Help! I've fallen off the wagon and I'm too fat to climb bac

I am in the same situation. I went on a business trip this week and didn't worry about dieting. Now I am home and I am not in control. I am really worried I'll keep trying to give myself excuses to start tomorrow. I know I should "just do it", but as you know... easier said than done. I think you are doing the right thing by continuing to log your meals everyday. I am planning my meals for tomorrow tonight so I won't have to think about it tomorrow. I am hoping by just going through the motions I will get back on the wagon. I don't know if that would help you too or not.
Good luck!

I fell off the wagon for almost a month...it was badddd. BUT! I found this helps: Plan what you're going to eat the next day....I get excited for it and then I don't bother trying to eat anything else. Exercise!...it decreases cravings and once you finish, you don't want to ruin your hard work with bad food. Set goals, buy new workout clothes or a new program, or start a food journal where you write down food and feelings...which I guess is mfp. They all keep you motivated! Good luck!

I feel you.. I fell off for the past few months. I think if you log what your eating (even if its horrible) sometimes just seeing the amount of calories in things can help bring perspective. Its about the small things. Aim to end your day with a healthy meal and it may just make breakfast the next day that much easier. hope this helps.

I can relate, once I eat even one bit of junk food I'm done in for the day. For me just ruling things out helps... some people it's carbs, some peple it's fats or sodium... I went vegetarian last December or so and it really helps keep me on track. I just try to forgive myself my "bad" days and just plan a good next day. You can do it!

i know exactly how you're feeling, i've fallen off the wagon too!! it's just hard to get back on but just take it gradually...that's been helping me.

I can not have a cheat meal, let alone a cheat day. I have to log everything I eat and eat as healthy as I can everyday or I fall off as well. I had a cheat meal in May 2011 and I am being 100% when I say this I just finally got back into being serious about my weight loss 4 days ago. Everyday I would say that I would do better tomorrow but I never did.

Log it or leave it. I find that just having to be accountable maeks me less likely to "fall off". And if you stick with "if you bite it you write it", that wagon will be much easier to get back on.

Living Healthy is a marathon not a sprint. It’s not about how fast you get out of the blocks but how consistent you are over the long haul. Dont beat yourself up for having an off day.

For me, it has been a cycle of giving up once I "fail" on a day, believing that I just "can't" do it because I had that slice of cake (donut, bagel, cookie......) and then totally falling off the wagon. I'm working on forgiving myself and giving myself the pep talk I'd give a friend (in my head, of course. Talking to myself out loud would just be weird...) . It helps that I have friends here on MFP who will encourage me by telling me the good choices I made or just saying "Hope you enjoyed it. Get back on it tomorrow!"

Are you perhaps feeling guilty and punishing yourself by giving up on you? (Sorry. I'm NOT a healthcare professional. I don't even play one on t.v. :bigsmile: I'm just projecting based on what I've done, and hoping that IF you are doing the same, you can learn from my mistakes .) If you are, then FORGIVE you, and move on.
:flowerforyou:

The one thing I have learned about myself and my health journey is that I could not be serious about weight loss and getting healthier until I was serious about myself. What I mean is that I found out what it means to really love me and care about me. And just like relationships, the love you have for yourself will grow and mature over time. I have come from losing a parent to being an alcholic to feeling lost and alone to truly loving myself and now I am ready to commit to myself by becoming the best for me.

It will be almost impossible to stop the emotional eating until you love yourself for who you are and want the best for yourself.

I wish you the best and I will say a prayer for you.

Brittany

www.goherbalife.com/brittanychambers

I also fell off the wagon at about 6 weeks. I don't know if I was PMSing or just falling off the wagon or what but it lasted 2 weeks. I did still log in everyday. I would encourage you to do the same. You are the only person you have to report to and that's it but don't lie to yourself.

I think that even though I went over my calories every single day I still knew where I was at.

I'm back on track again and feeling pretty good again.

I dont know why we beat ourselves up so bad when we fall of the wagon but we do. All we can do is climb back on whether we jump back on or slowly climb back on.

Don't give up! You have lost an amazing amount of weight already.

You can do it!!! Go back and pull up your stats and look at the nice decrease you've seen and hopefully that will also give you encouragement.

My main tip is to log what you're eating. No judgement. Just write it down. You might be surprised that it's not *as* bad as it used to be. And find ways to start to whittle it back to what you deem "good"...

The title of this post is so great. Tomorrow starts a new week...What better time to OWN it!?

I think for some people, they just can't do a cheat meal. Personally for me, having a cheat day/meal gives me motivation to not over eat during the week. I make a plan that I will make a delicious dinner on Sunday and have a nice dessert without worrying about calorie counting. When I think about having an extra bit of this or that or going into the cupboard for some chocolate, I just remind myself that I am going to get a treat on Sunday. I don't need the treat right then, I can wait. If I eat the extra right then, then I don't get my delicious dinner on Sunday.

That seems to work for me, talking myself through things. Sometimes just kind of talking about the food and what it really means. Like sometimes I will really REALLY want to just binge on cookies, but then I think about how it will only really satisfy a temporary craving, it's not going to actually make me happy or make me feel better. I try and remind myself of the negatives of what a binge would do. It's a struggle, but after awhile the more positive thoughts seem to push through. Just try and talk yourself through things and don't be hard on yourself. Don't tell yourself that you are a failure or anything like that and don't feel guilty for eating things you want.

I know what you mean by saying that it feels like it's going to be an endless journey. Sometimes it just feels so daughting.
Just take things one day at a time. Maybe say "tomorrow I will substitute one snack with an apple", and just leave it at that. Or "tomorrow I will substitute a cookie for a yogurt". I think if you start small and try to give yourself small challenges you will have better luck at trying to get back on track.

If you're too fat to climb back on... then walk along side for a while!

Don't beat yourself up you're not finding it easy to lose weight - that's just the way it is.

Keep logging in, keep logging your food, keep moving (even a little bit of a walk along side the wagon!) and celebrate every little victory.

You might also find it easier to set some short term, more achievable, goals that aren't all about the scales:
- eat a healthy breakfast every day
or
- drink x amount of water
or
- walk for 20 mins a day
or
- swap one milky, sugary coffee for a long black or a glass of water with a squeeze of lemon.

These small changes add up into big results if you keep doing them... and better still, they make you feel good because it is something active and positive that you can do and it takes the focus off the number on the scales.