Who wants to lose weight before having a baby???

jtodacheeny · July 2009

Hello ladies!! I am a busy momma to two babies, aged 2 and almost 4.

When I got pregnant with my oldest, I gained a TON of weight.. even though I was really careful about eating, drank only water and exercised every day. It got to the point that I would cry every time I stepped on a scale, so halfway through I quit weighing myself. Anyhow, I got HUGE!!

I was losing weight slowly but surely, then 13 months later I got a suprise pregnancy. I only gained 16 pounds with the second baby, even though I wasn't nearly as careful as I was with my first pregnancy. Of course, I was heavier to start with than I was with the first.

Anyway, my baby just turned two and now my maternal instincts are kicking in again and I want to start trying for a new baby soon. Here is the problem - I weigh 231 pounds - 60 more than when I got pregnant the first time. :grumble: I am still carrying the baby weight from my almost four year old..:frown:

So, I want to lose at least thirty pounds before I get pregnant again. I would love to hear from some of you ladies who are wanting to lose some weight before getting pregnant. Maybe we can encourage each other along and eventually welcome some new little members to MFP!!!:happy:

yessie75 · July 2009

I am also trying to loose weight before getting pregnant. My youngest is two and I also gained more than the necessary during my pregnancy. I am currently 145 lbs and my height is 5'2". I want to go down to 130 lbs and would love the company :happy:

4mykids · July 2009

I'm with ya! My youngest is turning 4 next week, and I have a 5 yo as well. I would love to have 2 more babes, but I'm at the heaviest I've ever been in my life, and am refusing to get pregnant at this weight. I think it would kill me (literally). I need help!!!!!

That's just one of the many reasons that I want to lose so badly.

You can do it! I'll do it with you! Only I'd like to be down 60-ish. I know - that's a lot - and probably a long time away

BUT - we CAN do it!!!!!!

berkeleygirlforever · July 2009

I'm with ya! I recently got back together with my ex-husband. We have an eight year old together. I too weigh almost 230. I was 170 before I got pregnant with my son eight years ago. I'd like to have another before it's too late but I don't want to get pregnant when I'm already so big! :embarassed: I'd like to at least get back to 170 or lower before getting pregnant again.

jtodacheeny · July 2009

Okay Ladies, we can do this!! We are worth it! And our babies (the ones we have now and potential new ones!!) deserve fit and happy mommas! I'm so excited to have a common goal with you all! Let's keep each other posted and share our tips, achievements, setbacks, etc...

I'm so excited for this!! I feel I will do better with my goal when I have likeminded ladies to share with. Have a great day!!

jtodacheeny · July 2009

I am also trying to loose weight before getting pregnant. My youngest is two and I also gained more than the necessary during my pregnancy. I am currently 145 lbs and my height is 5'2". I want to go down to 130 lbs and would love the company :happy:

Yessie25 -

You can do it! Baby weight is so hard to lose! But you are so close, you will get there before you know it!

I am 5'9", but I have way farther to go than you! We will get there together! :flowerforyou:

jtodacheeny · July 2009

I'm with ya! My youngest is turning 4 next week, and I have a 5 yo as well. I would love to have 2 more babes, but I'm at the heaviest I've ever been in my life, and am refusing to get pregnant at this weight. I think it would kill me (literally). I need help!!!!!

That's just one of the many reasons that I want to lose so badly.

You can do it! I'll do it with you! Only I'd like to be down 60-ish. I know - that's a lot - and probably a long time away

BUT - we CAN do it!!!!!!

cathydo -

You will lose that baby weight quicker than you realize! I too am heavier than I have ever been, and I try to be positive about myself - you know, rock it no matter what size you are- but it's not that easy all the time. Keep your chin up and believe in yourself - I believe in you and I believe in me and I believe in all the ladies here!

jtodacheeny · July 2009

I'm with ya! I recently got back together with my ex-husband. We have an eight year old together. I too weigh almost 230. I was 170 before I got pregnant with my son eight years ago. I'd like to have another before it's too late but I don't want to get pregnant when I'm already so big! :embarassed: I'd like to at least get back to 170 or lower before getting pregnant again.

berkeleygirlforever -

Wow, congrats on your renewed relationship, that's great! We can all join together and support one another! You can definately do this!! If we stay focused and motivated, we will be able to whip this weight thing before you know it!!

