so discouraged :(

Hey there!!!! I'm not sure of your stats, but maybe my story will help a bit for you to realize that this happens to everyone...

I'm 5'4'' and have weighed between 110-145 in the last 4 years. About a year and a half ago (I weighed around 140) I was fishing with my boyfriend....he was down at the water, and I was eating a sammich up where our stuff was. One man was fishing near him, and asked my bf "how far along is she?" WELL he said it loud enough that I heard, and I was sooo upset!!!! I have never been extremely overweight for my size and build, but this man had the audacity to ask! My bf responded that I was not pregnant, and the guy just kind of shut up.

The moral of the story is that PEOPLE ARE IDIOTS. Don't let these comments get you down, use them as motivation. Also, let me know how you like body revolution

I also have the same problem, my legs are skinny, my arms are skinny, but my stomach carries all the fat!


Good luck! We are friends on here, so message me if you ever need to talk or need advice!

Yep, people can be complete idiots and don't think before they speak, or consider how their words might make someone else feel. I bet that guy felt like an idiot and he will think twice before making such a comment again!

Good for you for ordering Body Revolution! I would love to try it, but it's not in my budget right now. But I have a stack of JM DVDs that I have collected over the years and they are awesome. Since I started my fitness journey (which has been on and off again over 2 years), I've dropped about 20lbs total, and am still trying to lose the fat off my belly! That's where it likes to live on me, too - belly, hips thighs. :grumble:

Your last sentence tells me you've got the right attitude - turn that discouraging comment into motivation to work that Body Revolution, eat healthy and change your body! You can do it!

i remember working in a shop 1 time and i a guy came up to me and said "is it a boy" me looking puzzled he pointed to my belly, i was so embarrased, (i had not long had a mc so i was distraught over that although i was only 10 weeks so notat the showing stage), i could have cried there was a full que listening in aswell, i thought id actually thought i was looking ok at that point aswell not hugely over weight, argh i feel your pain xx

People are so rude. I have always been pretty thin but after getting into my late 30's, put on a few pounds (and I mean like 10 at the most) and had two or three people ask me if I was pregnant, just b/c I didn't have a flat stomach. I answered right in their face NO, I'm just getting fat, to embarrass them right back. AND I was tempted to say NO, are you?? since both are heavier than me!

You can do this! People are definitely jerks.

So sorry hun, but use it as your motivation!!! Hopefully you shed all you can and show off next time you see that person.

Seriously, it's a decision to eat right and get moving...as simple as that. There aren't short cuts and there aren't any miracles.

Good luck!! I'm rooting for you....

I am the same build as you ladies, a very round apple. I am 5'1" and also often look pregnant! My highest weight was 193.6, and currently i am 155. I still have a big ol belly. My legs are great, very toned and slim, my arms are pretty good too. My trunk and mainly belly is where i carry it all too.

My point is, you are not alone. Just remember that when they see you next summer, you certainly wont look pregnant (unless you are then!)

Hang in there.

PS-Jillian Micheal's Body Revolution looks great!!

What is 'body revolution', pls?

I am curious as well.

And People are soooo STUPID!

Goodness me, how rude! I've never come across this in England, I think people might think that I'm pregnant but wouldn't be so rude to ask. You never can tell when somebody has just had a baby or whether they are pregnant or even if they've just had lunch. Why don't people keep their small-minded opinions to themselves and not just blurt out whatever is in their tiny little minds? A great mystery of the universe that is.

Take no notice.... an apple shape would be great, I'm envious of it. I'm an hourglass and it's nearly impossible to buy dresses that fit properly plus when I do find a wrap dress I love, it starts off closed in the morning when I leave for work and by lunchtime I'm flashing my boobs and can't get the dress to stay shut. A busty person will never look slim, in my opinion, no matter how slim they are. Apple shapes are lovely to dress... all those seperates out there to show off those gorgeous slinky arms and legs. Be proud tell yourself that you won't mind about the little things - and really, don't mind them.

oops. I used to pray for patience, then I learned my lesson on that. I'm adding "Give me motivation" to my list of things not to ask for now.

I'm sure she feels as bad as you do about the slip of the tongue/fingers. . . we all say stuff before we think......just move on.

People that make comments like this are beyond IDIOTS. My baby daughter had a strawberry birth mark on her left cheek and absolute strangers would walk up and touch it and make comments like "what did she do to herself" or "how did you let her burn herself". Well 24 years later she is still my little girl, the birth mark is gone and she is happily married to a wonderful husband. Use the comments as motivation and IGNORE the %$# %$#)s of the world.

After breaking my left leg in 3 places about a year ago I started on my fitness quest, against doctor's orders, this past January 10th - the one year anniversary of my quiting smoking. Exercising wasn't too rough but changing the amount and what I was used to eating was. Motivation and desire are the keys - if I can do this you can too! Keep posting whenever you are feeling like you need support and there will always be MFPers ready to help you out.

If it were me, which it wouldn't because I'm a dude, but if it were, I'd probably reply with some dark humor like, "nope, just a fatass" or maybe darker like, "nope, it was a giant tumor." Why? Partially for shock value I guess, but also because, you ask a stupid question...

People have said things about me that hurt my feelings, but you know what? I really let myself go, and I have to turn the negativity into positivity - motivation, amusement, whathaveyou - in order not to cover up my pain, but to help me accept where I was, and to help drive me forward to where I want to be.

You need to focus on the fact that you're making changes, and keep doing it. Don't get down on yourself - that will be detrimental to your success. And as others have said, people are stupid.

Hiiiii, ~ I sooo get it. I am 5'8" and my highest weight ever was 188 (+/- 5) at the end of each of my 5 pregnancy's. I had some health problems several years back that had prevented me from working out. Fast forward and here I sit at a whopping 272 lbs. My sister has realized great success with the help of this site and it has motivated me to be more faithful to it.

Just gotta take it one day at a time Good luck with the JM Body Revolution!!! Keep us posted on how you like it. :laugh:

Your husband sounds like a sweet thoughtful man who thinks you are beautiful inside and out. Its great to have people who support you that you love. My mom told me I looked pregnant last summer and I had only gained 20 lbs or so.

I actually know of a funny story about my aunt that always comes to mind.

my aunt has struggled with her weight a while and she was a bit heavier when she and her 2 young daughters were grocery shopping. the girls were 3 and 6. She ran into an old friend from high school that she hadn't seen and since she had gained weight after high school since she was quite a bit bigger the man assumed she was pregnant and said wow contrats i havent seen you in so long. 2 kids and one on the way you must be so busy! ...she was so mortified that she didnt't correct him and just politely said thankyou. a year or 2 later she had coincidentally got on a dieting program and had lost a lot of weight when she was babysitting my other aunts baby. so the kids she had were a one year old, and her other 2, about 5 and 8. She ran into that same exact man in church and he assumed that it was her baby and congratulated her again. by this point she had dug herself in deep so she didn't want to admit her previous lie and even though she was in church she kept up the lie.....flashforward to a year and a half later she ran into the man and his wife again but this time she was only with her 2 daughters and not babysitting. The man said hey you remember my friend from high school, she has 3 kids now...wheres your other one? she said she felt terrible doing this in the lord's house but she just acted like the man didn't know what she was talking about and said she has only ever had 2 kids.

I love my aunt for that story and I'm proud of her for taking control of her weight but its just a reminder that stuff like that happens and you can't let it discourage you.