In my weigh in I lost 4 pounds (though it was almost all water weight) and that contributes to the frustration of diet and exercise for her. For the most part you ladies have a tougher hill to climb then do a lot of us guys and I admire the work and determination it takes to accomplish what you do. I hope that doesn't come off as sexist in any way.

Baby your husband thinks you are beautiful! I'm here to support you every step of the way in this. Listen to the advice on this post. Everything I've heard sounds like positive and solid suggestions. In a month when you come back and make a post you will be touting your weight loss victories and these will be the same people here to congratulate you as will I!


Hope everyone has a good Friday!

WONDERFUL, such support!!!!...he is right! i was posting my little 1 lb weight loss last week and this week's weight in i couldn't even put on site...i gained 1lb. Yes i was a little discouraged as well, but i realized that if i cont. to work hard and maybe harder...ti will all pan out...what is the saying..Rome wasn't built in a day..you didnt gain any weight in a week...so it will take longer then a week to lose it....Keep up that good work DONT GIVE UP!!!!

Thank you everyone for being so complimentary. In truth we both have had and will have opportunities in the process where we will need each others support. In my opinion it is a lot easier to make this kind of change when both parties are on board and are willing to be supportive of each other. Sometimes it is tough to be enthusiastic and motivated without being competitive though. Fortunately our gym has a scale that measures body fat, weight, blood pressure and heart rate. I agree with the person that said that measurements are a much better indicator as well. I think it is easy to lose sight of that when so many things are based on pounds lost. We see it on people's statuses, and hear about others at work, and on TV. Sometimes it is tough to accept that this will be a slow process when you see people losing 15 pounds a time on the Biggest Loser. That kind of weight loss just isn't realistic for most people. Thank you all for your supportive comments. Everyone keep up the good work!!

Hang in there!!! Your doing great and the right thing! Its probably water gain or perhaps near your menstral cycle, I have been told that up to a week before your body will actually be heavier and it is nothing that your doing wrong. DONT GIVE UP!!!

It's ONE pound. Just one.

How did you come to the conclusion that you gained body fat? This is highly unlikely if you have indeed been in a calorie deficit.

Hang in there dear friend. No one said this would be easy. The hard part is the mental part, getting over our old ways. As far as the weight gain, it could be many factors, including weighing in at the wrong time of the month, wrong time of day, your body can fluctuate in the same day!
Dont give up. You started this journey for a reason, hang in there!