It sounds like we are really close to the same size and I too was 170 before I got pregnant with my oldest. I would like to get down to 199 before quitting birth control and trying for a new baby. I don't want to wait to get down to my goal weight -170- because I don't want too much time between my oldest and youngest.

rainbow118 · July 2009

I'm in, i am 23 and 227lbs, i want to get down to at least 160 before trying. I want to have a baby in a few years but not at this weight, so i want to start loosing it now.

beckythebunny122 · July 2009

I'm with you! I went in for a preconception checkup and my doctor told me to lose weight before we started (this was back in January - I was 171).

I've been working really hard to get down to a good weight. It's been pretty frustrating but this website has been a great support!

jtodacheeny · July 2009

I'm with you! I went in for a preconception checkup and my doctor told me to lose weight before we started (this was back in January - I was 171).

I've been working really hard to get down to a good weight. It's been pretty frustrating but this website has been a great support!

171 seems like an okay weight to conceive, any reason why the DR. wants you to lose??? What is your goal???

pdxmomof2 · July 2009

Hello ladies! I would love, love, love to join in on this thread! I am 35 yrs old. I will be 36 before the year is up. I have a 14 yr old autistic son(raised him on my own until met my darling dh!). We have a 5 yr old together.

I had planned to have another about 3 yrs ago but my aunt, whom I was very close to, developed terminal brain cancer. I could not imagine going through a pregnancy while she was sick and inevitably going to die. She lived 18 mths.

2 mths before that my father died of a sudden heart attack in his sleep at the young age of 55. This halted our plans yet again. I was not emotionally ready to go through that.

And if all of that was not bad enough, this year in feb I was told that I needed my gall bladder out but couldnt have it out until my newly discovered severe anemia was under control. My gall bladder came out in March and the anemia is just now improving. I am ready to do this however I weight 193 pounds. I want to be 160 at the most before embarking on pregnancy. I gained 55 pounds with each pregnancy. I did lose the weight with my first but am still holding on with my second.
:flowerforyou:
There is my story. Probably more than all of you wanted but there you go!

jtodacheeny · September 2009

So, I know this thread kinda died - sorry about that! partly my fault - Ididn't keep it up and running. Anyway, my update is that I've decided to take my merina IUD out on the 9th. I feel that the hormones in the IUD are keeping me from losing weight as easily( I know it's not ever easy). I am hoping to use a non hormonal method for a few months and see if my body regulates itself - then we will see about starting the baby making....hmmm...

time2live · September 2009

Hello ladies! I'm new to MFP (well I've been a member for a while but I've fallen off the bandwagon many times) but know I need the support of others to succeed with this weight loss journey. I too just had my Mirena removed last week to start trying for a child soon. I am currently at 218 wanting to get down at least 20 pounds before we conceive. The last few weeks I've been working out everyday and watching more what I put in my mouth and I've seen some results, can't wait to see where I'll end up!

jtodacheeny · September 2009

Hello ladies! I'm new to MFP (well I've been a member for a while but I've fallen off the bandwagon many times) but know I need the support of others to succeed with this weight loss journey. I too just had my Mirena removed last week to start trying for a child soon. I am currently at 218 wanting to get down at least 20 pounds before we conceive. The last few weeks I've been working out everyday and watching more what I put in my mouth and I've seen some results, can't wait to see where I'll end up!

It sounds like we are in the same boat!! I am currently at 228 and want to get down to below 200 before trying to conceive. Do you have any babies now or will this be your first?

If we stick to it, we can help each other lose the pounds and who knows, this may turn into a pregnancy thread soon...

yessie75 · September 2009

I was wondering what happen to this thread :flowerforyou:
I used the mirena IUD after I had my daughter. She's two now. And I felt really weird when I stopped having periods, it's just not normal. I know you're probably thinking I'm weird. It's not that i enjoy my period, but it was just weird not having it. God gave us the cycle for a reason. Anyway, after that I got on the pill and my husband swears that's what gave me high blood pressure. He's been begging me to get off the pill for months, but I was afraid to get pregnant while being overweight. I'm down to 141 lbs. and although I have 15 pounds to go and I'm starting to feel like my old self. We decided to stop the pill this week and see what happens.:happy:

jtodacheeny · September 2009

I was wondering what happen to this thread :flowerforyou:
I used the mirena IUD after I had my daughter. She's two now. And I felt really weird when I stopped having periods, it's just not normal. I know you're probably thinking I'm weird. It's not that i enjoy my period, but it was just weird not having it. God gave us the cycle for a reason. Anyway, after that I got on the pill and my husband swears that's what gave me high blood pressure. He's been begging me to get off the pill for months, but I was afraid to get pregnant while being overweight. I'm down to 141 lbs. and although I have 15 pounds to go and I'm starting to feel like my old self. We decided to stop the pill this week and see what happens.:happy:

Good luck with that!!!

