Dumped because I am too skinny wtf
Cant believe I am posting this . Not a big poster here but need to write this down . I was seeing a guy all going really well till last night when I was dumped . Why because apple appears to him I am to skinny . I am 5ft 3 and 124 lbs not exactly skeletal here . I take it he is into the fuller figure but come on like this is most defiantly a new one on me . He was the one who chased me and did all the running but he can't live with my body as I am too thin and it's a deal breaker .
I bloody worked hard to get here . My ex husband used to say I was fat now I am too skinny which I am not obviously but he'll I can't win here . I give up at this stage . I have had a few wines so a bit tipsy . Do I eat he asks yes more than him it appears when we went through the diets but mine more healthy unprocessed and I work out etc so eat back the cals as maintaining .
I know he is not the one for me and not worth it but come on it does nothing for the confidence . I am too fat then I am too skinny aghhh .
I bloody worked hard to get here . My ex husband used to say I was fat now I am too skinny which I am not obviously but he'll I can't win here . I give up at this stage . I have had a few wines so a bit tipsy . Do I eat he asks yes more than him it appears when we went through the diets but mine more healthy unprocessed and I work out etc so eat back the cals as maintaining .
I know he is not the one for me and not worth it but come on it does nothing for the confidence . I am too fat then I am too skinny aghhh .
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I think the ex hubby was trying to be a d*ck and the ex bf is making up excuses.
You are perfect. You look amazing and you have worked hard for it. You deserve someone who appreciates that and accepts you for who you are.
Don't give up because of a couple of assh0les.0 -
Sorry you were dumped
Don't base your own self-confidence on other people's opinions. I'm sure you're worth much more than what you look like on the outside.
On the bright side, it sounds like you may have dodged a bullet.0 -
Plenty more guys out there who will appreciate you as you are! :-)
I must be pretty skinny in comparison then - 4ft 11in and 83lbs - all in proportion though! Just need another 15-20lbs of meat and muscle! Lol!
Stand me next to you and he'd take you back. :-)
You're not skinny at all.0 -
Thanks appreciate the replys just feeling a bit low after it all . Your right I dodged the bullet just shocked as we were getting on so well . Doesn't make sense in my head but he is obviously a superficial person .0
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Look in the mirror. You love yourself? Good! That's all that matters. We think you're great!0
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Lol not a bit skinny which is the funny thing And in proportion . I am petite and he was going on about how skinny my fingers and hands were . Maybe he has a hand fetish lol . It's not like he is a vision of perfection .0
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'''I think the ex hubby was trying to be a d*ck and the ex bf is making up excuses.
You are perfect. You look amazing and you have worked hard for it. You deserve someone who appreciates that and accepts you for who you are.
Don't give up because of a couple of assh0les.
THIS ^^
Your too good to listen to idiots hun! You are great!0 -
This is my 1st post since joining MFP and your thread prompted me to do it.
Your ex-husband was just plain MEAN! The ex-boyfriend doesn't sound very friendly. What a piece of work. Sounds like he was just wanting out of the relationship and wouldn't admit the truth.
Look in the mirror. Really take a close look. You look terrific! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise!0 -
Forget him! You're perfect just as you are
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Forget both of them. You look great to me. I'D for sure take a double look at you!!!!0
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Well, if your pictures are current, you look really good to me. You don't look too skinny at all. You've done a great job and you deserve to feel good about yourself.0
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Better off w/o either one of them!0
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There is nothing at all wrong with how you look,very attractive with a nice figure.
No accounting for a persons preference so as best as you can just roll your eyes and move on,you will get plenty of looks based on what I see in your pictures. :flowerforyou:0 -
Well You just lost a lot of weight last night, that you would of had to deal with later, as it would sucked the life out of you sooner or later......great job on achieving your goals!0
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Obviously your ex is one of those people who put others down to make himself feel better. The last one is just *kitten* and it's best you know now that he is such a jerk rather than getting further down the road with him. He doesn't deserve you and he will be sad and lonely one day with that attitude. Love yourself, and someone true and good will find you and love you as well
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I think he is a douche. Take no notice of him and move on. You dont need guys like that in your life :flowerforyou:0
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Consider this a nsv.
I can't wait to be dumped because I am too skinny. You look great and he clearly doesn't know what healthy looks like.0 -
You are gorgeous. You have a healthy, enviable body and you've earned it. Anyone who doesn't see that, doesn't deserve to be in your orbit. Consider them flotsam and jetsam and let them wash away. Idiots. You deserve better. 0
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Both these men sound insecure. To heck with them. Let them find someone as insecure as they are. Good luck on your path of a healthy life!0
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You look awesome! Forget those two. They don't know what they're talking about. If youre fit and positive you'll have your pick of worthwhile guys!0
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I normally hate giving advice but I will just say - both are not right for you. You need to find a shape/weight/ size that YOU are happy with and no one else, so if the men don't like it that's their loss better that than have a man and 0 confidence.
