what am i doing wrong?

I feel for you. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but just hang in there and add some exercise to your day. My dad once lost about 35 pounds. Mom had starting just giving him a plate of food so there were no "seconds." After a month he hadn't lost a single pound and was about to give up. But, that day he started just melting away and lost the weight quickly. So, it may be that your body is having to adjust to eating less. I hope you continue trying on your own. Bypass surgery is really risky and should be a last resort. Good luck!!!!

You're not logging everyday so I can't tell if you're eating totally terrible on the weekends............on the days you have logged it looks like you're not eating back enough of your exercise calories............it's only been 3 weeks so don't lose heart............stay the course!!!

Good for you for walking away from the peach cobbler! If your clothes are fitting looser, concentrate on that when you are discouraged. That means you are losing fat and getting healthier, which is the most important thing. I know pounds are also a VERY important indicator. That will come. Hang in there and let us know when the pounds start coming off!

I hear you. Losing can be very frustrating. But what works for me: Log everything, everyday. You'd be surprised what will add up when you aren't looking. Wake up a little earlier on the weekends and add your food for the day before your computer isn't available. Plan. Plan. Plan. And my best friend is working out. Exercise, be it a long walk or a good run on a machine, moving helps me most.

Your wife will likely come around once she see's the change in you. Tell her how important it is to you. Tell her that you need her "help". That's a trigger word for woman. When they hear someone needs help they usually open both ears to listen.

Good luck. Don't give up. You're doing great.

I didn't get a chance to look at your caloric intake, but have you ever heard of www.teambeachbody.com? This is the group that does P90X, INSANITY, etc. These coaches that are on here are SUPER and the website gives you great advice for certain foods that blasts fat and such. I have a coach right now. We only talk online. I do a workout program as well, which I just started a few weeks ago and am seeing GREAT!!!! Results. If you are not huge into working out right now, the BeachBody group has a meal supplement called "SHAKEOLOGY" that makes a HUGE difference. It has all the best nutrients possible in one simple shake. It is like going to the salad bar up to 5 times!!!!!! Check out that site. You may like it.....keep this one too, though. I am on both. Hope I helped some.

Don't give up !!!... Just keep logging, drink a lot of water and stay on track... Eventually the scale will show you the results you want!

I was going to say that if you are not eating enough what can happen is your body trys to kick in to survival mode & slows down your metabolism as it doesn't know when the next time it will be fed. So you do want to eat more through out the day but smaller meals & drink lots of water. Also eat more fruits & vegetables. I know my husband did that & he also switched to brown rice. His starting weight was 301 in December & he is down to 285. He has also started working with a personal trainer & ties to go to the gym at least 3 to 4 times a week. You might not see the results right away on the scale but it does sound like you are losing inches which is good so don't get discouraged. If you need support please feel free to add me as friend & you can add my husband as well (BigBoy00) & he can probably help you out with some pointers also because he was going through the same thing also.

One other thing...if you are not using a Heart Rate Monitor to calculate how many calories you are burning during exercise then that would be a good investment to make. When I got mine it showed quite a large difference in my calories burned. Before you start "eating back your calories" you want to make sure they have been calculated correctly.

Stick with it, keep logging, keep moving, and you will be successful!

thanks everyone i am not going to quit i started today with my new plan of attack and i am going to take time over the weekend to sit down and put in everything i eat! i hope i can keep it up!

You CAN keep it up!! Tracking everything you eat will really help you see where you are at daily. You have a ton of support here!!

Try exercising and see what happens, but if you still don't see anything try this. Go to the doctor and get a checkup. Have them check all of your body functions, even your testosterone levels. I had extremely low testosterone levels and now with weekly shots I am up just a little higher than what it should be. Weight has been falling off of me. If everything does check out, eat around 1700 calories a day and cardio... cardio... and more cardio...

On February 15th, you had corn. Clearly this one ear of corn has caused all your problems and it will probably lead to your eventual death as it did the Mayan civilization.

lol, thats so true! i almost died when i read that!

At the end of the day, it is all about calories in and calories out. One of the best investments I ever made to take the guess work out of the calories in/out equation was getting my metabolism tested. I haven't found a good way to google metabolic testing. What I would do is call your local gyms until you find one that does "Metacheck Metabolism Testing."

Make an appointment and have it done! it will tell you exactly how many calories you can eat in a day to lose weight then to maintain it for your unique body.

After you've done that, purchase a POLAR heart rate monitor (they're the only ones that really work) with a chest band and wear that when you workout. Get one that counts the calories you burn and stores them. Then, when you exercise, plug in the calories you burned into MyFitnessPal along with the type of workout you are doing.

For the remainder of your day, make sure to be tracking ALL the food you eat and drink into MyFitnessPal.

A couple other pointers that might help:
1. GO TO SLEEP! Not sleeping 8-9 hours per night causes your body to create stress hormones (cortisol especially which is released by your adrenal gland). Cortisol causes you to crave high-glycemic foods (such as breads and junk food). High glycemic foods cause your blood sugar to spike which increases insulin production. For this, all you really need to remember is that insulin is a fat storing hormone released when you consume carbs. However, when you eat low GI foods (such as proteins) your body produces the fat BURNING hormone, glucagon.
Not sleeping will create a lot of problems with your metabolism so make sure you get your Zzzs!

2. No matter what diet you decide to follow, make sure it is balanced and made up of mostly low-GI foods. Low GI foods are foods that are rated 55 and below on the Glycemic Index.

3. You may have a food allergy. It probably wouldn't hurt to get checked. I had a reconstructive surgery to my stomach in 1999 and continued to suffer from all sorts of problems such as IBS, insomnia, severe cystic acne, and many other things. In the end, it was a gluten intolerance! When I cut out gluten 100% (you can't cut out gluten "sometimes" - if you have an intolerance it is all or nothing) most of my health problems vanished. I couldn't believe it but you had better believe I am 100% gluten-free now!

If you need more support, gimme a holler at http://nutrition.black20fitness.com. Hope this helps! Hang in there!