Calling all Men!!

MissVCI
MissVCI Posts: 277 Member
edited November 2024 in Chit-Chat
Another question for you, this one was inspired by another thread where I found out that you men like forward women.

Me personally feel like I would come off looking desperate/needy if I were to be the one to make the first move? I guess I'm wrong with that assumption. So what do you men think qualifies as desperate behavior/actions?

and while we are on the topic what constitutes a clingy chick (I'm always afraid if I show too much interest I come off clingy)

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  • AR73
    AR73 Posts: 107
    Desperate behaviour is a tricky one but showing up places where the other person is going to be uninvitedon the hopes of meeting them is one for sure.

    But desperate is not always bad.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    There is no exact answer as the same actions can appear differently with different people.
    It is all a part of the overall personality a person has and how actions are interpreted in light of that.

    Just be your natural self,act genuine and not out of character.
  • carlie_carl
    carlie_carl Posts: 285
    I dont think there is anything wrong with women been foward, I like a girl with a bit of flare to them, there is a point that a line can be crossed though, by cornering a person into feeling obliged to go out with them.

    but overall, from a mans prospective, its nice to be asked out, Im going to take it girls dont feel they should ask the fellas out, thats my excuse anyhow lol
  • johnbigfella
    johnbigfella Posts: 24
    Some people may see diffrent things as desperate. I think it would take somone actaully showing where i worked to stalk me bofore i would say there desperate
  • nammer79
    nammer79 Posts: 664 Member
    What comes to mind are those women you see on tv where shes begging the guy not to leave or the stalker chick that has way to much free time on her hands. .... Thats just tv tho right?

    When it comes to the real world I don't think I have seen a desperate woman before; if you liek someone say hi and if you have something in common you'll keep talking. I've met a lot of female friends while waiting in a slow check out lane in a store.

    So be yourself if yoru forward be forward theres no need to be shy in 2012 =) and as someone commited before as long as you bve yourself then its all good if that other person think your coming off a bit desperate than they just have different view on how the world and people interact.
  • oneIT
    oneIT Posts: 388 Member
    It all depends on the guy. I don't want someone up my *kitten* but I'm not going to chase you either. It seems alot of men like to chase, according to women, but I'm not one of them. Games are for kids.
  • MissVCI
    MissVCI Posts: 277 Member
    I dont think there is anything wrong with women been foward, I like a girl with a bit of flare to them, there is a point that a line can be crossed though, by cornering a person into feeling obliged to go out with them.

    but overall, from a mans prospective, its nice to be asked out, Im going to take it girls dont feel they should ask the fellas out, thats my excuse anyhow lol

    That is what most of us are taught and I full heartedly believe, especially after reading the book and seeing the movie "He's Just not that Into You." If a guy is into you he'll make the first move and do all the heavy lifting in the beginning. So I assume that the guy is just not that into me and it sucks especially when I really like him.
  • Tiff587
    Tiff587 Posts: 264 Member
    This is so wrong and funny!

    http://m.soundcloud.com/vaughan-1-1/this-is-what-crazy-looks-like
  • carlie_carl
    carlie_carl Posts: 285
    I dont think there is anything wrong with women been foward, I like a girl with a bit of flare to them, there is a point that a line can be crossed though, by cornering a person into feeling obliged to go out with them.

    but overall, from a mans prospective, its nice to be asked out, Im going to take it girls dont feel they should ask the fellas out, thats my excuse anyhow lol

    That is what most of us are taught and I full heartedly believe, especially after reading the book and seeing the movie "He's Just not that Into You." If a guy is into you he'll make the first move and do all the heavy lifting in the beginning. So I assume that the guy is just not that into me and it sucks especially when I really like him.

    well the good news is, its not always the case, alot of guys do like leaving it to the gals, so that guy you really like may be very pleased so keep smiling and go for what you want :-) also, Id dream of a woman like her from the film lol
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    Clingy would be incessant text messaging. Keep texts down to what is essential. Use txting as a way to get across short bits of key info, not as a relational development tool.

    Phone calls should not be constant either. A good 10-15 minute conversation less frequently is better than shorter, more frequent disruptive type phone calls. This doesn't seem to be as big of an issue now in the texting era. Women in their 20s today aren't big time callers.
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    Hanging on to my leg as I try to leave your place.
  • MissVCI
    MissVCI Posts: 277 Member
    Hanging on to my leg as I try to leave your place.

    :laugh: :laugh: literally clingy.
  • oldbaptistadam
    oldbaptistadam Posts: 62
    I think most guys like a girl that shows she is interested in them. The "hard to get" thing is only cute for so long, and after a while it is just discouraging and a sign that it is time to move on. If you are interested in a guy, it is ok to show him. Any red-blooded male will respond when a girl he is interested in make a move towards him. If you get no response, then he just isn't into you. That is the point not to push it any farther. Guys are more reactive than women are, in general. They will almost always respond if you make a move and they are interested.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    I asked my brother this recently. Granted, he is a very traditional man. He believes that men should pursue women, not the other way around, and even when he was in high school and college, he wanted nothing to do with the girls who called him all the time. He only dated women who didn't chase him.

    He said that if he meets a woman and spends even a few minutes talking to her, he knows whether or not he'd like to take her on a date. If he wants to, he's going to ask. If he doesn't, then her "stalking" him online or chasing him around town is not going to change his mind; it's just going to make her look desperate and a little crazy.

    I do think we need to draw a line between chasing and pursuing though. I don't believe any self-respecting man should chase a woman who is behaving like she doesn't want to be caught. If she's already given you a clear sign that she's not interested (e.g. you asked her out once and she gave you an unequivocal no, or you've asked her out multiple times and she always has some reason why she can't), then let it go. If you're going to keep going after her, then you're the one playing games, not her. Pursuing a woman is different. You ask her out, she says yes, you have a good time, you ask her out again, and this continues until you either decide to be in an exclusive relationship or you move on.
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