I dated a man ( boy) for a long time who destroyed my self esteem - he would not only comment on my weight but my looks , he would refer to people with my name as ' hot Sarah' or ' beautiful Sarah' in front of me where I was justb'sarah . I crash dieted by not eating much and caning the gym and became so thin my hip bones and ribs were visible to get his attention and he didn't even notice. I rode it out for almost 5 years and in the end, he cheated on my with a thinner prettier person!
Now I'm with my fiancé, who I met at my biggest. And he supported me last year when I lost 2 st and supported me when I piled it all back on again! Now I'm trying again he supports me - he tells me he loves me now and doesn't see why I need to diet but if it makes me happy that's fine.
I think you are better of without this guy. Iv always been of the opinion if a guy doesn't like your size/ look when he dumps you he should give a better reason than that!
Hope that's not too much of a ramble and from your picture you look great!0 -
Thanks so much everyone for all the lovely replies . I am in Ireland so just up out of bed . Had a great night sleep and I am a lot more positive this morning . I am only about 5 lbs lower than my pics so very accurate and in no way skinny lol . I have come to the conclusion this is his issue to deal with along with his other issues . My marriage broke down 2 years ago now and he was the first guy I let in emotionally and I suppose that is why it hurt . Thankfully never introduced to my 2 boys . He is good friends with my best friend and I know she has been doing her best to split us up which she succeeded in so they are welcome to each other even if he swears they are just friends .
I am new on here and don't track my food as at my goal weight for over a year now but find mfp great for keeping me on track and motivation . Also a great source of info for my workouts . I reached my ideal a year ago now and have come to the realisation I am happy for the first time in my life at this weight so he can go take a hike big time . I have plenty of guys who do tell me they find me attractive and I need to start going for the right man and not the controlling guys I seem to fall for . My male best friend also a ex but we remained good friends is into health and fitness in a major way a triathlete and he started roaring laughing when I told him wont say what he called him lol and said I am still as hot as ever to him lol . Just need to find a man with the same ideals and interests in life instead of the control freaks0 -
what an idiot. your a great weight. im 5ft2 and 119 pound. i dont look skinny at all so your boyfriend must be into fatties. or he might be thretened that your looking good and he feels insecure. go out , pamper yourself, get a new dress, show him what hes missing.xxx0
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I have to say this guy sounds like a complete and utter *kitten*. I've had a look at your pics and you look gorgeous, fit and toned and best of all healthy. I am a girl with 'shape' (just unfortunately that shape is a bit fuzzy at the mo, lol) and i can see you too have a nice shape, not a skinny figure.
I say you're best off without him, get on with your life, and Mr Right will turn up when you least expect it and in the meantime, you enjoy your life with your boys :flowerforyou: xx0 -
:happy: K, Personally I think you look great. Most important you need to be happy with how you look. Boyfriends are a dime a dozen. A man who appreciates you for who you are, supports your goals including weight loss or physical fitness goals, and shows you the love you deserve every day; those are harder to come by, but if you hold out for one of them, they'll never tell you that you are too fat or too skinny! THey will tell you you are beautiful! :^D) So keep pursuing your weight loss and physical fitness goals to your satisfaction. And as I said; 'You look GREAT!"
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I'm sorry you got dumped, but I checked out your pix... there is NOTHING too skinny about you! You are fit and beautiful! SO close to my motivational computer background and you're not photoshopped like she is...
Just because he's a beefeater doesn't mean you should lose confidence. You're only single now because he's jealous of the dedication you've put into being fit. Screw him! You're awesome, and don't let anyone tell you any different!0 -
You look great. Don't let some d-bag influence how you should look...it's all about you!0
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That guy must be a freak.
be glad you got out before wasting any more time with him.
To be dumped because of your appearance- which he could see from the beginning? ppfftt......
You have worked hard look awesome and deserve someone who loves your appearance and cherishes your personality too!
stay strong!0 -
My husband has always said very negative things to me (we are separated and have been for over a year) - I found GREAT relief today. I took a picture I had framed for him and blew the ***** up with a hammer. I feel much better already!
sorry, all you haters, just chill cause I needed this!0 -
hes an ex for a reason, complete and utter plonker! hes probably met someone else but is too much of a coward to admit it.
it sounds like your had a narrow escape.
keep up the good work you dont need someone like that!0
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