Preferred Ways To Meet People?

KJVBear33
KJVBear33 Posts: 628
edited November 2024 in Chit-Chat
Okay, so you are looking to date.........where do you go to meet guys? Would you rather meet someone through a friend, in bars, dating sites online? Lets hear it!!

For me, through a friend........at least then, I have a buddy to go with me the first time around and it can be a casual night out........I think of bars as a breeding ground for one liners coming from people that really only want one thing.........so superficial.

Dating sites.......please........they say they are Mr. Perfect.........yet, who knows if you are really talking to a fat guy named Bubba who has a shoe fettish?

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  • KJVBear33
    KJVBear33 Posts: 628
    bump
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    I like knowing there's something in common from the start, so I'd almost prefer to meet someone on MFP...
  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    I really don't want my friends to set me up with anybody. If that goes sour, it could bleed over.

    I doubt I'll find someone for a LTR at a bar. That's not why I go there.

    I use dating sites occasionally. I've made some good friends, had some interesting dates.

    I figure where I'd most like to meet someone would be doing something I love (then we instantly have something in common). So, traveling, hanging out on the beach, bungee jumping, white water rafting, etc.
  • Farfourah
    Farfourah Posts: 896 Member
    not on the internet
  • Elzecat
    Elzecat Posts: 2,916 Member
    I dunno...my last serious relationship was with a guy I met at a bar and never expected to hear from after the initial flirtation at the bar. He called the next day, we went out two days later, and we were together for 4 years. Almost married him :wink:

    So...anything's possible. I would like to meet someone in my running groups but they're all married. So right now I'm talking to guys I meet through friends, and a couple I've met on dating sites. I'm really outta practice, gotta start somewhere...
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    Not at the bar that's all I know.
  • runnercheryl
    runnercheryl Posts: 1,314 Member
    I've never been someone who could even fathom the idea of going out to meet people with a view to being in a relationship, in a bar, online or otherwise.

    To me, it's always just made sense that you'd know someone as a friend first and things would develop from there, which is what happened with me and my fiance. I know it works for so many people, but I have never 'got' the whole 'dating' thing.
  • 623Hernandez
    623Hernandez Posts: 458
    Anywhere!!! I mean ANYWHERE; bar, store, internet, wrong number, gas station!! I am engaged to a guy I met in a bar! 9 years and still very happy together! I am so very lucky!!!:love:
  • cppeace
    cppeace Posts: 764 Member
    I am totally real with myself and others online so I meet guys a fair amount through a variety of sites, dating and non dating but also through aquaintances and just common groups like hobbies and such :)
  • stephm112
    stephm112 Posts: 297 Member
    I think it depends. My mum met her husband on a dating site and they've been together 16 years and married for 10. My sister meets guys in bars/pubs and they usually end up being twats and it lasts no longer than a few months as she's looking for a family and he's looking to get laid.

    I met my boyfriend kind of at work. We worked at the same company (I worked on the boats he worked on the pier) but didnt hang out with the same people. He popped up on my facebook as "someone you may know" I thought hey ho why not and the rest is history. 3 years and 1 baby later we're still totally loved up!
  • MaggiePuccini
    MaggiePuccini Posts: 248 Member
    In a perfect World I'd like to just meet somebody somewhere and for an attraction to be mutual. BUT.......... I fear that when you get to my age (41) that just never happens. I do bat my eyelids a bit at a man I see regularly. I know him a bit better than just 'to see'. I know his name. He's always nice back but I've no idea how to progress it beyond a bit of smiling small talk. Irish people just don't ask people out on dates like they seem to do in America.

    I keep saying I will go on an internet date in 2012 but I can't get around to it. I'd be scared of sitting there in silence. I'd also be scared thinking about HOW many internet dates you'd have to go on before finding somebody you liked enough who liked you enough etc etc.
  • mickyjg
    mickyjg Posts: 49
    I went on an internet friendship site looking for just a friend after my first marriage went sour and my first husband had alienated all my then friends. It's where i met my current husband. we have been married 7yrs and are very happy


    but i did have to kiss a few frogs before i found my prince :happy:
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Always look inward as much as you look outward so consider the wording of your post.
    You took 2 possible methods of meeting someone and basically said "nope,won`t work for me".
    Now maybe there are reasons not mentioned you feel that way such as a personal bad experience and if so then sorry but the fact is that you can run into a great guy or a complete jerk anywhere.

    You are in control of you so if you did meet a guy that seemed decent but appears that he is looking to fast track things to the bedroom simply be honest and say no,that isn`t what you are interested in doing.
    He might still turn out to be a great person.

    Don`t let preconceptions or negative thoughts limit you.
  • neenaj33
    neenaj33 Posts: 347 Member
    Always look inward as much as you look outward so consider the wording of your post.
    You took 2 possible methods of meeting someone and basically said "nope,won`t work for me".
    Now maybe there are reasons not mentioned you feel that way such as a personal bad experience and if so then sorry but the fact is that you can run into a great guy or a complete jerk anywhere.

    You are in control of you so if you did meet a guy that seemed decent but appears that he is looking to fast track things to the bedroom simply be honest and say no,that isn`t what you are interested in doing.
    He might still turn out to be a great person.

    Don`t let preconceptions or negative thoughts limit you.

    What he said...
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    I don't do anything special to meet people. If i meet someone it will be doing something I do everyday or something I enjoy doing. I'm ok with not being partnered.

    The places I get hit on the most, in case you feel like standing around looking good :laugh:

    - the gas stations in an area close to a lot of construction type companies/warehouses
    - Home Depot
  • KJVBear33
    KJVBear33 Posts: 628
    Always look inward as much as you look outward so consider the wording of your post.
    You took 2 possible methods of meeting someone and basically said "nope,won`t work for me".
    Now maybe there are reasons not mentioned you feel that way such as a personal bad experience and if so then sorry but the fact is that you can run into a great guy or a complete jerk anywhere.

    You are in control of you so if you did meet a guy that seemed decent but appears that he is looking to fast track things to the bedroom simply be honest and say no,that isn`t what you are interested in doing.
    He might still turn out to be a great person.

    Don`t let preconceptions or negative thoughts limit you.

    Wow.....quote to live by and I mean it.....very wise Carl01.......there have been no bad experiences, just that I never really thought the internet a viable option honestly.........I just know there's a lot of weirdos out there (take no offense to anyone here.....you guys all seem normal to me :flowerforyou: :laugh: :happy: :flowerforyou: ). As for the bar scene--preconcieved notion really. I just never really liked that option from the start. Plus, I never really do go out to bars unless with a friend and I have very few friends (just starting out in a place that I have lived in for a long time, moved away, and then came back around to it.......so the one or two friends that I have had from before, still remain to be good friends).
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