Rant.

BeautyFromPain
BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
edited November 2024 in Chit-Chat
Decided I would put up a little rant here as it feels like you guys understand me and noone else does.

That "friend" who ditches me for her boyfriend and only comes to me when her boyfriend is in hospital or away, yeeah well no longer am I going to her. This may sound mean but after years of putting all the effort in and getting nothing in return it pisses me off. I have not heard from her for over a month regardless of my means of trying to contact her. If she wants to still be friends, she can come to me. Not to mention when she needed someone I would drop EVERYTHING and when I really needed someone the other day where the hell was she?? Not to mention, when you told me to stop losing weight cos you knew it was a *competition* to look as good as you.. what the hell? I am trying to look as good as I can! Nobody else! I am trying to be the best person I can possibly be. I am trying to better my life in all ways possible and if that means cutting out someone as negative as you, so be it. We have been really, really close for five or so years now and this breaks my heart to do, but I have to do it. I deserve better </3 *rant over*

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  • BeautyFromPain
    BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
    has anyone else had any negative reactions from friends/family to your weight loss?
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    I've had friends like that in the past and found that my life was better after I cut all ties with them.
  • WhittRak
    WhittRak Posts: 567 Member
    No worries. There are plenty of people out there waiting to be your friend :)
  • 1shauna1
    1shauna1 Posts: 993 Member
    Sounds like she is pretty selfish and not really your friend, because a real friend would be there for you too. You should reconsider if she comes back....do you really need someone like this in your life? Maybe you have been friends for five years, but people change. Some for the better, and some not.
  • hapoo100
    hapoo100 Posts: 926 Member
    i think you are right. Making yourself healthier includes weight, exercise, and how you feel about yourself. You eat better, you work out, and you need to make decisions that will make you feel better about you. In my opinion, no one should ever have the power to make you feel like she is making you feel. You definitely deserve better.
  • anarose13
    anarose13 Posts: 222 Member
    good for you hunny, you dont need someone like that in your life. new and better friends are in your future!
  • Atate66
    Atate66 Posts: 4
    Hang in there, there are plenty of positive people out there who WANT to be in your life and will be happy for you in your goals! Chin up! Eliminate the bad in your life, focus on the GOOD. :happy:
  • hongruss
    hongruss Posts: 389 Member
    You say you have been really close BUT that is due to your effort not hers! That's not a friend, I think people wish for friends more than they need them, realistically look at what she has done for you & I gaurantee that you have given more than taken, now truly why are you going to miss her?

    Russ
  • Eleanorjanethinner
    Eleanorjanethinner Posts: 563 Member
    Good for you. Friendship should be a two-way street. Sometimes you're there for them, sometimes they're there for you. But if it's all "take, take, take" then it's time to cut ties.

    I hope you find a new and better friend (or even several of them!) :)
  • BeautyFromPain
    BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
    You say you have been really close BUT that is due to your effort not hers! That's not a friend, I think people wish for friends more than they need them, realistically look at what she has done for you & I gaurantee that you have given more than taken, now truly why are you going to miss her?

    Russ

    It was a two way street for couple years, until she got a serious boyfriend then just cut me out... :/
  • kykykenna
    kykykenna Posts: 656 Member
    Sad, yes, but good for you. I have reached a point in my life (probably age...lol) Where if it simply becomes too much "work" to be your friend, I will not go out of my way to be with you. I wont be mean, I simply stop reaching out. I would far rather count my true friends on 3 fingers than two handfuls I cant count on to get back what I put in. :flowerforyou:
  • onmyway31
    onmyway31 Posts: 66
    You say you have been really close BUT that is due to your effort not hers! That's not a friend, I think people wish for friends more than they need them, realistically look at what she has done for you & I gaurantee that you have given more than taken, now truly why are you going to miss her?

    Russ


    This is right on, when you are the only one keeping a relationship together, there really wasn't a relationship to begin with. I have come to terms that some people are just happy in their dysfunction and when you change things up they can't handle it. Get rid of the negative people, but watch how she will turn it around on you and blame you,they always do.
  • dhencel
    dhencel Posts: 244 Member
    I have people tell me that I don't need to lose any weight.....but they don't see me without clothes on.. I need to lose 20 lbs--mostly in the breast and belly areas so that is always covered.....I need to lose it not only for my appearance but for health reasons. Both my parents had heart, cholesterol, and diabetes problems. My dr. wants to prevent me from getting them.....
  • mmuzzatti
    mmuzzatti Posts: 704 Member
    Good for you.....and I'll be your huckleberry!
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