Depressed :(

Stay strong knowing HE would want you to remain a healthier you. Depression is a tough war inside, but if you are keeping him at your fore-thoughts, then think of what he would want. Throwing you hugs to help get your through your hard time

i know you wont feel like it, but exercising releases the same happy chemical that eating does, go out for a walk!

Well, it is perfectly normal to feel down about this, however, I have to ask, are you having or have you had bereavement counselling to help you deal with this?

The way I see it, as someone who has suffered from both, if there are two main forms of depression - clinical - the chemical kind which best reacts to drugs and "situational" depression caused by an event, such as a death, which responds best to counselling.

Find someone you can talk to, try not to indulge in habits (i.e. overeating) that will just make you feel guilty and add to the weight of bad feeling you are dealing with.

:-)

Get help! (In the nicest possible way). It sounds very much like you're having some issues with your grieving. The death of a parent is a seismic shift in our lives, but we should be to find a 'new normal' with joy and fulfillment as well as the memories and sadness.

Why has your Dr left you on anti-depressants for four years with (as far you mention) no other treatment? I suggest you start by talking to another GP. Or see if anyone can recommend a trained and registered counsellor/ therapist (or just self-refer and try another one if you don't like the first one. You need to find someone you click with.). Or what about a group?

My beloved mother died about seven months ago. About a month after she died, I started attending a 10 session group for people who were grieving. I was afraid they'd all be loonies and think that I didn't deserve to be there and that it'd just be depressing... but the people were a mix of normal folks who'd had crappy things happen to them. The group leaders were good and it was very helpful to work through some of the common issues that we face with grief.

Now I feel like the foundations of my life have been knocked out and I'm trying to remake myself into whatever person I'm going to be from now on. I can't express how much I miss her and how sad I am not to have her support and love in my life. But I'm surviving and moving on. I'm able to function.

You don't need to spend the rest of your life feeling like crap. If you broke your arm, you'd get medical help - emotional damage that isn't healing right needs help too!

God bless.

Hello,
You are not on your own.

I really can appreciate how you are feeling today. I got up this morning and had a bad weekeend food wise. It was the aniversary of my dads death last week. My dad got diagnosed with dementia when he was 52 and unfortunatly died at 62 a couple of years ago. He really was the the most important person on our family. The one who sorted everything out for us and made it better.

I woke up this morning and put the tv on to fiona phillips speaking about losing parents to dementia. It really made me think about my dad and how we all delt with it at the time and after he died even though we were grieving long before he did pass as we lost a piece of him each day his condition worsened. Life is so difficult at times and sometimes we feel like we cant control your emotions. We learn to live with difficulties and you have obviously come a long way also since you lost him you have been coping but there is also people you can talk to who can help you get on with your life again and manage your feelings in a positive way.

Its my birthday in a couple of weeks and I know my dad would want to enjoy it and get on with my life. he lives on in each of us and we keep him alive by talking about him and remembering the things he taught us. I really hope you start to feel better. I can only say when I feel down and upset I have to throw my jacket on and get outside. I go for a walk and feel much better about things by the time I get home.

Keep smiling and remember he will never leave you your heart will be full of memories and special things he has left you with. Talking about it will help. Go back to your GP and get some advice.

Lots of love and your not on your own x

Oh honey. It is hard when you lose someone but if you put the weight back on by over-eating then not only will you feel upset over your loss but you'll also feel disappointed that you've undone all your hard work. The short-term gain from eating some junk food is not worth it in the long run and others are right in saying that your dad would want you to be fit and healthy and would be proud of you for keeping going through this tough time.