It's always an exciting time. I feel exactly the same way about the cycle too! I can hardly wait until Wednesday when I get Mirena out. Did it take you awhile to get a cycle back after mirena? I think I'll use a non-hormonal method called conceptrol for a few months while I lose more weight and so my body can have a chance to regulate a bit.

Hopefully we can keep this thread going..I just kinda let it die...

Keep us posted!!

yessie75 · September 2009

I got my cycle a few days after I took the mirena out.

jtodacheeny · September 2009

Yeah!! I got my mirena IUD out on Wednesday! I'm pretty excited to start this whole process.

Yessie - How are things going for you? Any luck on the baby making :embarassed:

LisaC1026 · September 2009

Hi there ladies....I too am hoping to lose some weight before trying to have another baby. I have a daughter who just turned 6 and we've tried to have another baby several times (we go through infertility treatment) and we've been through our share of heartache. I finally switched to a new doctor and I have found that even though I knew that I had a condition called PCOS its more severe then I thought. My doctor suggested to lose weight and I'd be surprised at what could happen.

So can I join on in with you guys? I'm hoping to start TTC around November-ish. It sounds like everyone here is going off the pill - does that mean everyone is starting to try now?

I'm hoping to lose 20 pounds in the next 9 weeks (I know it may be a stretch, but I'm motivated) and then we'll see where things lead! :happy: :flowerforyou:

ctucker07 · September 2009

Hi

I actually decided to start back with this site for that very reason. I jioned about a year ago and fell off....story of my life! LOL. But this time I have a reason other than myself. My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for about 8 months or so now and no luck. I did some research and talked to my doctor and we think my extra weight is the reason we're having trouble. The extra fat cells contain estrogen which mimics the effects of the pill. So basically my body is making it's own birth control. Not cool! So that's why I'm here. I'm hoping this is finally the motivation I need to lose this weight.

ldbenincasa · September 2009

I just found this thread and am at nearly the end of my weight loss journey. I have a three-and-a-half yo son and we have been trying to have another for a couple of years. I have had three miscarriages during the last two years. We conceived our son our first month trying and conceived easily again the second time, but the third and fourth pregnancies took us 8 and 7 months of trying. The doctors have tested us for everything and can't find any answers regarding the mc's or the "border-line infertility" (they would expect us to take about 3 months, with our age, history and health). Anyway, after my son was born I DID lose all but the last 2 lbs by my 8 week check-up, but then I slowly put weight on as he weaned. My BMI was up to nearly 26. I have read that the ideal BMI for pregnancy is 20-24. We have not been trying much since my last mc in Dec., but we are ready to start trying again. I now weigh 9 lbs less than I did when I got pregnant with my son; my current BMI is 22. I am hopeful that the weight loss will at least help us to get pregnant a little more easily. As the doctor continues to remind us, the best predictor that we can have another healthy child is the fact that we already have one, so I am hoping that we will become pregnant again soon and that our family will be comeplete!

LisaC1026 · September 2009

I just found this thread and am at nearly the end of my weight loss journey. I have a three-and-a-half yo son and we have been trying to have another for a couple of years. I have had three miscarriages during the last two years. We conceived our son our first month trying and conceived easily again the second time, but the third and fourth pregnancies took us 8 and 7 months of trying. The doctors have tested us for everything and can't find any answers regarding the mc's or the "border-line infertility" (they would expect us to take about 3 months, with our age, history and health). Anyway, after my son was born I DID lose all but the last 2 lbs by my 8 week check-up, but then I slowly put weight on as he weaned. My BMI was up to nearly 26. I have read that the ideal BMI for pregnancy is 20-24. We have not been trying much since my last mc in Dec., but we are ready to start trying again. I now weigh 9 lbs less than I did when I got pregnant with my son; my current BMI is 22. I am hopeful that the weight loss will at least help us to get pregnant a little more easily. As the doctor continues to remind us, the best predictor that we can have another healthy child is the fact that we already have one, so I am hoping that we will become pregnant again soon and that our family will be comeplete!

Hugs to you! We, too, have lost three babies. Our circumstances are much different but to recap we went through infertility treatment and became pregnant with twins. I miscarried one of them and due to other factors the doctor was worried that the other baby was in my tubes. I was rushed into emergency surgery and a complete D&C was done and sent to pathology. (of course there is A LOT that I'm not adding in here, I don't care to revisit that time in my life with all the details that are irrelevant anyways. The doctor made a VERY bad judgement call and unfortunately I was trusting him....I won't EVER make that mistake again!) The baby was not in my tubes and in fact was a healthy uterine pregnancy. Needless to say, that was very hard to cope with and overcome. We tried to get pregnant again through infertility treatment and miscarried naturally (which was a relief after how the previous pregnancy turned out) So we've moved to a new doctor and we will still need infertility treatment but I'm trying to intervine and help the circumstances by trying to take charge of my life! The new doctor has found that I have a blood clotting disorder that may/may not have had something to do with the m/c. Anyways, I only decided to share more about my past because I know that we can relate to each other! Keep your chin up! It WILL happen for both of us! I have a 6 year old daughter, so I too have my proof that it happened before, so there's NO REASON that it can't happen again!

