Another Reason to Stay on Track

StarIsMoving
StarIsMoving Posts: 437
edited November 11 in Motivation and Support
So I posted on my profile page last night about something that happened and was told by one of my MFP friends that I should make it more public - it may help others. So - here goes, with a more elaborate version actually:

I have a friend, she is in her 50s and on the upper end of 300's for weight. She has been seeing all my progress on getting healthier and she decided to visit her doctor after hearing some of my struggles. There she found out she has sugar issues, arthritic issues, as well as a severe Vitamin D deficiency. She seldom goes anywhere, as walking is a struggle for her, and after listening to some of the things I have told her, she had begun to start losing some weight with dietary changes - not huge ones, just small ones at a time. For weeks she has been telling me how she wants to start walking with her daughter (her daughter is my age and lives with them, so super wonderful), but she keeps making excuses to not go. Well last night I had just finished my strength/circuit training and was on an adrenaline high, so called her up. After insuring she had her dinner already, told her to put on her shoes, I was coming over to take her walking. She followed that with a bunch of laughing (totally caught her off-guard) and I told her I thought it would be easier if I didn't give her a chance to say no, no excuses... I would be over as soon as my car would get me there. Sure enough, when I arrived she was ready with shoes on.... as was her daughter, her 3 grandkids, and 2 of my kids!! My friend made it all the way around the block!!!! A HUGE feat and I was so proud. As I thought more of it though, realized that so many joined us - I helped influence more health for an entire family, not just an individual. She had let me know she had been watching me and it inspired her - how awesome.
So the moral of the story (aside from a big YAY for her) is this: SOMEONE is watching you. Yes, you started out doing this for you - which is how it should be - but be aware that there is always someone quietly watching and gaining inspiration from you. The harder you go, the more inspiration you provide. The best time to remember that is when your motivation is nil. Why? Because "inspiration" trumps "frustration" EVERY single time! Keep on going everyone, own it!
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  • Betsiz17
    Betsiz17 Posts: 95 Member
    Great story, Star. You are a great motivator! (Maybe your next career?)
  • That is awesome!!! Thank you so much for sharing ... sometimes we forget that people are influenced by what we do. Even if you are doing it for you, others are benefiting from it ... I need to remember that myself.
  • You are frickin awesome!
  • JoyWoodruff
    JoyWoodruff Posts: 33 Member
    It seems like too often people that know the way, don't take the time to show others. All it takes is one person to get the whole community involved. Share what you've learned with others and you'll learn more yourself.
  • Hab1978
    Hab1978 Posts: 57 Member
    Today, I needed to hear that story....THANK YOU!!!
  • smsinger75
    smsinger75 Posts: 251 Member
    What a wonderful night for all of you! Great job!
  • Betsi, I would love to be a motivator... I get a thrill off seeing people improve. But alas, I am going into school for law (gotta support the family, lol) while continuing at my present position. You know I am totally in your corner though!!!! ;)

    Amie, I think it takes one to know one... you are awesome too girl!

    Heather, Thank you... it was an eye-opener to me. I had been doing this on my own (other than online support) and it really hit home. Even though you may be "doing" it alone, you are so not alone - eyes are on you as you improve, start to gain confidence, etc. Amazing :)
  • Lilith8984
    Lilith8984 Posts: 69 Member
    Thank you for posting this...It is a very touching story!!!
  • Kimmer2011
    Kimmer2011 Posts: 569 Member
    Bump for sheer awesomeness.
  • jobryan4
    jobryan4 Posts: 138 Member
    Excellent post, thanks for sharing!
  • Joy - sometimes it's not even about showing them how either, just taking their hand and giving them the push. I have found there are many who know HOW to do this, or at least how to do better than they are... just need a push :)

    Hab - I am glad it helped. Joy was the one that suggested I post it actually, so I am glad she is right and it was able to help someone else :)
  • bemott
    bemott Posts: 180
    This was beautiful, gave me goosebumps and made me teary. Thanks so much for sharing. And for caring and risking enough to just go over and get her moving. What a gift.
  • caustin112
    caustin112 Posts: 25 Member
    Thanks for the other perspective. Great story.
  • caustin112
    caustin112 Posts: 25 Member
    This was beautiful, gave me goosebumps and made me teary.

    Ok, glad I'm not the only one a little teary over here. :)
  • authson
    authson Posts: 233
    what a great story! thanks for sharing. I will remember this the next time i have low motivation!
  • Cberg9
    Cberg9 Posts: 123
    Great inspiration for friday!!
  • You all are awesome! Although accountability/motivation sure does go up when you realize others are keeping an eye on you. Sort of like we tend to work harder when we know the boss is looming over us, LOL
  • JoyWoodruff
    JoyWoodruff Posts: 33 Member
    Joy - sometimes it's not even about showing them how either, just taking their hand and giving them the push. I have found there are many who know HOW to do this, or at least how to do better than they are... just need a push :)

    Agreed, I was kinda referring to the kids and the rest of the people that joined in on the walk. I suppose I should have used "role model" instead. Basically, you've just opened up the whole family to getting involved with each other and involved in health with each other. Community and the "push" we give each other is what inspires us to be better people to each other.

    I'm really bad with words lol. I'll have to practice :)
  • Wow, Amazing! Totally just boosted my motivation level. Thank you for that!
  • Joy.... just so you know, you totally rock!!!

    stacenee - I am glad it could help :)
  • cnkan0119
    cnkan0119 Posts: 113 Member
    This is so true! Kuddos to you for getting her up and walking! It takes the push of a friend sometimes....... Pat yourself on the back, one for you pushing towards your goal and one for helping another step towards hers!
  • Lrt4uk
    Lrt4uk Posts: 174
    This is a wonderful message and certainly one we should all remember.

    Thanks for posting!

    Leslie
  • peejay34mason
    peejay34mason Posts: 131 Member
    Absolutely AGREE and am inspired by motivation. I have always lived by "it is not what you say but what you do". Actions always will speak louder than any words! Good for you by taking that proverbial "bull by the horns" and getting her out there and moving. I would encourage you to try to do the same thing at least weekly with her as it sounds as though she needs the push.
  • What a wonderful friend you are !! Truly motivational for so many.
  • Leslie, cnkan, Disney - Thank you all :)

    peejay - she had already attempted to use a party today to keep her from going, so instead told her to call me after the party and I will come over tonight; which she agreed to. Told her it's like back in the drinking days when you would wake with a hangover, feeling horrible...time for "hair of the dog".... same with exercising and moving... sore? Move some more and it takes the edge off. So.... not waiting until next week, going tonight after my cardio workout, to insure she keeps moving. Eventually it will become routine/habit for her ;)
  • therealangd
    therealangd Posts: 1,861 Member
    Great story. Thanks for sharing it with us.
  • AntShanny
    AntShanny Posts: 359 Member
    This was beautiful, gave me goosebumps and made me teary.

    Ok, glad I'm not the only one a little teary over here. :)

    Me, too!
    Thanks for sharing.
  • sazzet
    sazzet Posts: 56 Member
    My daughter needs to lose weight more than i do. She refused to join MFP. I lost 11 pounds since I joined MFP and It shows in my clothes. I am becoming an inspiration to my daughter and family.

    We are examples of people who are determined to lose weight and are suceding in it. I understand exactly how you feel. I feel the change in my family.
  • Kandygirl
    Kandygirl Posts: 249 Member
    what a great story!!!
  • thank you for sharing ure story!
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