The Patronizing "Good For You"

taramaureen
taramaureen Posts: 569 Member
edited November 2024 in Chit-Chat
I really have begun to hate this expression. Not because of the actual words but more because of the connotation that normally accompanies it. The tone normally denotes "Well, you should be doing that anyway because your such a fatass". Kinda makes me mad, like the repsonse would be different if I were already in shape.

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  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    Congrats on your 5 pounds lost! Keep it up.... its good for you. :bigsmile:
  • taramaureen
    taramaureen Posts: 569 Member
    :bigsmile:
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,300 Member
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    :flowerforyou:
  • babygurl48
    babygurl48 Posts: 1,237 Member
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    :flowerforyou:
    this!.. i think it''s meant in a good way and not how u are taking it.
  • Pfauxmeh
    Pfauxmeh Posts: 259 Member
    fail.
  • Natihilator
    Natihilator Posts: 1,778 Member
    It's one of those phrases that is very dependant on the tone of delivery. I've thrown out some GFY and genuinely meant it, not at all in a patronizing way, but I could see someone giving it in a sarcastic type of backhanded compliment
  • Cold_Steel
    Cold_Steel Posts: 897 Member
    Ever think maybe some people are just simply not that good at social interaction.

    A lot of people have that "social voice" or the "phone voice" as many call it and they say things like that to be civil not intending to be back handed in any way.

    Don't worry, be happy, get over it.
  • Helenatrandom
    Helenatrandom Posts: 1,166 Member
    I say "Good for you!" a lot. It adds variety to comments, so I'm not always saying "Way to Go", "Great!" , etc. I mean it as a pat on the back no matter what. I'd be the last person to decide someone "should be doing that anyway". Why? Because the goal you see on my ticker is merely my MINI goal. I know. WTF(rench toast)!
    Don't over think comments here. None of my friends say anything mean spirited to me, nor I to them. (I may ask them if they aren't feeling well if something is way out of wack on their diary.)
    Cloudbustr makes a good point about the tone of delivery. If someone you are talking with sounds sarcastic when they say that, just smile.: it makes people wonder what you are up to!
  • taramaureen
    taramaureen Posts: 569 Member
    It's one of those phrases that is very dependant on the tone of delivery. I've thrown out some GFY and genuinely meant it, not at all in a patronizing way, but I could see someone giving it in a sarcastic type of backhanded compliment

    Could be that they just don't know what to say. But it's definitly the tone that I'm kinda eh over.
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    Maybe they have this guy's problem: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MjMYQyhjiYA

    Crap, how do I post a video link again...
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