:flowerforyou:

LisaC1026 · September 2009

ctucker - do you have PCOS? I haven't heard of estrogen being in your fat cells but what you described sounds a little like PCOS (without being labeled such) If you don't mind me asking, do you have normal periods? Do you have any other "weird" symptoms? Are you insulin resistant or have sugar problems? The only reason I am asking so much is because I am VERY informed on infertility issues (since I have so many of them) and I am happy to help any woman that I can! :flowerforyou:

ctucker07 · September 2009

LisaC1026- i really don't know if that's what I have. We didn't really do any tests ot get into it too much because the doctor says you usually try for a year before they really delve into the problems. This could be my problem because I don't have regular periods. Any weight fluctuation causes it to come and go. I actually went over a year without one the year before we started trying. I myself don't have any blood sugar issues but diabetes is a huge issue in my family and another reason I want to lose weight. Any info you have to share with me would be great though. Thanks for being so interested

TamTastic · September 2009

Hi all! I have already lost the weight and got pregnant and had my baby on Sept 4th, but if I can be helpful to you during this process, I'd love to! I have a "Success During Pregnancy" thread in the success area of these boards.

I was over 100 lbs heavier with my last pregnancy with my almost three year old. So, having reached my goal weight and finding out I was pregnant the same week in January of this year was a bit scary but I was able to keep myself under control and stayed active as long as possible.

I am thinking about starting a "postpartum" motivation type thread for all the current (and future) preggo's that are looking to get the baby weight off. I am only 12 day postpartum though, so I need to give myself a reasonable amount of time to get to my true "starting point" lol! Maybe the 6 week check-up! I may start the thread before then just to have a support for the new moms.

Anyway, let me know if I can help!

:flowerforyou:

-Tam

LisaC1026 · September 2009

Tami - how did you lose so much weight before getting pregnant with #2? What tips and secrets can you share with us? How long did it take you to lose 135 pounds?

ldbenincasa · September 2009

The new doctor has found that I have a blood clotting disorder that may/may not have had something to do with the m/c. Anyways, I only decided to share more about my past because I know that we can relate to each other! Keep your chin up! It WILL happen for both of us! I have a 6 year old daughter, so I too have my proof that it happened before, so there's NO REASON that it can't happen again! :flowerforyou:

Thanks for sharing Lisa! I am so sorry for your losses! I can't imagine what you went through with the termination, only to find out the the pregnancy was healthy. That is so horrible!!

Regarding your blood clotting disorder, what do you have? They discovered that I have MTHFR, which is a blood clotting disorder that also causes low levels of folic acid. I am now on super doses of folic acid. This was discovered after my second mc. My folic acid levels are normal, so they don't think it is causing the mcs. Just wondering if you have the same thing.

Lori

JWalker514 · September 2009

I want to lose more weight before getting pregnant again also. I also gained a lot with my first pregnancy even though I was very careful about everything also. I gained a ton of water weight! In total I gained 50 lbs. Then when my son was 10 months old I got pregnant again, I lost that baby at 10 weeks. And now I am determined to lose weight before getting pregnant again.
My husband is currently in Afghanistan and gets home in 2 months, we wont be preventing anything

) So I am hoping to get pregnant soon after he gets home. I have lost 18 lbs since hes been gone and now weigh 154, but would like to lose atleast 10 more before getting pregnant again. Im below my pre pregnancy weight already, but want to start this one out much healthier!

jtodacheeny · September 2009

ok, so I got the mirena out and now my cycle is TRYING to regulate -kinda making me nuts!! I need to vent - I am a little scared that I will not have such an easy time getting pregnant! I was Fertile Myrtle with my first 2, but I have a fear that since I had the mirena IUD I've screwed my body up and it won't work the same this time. AND - I am getting a little older..and we all know that means it may make it harder...28 isn't ancient, but it's not exactly prime either. AND - being overweight doesn't help. ARRGGHH!!!! I just am praying God's timing and contentment until then. Anyway, there you have it....

jtodacheeny · September 2009

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Who wants to lose weight before having a baby???

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