Need help :(

Okay girl, here's the straight poop as I see it. For the last week you have been eating WAY too much sodium. This will retain water weight like you wouldn't believe. Try an experiment. Steam 4 or 5 spears of asparagus and for the next week stay under your sodium level. You were way over every day but one. The asparugus(and I swear by this), and taking in much less sodium will do the trick. That is unless you are expecting your monthly visitor this week which I hear will make you retain. Let me know how you make out. Asparagus, lower sodium, drink more water= weight loss for you.

Okay girl, here's the straight poop as I see it. For the last week you have been eating WAY too much sodium. This will retain water weight like you wouldn't believe. Try an experiment. Steam 4 or 5 spears of asparagus and for the next week stay under your sodium level. You were way over every day but one. The asparugus(and I swear by this), and taking in much less sodium will do the trick. That is unless you are expecting your monthly visitor this week which I hear will make you retain. Let me know how you make out. Asparagus, lower sodium, drink more water= weight loss for you.

Too much sodium = more water retention

More water intake = less water retention

However, drinking more water doesn't just give you weight loss. Her diet needs to be 100% in check and I'm talking about her calorie intake versus her TDEE. She can drink water like a fish but if she's not eating a consistent deficit week to week, her progress will stall.

That's my "straight poop".

thanks everyone..my tdee is 2808...i thought by nature if you eat less and exercise more (and ure overweight like me) you lose weight...? I'm so lost when it comes to this stuff, I mean i've been on diets before but never incorporated exercise. i know..shooting myself in the foot. i get that. ugh.

You still need to be consistent. It also depends on current stats. You should aim to lose 1-2lbs per week and not more unless you are morbidly obese. Then you can afford to eat more of a deficit (consistently), and lose more than 2lbs per week.

I would stick with 1800 calories each day for 4 weeks, stay consistent with it, make sure you get enough protein, and also do some kind of weight resistance training to retain as much muscle mass as possible so you keep good body composition.

Take a multivitamin, fish oil, drink plenty of fluids/water. Keep processed foods down to a minimum, but you don't need to eat clean. Food type doesn't matter as long as you hit your calorie intake and protein requirements. Keep protein intake to .5g of protein per lb of lbm. If you don't know your lbm then just use bodyweight.

As far as food type, feel free to mix it up. You don't need to eat only fruits and veggies. Have a slice of pizza, have some ice cream. As long as you stay at 1800 calories a day, you're fine.

I think sticking to 1200-1500 calories a day, less sodium, keep drinking lots of water and you'll lose.
Weight loss isn't consistent every week. Some weeks you'll lose two pounds other weeks none maybe.
You're doing fabulous, just gotta keep at it!
Well done so far!
And like a previous poster said a lb is a lb. Go weigh something a pound and you don't have that on you any more!
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Weight loss can be consistent every week if you stick to your calorie intake vs your TDEE and remain consistent. When you reach a point where you are getting leaner, then weight loss slows down. The leaner you are, the harder it is to lose more.

My 2 cents is to try to find motivation and encouragement outside of what the scale says. Change takes time, and I get that you need to stay motivated, but if your only source of that is what the scale says, you will struggle for this whole journey.

It is a victory when you meet your goals for food & water. It is a victory every time you log exersize. It is a victory when you can do 1 more squat, lunge, lift, jumping jack or whatever. It is a victory every time you battle off a craving or control your portion size. It is a victory when you can make it up a flight of stairs and not be out of breath. It is a victory when you perservere day in and day out regardless of what the scale says. In time you will see big scale victories too. Check out some of the success stories - they are inspirational, and a great reminder that you need to think longer term than a few weeks.

Weight loss can be consistent every week if you stick to your calorie intake vs your TDEE and remain consistent. When you reach a point where you are getting leaner, then weight loss slows down. The leaner you are, the harder it is to lose more.

I think this can be a massive demotivator. When I first started I was consistent but 8 months later one week I lost three pounds the next nothing but I wasn't doing anything different. Weight does not know Monday to Sunday or weekdays and hours. A woman especially can fluctuate like crazy. I say to the OP don't feel down if one week you don't lose anything, because the next week you may lose 2bs or even 3. There are some very opinionated people on here but at the end of the day everyone is different and everyone's body works in weird and wonderful ways. Celebrate all successes, because they come in all shapes and sizes! (including size 14UK jeans which I have just purchased meaning much more to me than a number on a scale!)
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Okay girl, here's the straight poop as I see it. For the last week you have been eating WAY too much sodium. This will retain water weight like you wouldn't believe. Try an experiment. Steam 4 or 5 spears of asparagus and for the next week stay under your sodium level. You were way over every day but one. The asparugus(and I swear by this), and taking in much less sodium will do the trick. That is unless you are expecting your monthly visitor this week which I hear will make you retain. Let me know how you make out. Asparagus, lower sodium, drink more water= weight loss for you.

I agree with this ... I consulted a diet/fitness guru and what he told me was that asparagus is a natural diuretic. He had me eat 1 cup steamed 3 times a day for a week along with the other foods that he planned out for me and I lost a LOT of water weight. Once I was able to drop a few pounds that way, it was not only a great motivator, but it got my body balanced out with regards to my water retention problem without taking drugs.

Why should she be consistent? As long as it averages out to the right amount, it is the same thing. You don't have to eat the same amount every day.

You're asking me why someone who's trying to lose weight should be consistent?

Is this really a question?

I'm trying to get her to stop from stalling in her weight loss, not continue to be frustrated. She needs to start being consistent.

Can't she zigzag her calories and have enough of a deficit to lose 2lbs a week? 1200 on day 1400 another then 1100 then 1600 as long as your deficit is the same at the end of the week? Sometimes this confusion will help kick start things as well.

Editted to add I am not looking to start an argument. I am really just wondering if the exact number has to be that consistent as long as the deficit is the same at the end of the week?

I agree. Also in a non argumentative-way. Just wanting to hear this perspective.

whatever you do, dont lose hope or be discouraged! what we're all doing is so hard!
and it'll all be so worth it in the end, just have to invision that end goal! which too is
hard but you can do it!!! we all have times where we're not where we want to be
and aren't getting results or doing as well as we could, but just trying is what counts