Motivation Please

kbeller88
kbeller88 Posts: 139
edited November 2024 in Motivation and Support
I have got to gett my butt back on track I've been off the wagon now for weeks and trust me MY BODY CAN TELL!!! I've gained back 5 lbs and I know I need to get back in the groove but I was hoping that you all could give me some advice to help get this mental block out!

I have been eating crap, not exercising, all the happy stuff...I just ask that you all give me some positive feed back that will give me that "aha" moment so I can start back...

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  • Stephisonaroll
    Stephisonaroll Posts: 38
    Do you have any old pics of what you looked like before you started? I would look at those and remind yourself WHY you want to lose weight and WHY you started in the first place. Sometimes we get off track and get too comfortable going about things the easy way. Now, if you have an old photo and maybe a photo or what you hope to acheive that would be awesome..Just get back on the horse and it will all come back to you..start off slow and work your way back up. Best of luck!
  • seekingstrengthX2
    seekingstrengthX2 Posts: 771
    Well, I think the info you wrote on your profile page says it all:

    "I am setting bad example for my children. I am not eating right, excersing like I should be, I'm getting bigger by the day, and my kids like to see the waves my belly makes when they hit it...(NOT GOOD!!!) "

    There's nothing more inspiring, to me anyway, than impressing good habits onto my son. He is 4 and is already asking WHEN he will be old enough to go in the fitness room at our gym. We go to the gym as a family 2 nights/week (he goes to child watch). It is as much a part of our routine as sleeping at night. It is never missed. He understands how important it is. Instilling that value in him early is sooo important.

    Do it for your kids!
  • Tiff587
    Tiff587 Posts: 264 Member
    I would love to have the magic answer!

    I tell myself a few key things!

    I'm doing this for me, this is my selfish thing! I am spending time on my diet and exercise for no one else but me! I dont want to waste my time not loving myself any more.

    When I look at cake I remind myself it wont taste as good as it will feel to be slim and healthy!

    If you have the dreaded skinny jeans you can't fit into, get them out! Mine are hanging from my door!

    I wont lie, it is a struggle for me to stay motivated too, feel free to add me if you want more support!

    :flowerforyou:
  • grmpy1
    grmpy1 Posts: 462 Member
    When you think about quitting, think about why you started in the first place.

    I was like you for two months. I actually was going up and down 4 lbs. Sometimes it takes a while for it to sink in. I finally am back on track this week. I just decided enough was enough.

    No one else can do this for you. When you want it bad enough, you will do it!

    Good Luck!
  • bamajes
    bamajes Posts: 24
    I am an emotional eater and I struggle with it when things start to stress me out. I have been on and off the wagon to many times in my life to count. I have found the following helpful for me:

    1.) Set up non-food rewards for yourself when you reach attainable goals (i.e. If I exercise every day this week, I'll treat myself to a __________). Also big milestone goals are important (i.e. when I lose 50 pounds, I'll go buy that short skirt I was scared to buy).

    2.) Don't beat yourself up for slip ups. Everybody is going to slip up. We wouldn't need to lose weight if we were perfectly on the path all the time. Positive self-talk when you fall of the wagon will help you realize it happens and help you get back on track.

    3.) Take 5 minutes to write out a list of Why you wanted to lost weight, the benefits of being healthier, or even the differences between staying in the yummy, comfort-zone versus a smaller, healtheir you. Sometimes putting it on paper helps. And then you have a reference to look back on when times start to get tough again.

    I know it sounds like some psycho-babble. But it works for me. Everybody has bad days.
  • thepetiterunner
    thepetiterunner Posts: 1,238 Member
    I write myself notes on post-its and put them ALL over the house. Reasons why I'm unhappy with my current self. Pictures of the old me and pictures of the current me. Things I want to do but couldn't because of my level of fitness. List all the reasons why you CANNOT possibly live another day in your current state. I also put other motivational sayings like "this is a journey not a race", "make good decisions for this moment", "don't put off what you can do now", "one step at a time".

    Then wallpaper your life with them - in the bathroom, on the fridge, in the pantry, in your car, at work, next to the bed, etc. Anywhere and everywhere you would look so you remember why you're doing this.
  • AlmstHvn
    AlmstHvn Posts: 376 Member
    From a blog I wrote "Just Keep Swimming"

    When you're walking down the sidewalk and slip and fall, do you

    1. Lie there forever, convinced you'll never get to your goal, anyway
    2. Get up, dust yourself off, reassess, and continue as best you can?

    No matter how long you've been lying there, today is NEW. Be kind to yourself - no shame, no beating-up-of-self ... just dust off and start now. *hug*
  • MyrianeO
    MyrianeO Posts: 92 Member
    dontletmeeatt - That's so great!!! That is the kind of life I want to lead when I have kids :) Congrats for setting the example!!

    And just the fact that you are here, on this sight talking about needing motivation is YOU getting your act together! Just keep on coming back and joining the conversation!!
  • kbeller88
    kbeller88 Posts: 139
    Thank you all so much for your encouraging words..I've just been so stressed with trying to find a job, then taking care of the kids, getting through this last quarter of school, I just kinda let everything fade...in just case...I got lazy...you all really put into perspective why I'm doing this...Its gunna be hard to get back on track but I"m so thankful that you all are here to support me and helping me get my butt in gear!!! its like I get that first little "yes" moment and I forget about it.

    I lost 22 lbs and its like when I hit that I didnt' care anymore. I could brag that I lost weight and that was the end of it for me....I know I can't do that so I'm going to keep at it, start exercising again and realizing that what I need in this life isn't to please everyone on this earth, only myself.

    =') thank you all
  • shanahan_09
    shanahan_09 Posts: 238 Member
    The BEST 'Aha' moment I had was a month ago. I bought a full length mirror and then truly took a good look at myself. I was pretty much disgusted at what I saw...that was the light bulb moment. Now whenever I want a very unhealthy food choice, I go to the mirror. Sounds corny I know, but it works for me. The mirror is set up so I see my reflection as soon as I walk in my bedroom. Can't hide from that reflection anymore.
    Try to think of it this way...do you continually want to be at your weight, do you want to rob yourself from the contentment of having a healthy body, do you want to go another year feeling the way you are now? I know I don't. Time goes by too fast and I'm not wasting another single moment being pissed off that I have neglected my body for so many years.
    You just have to make yourself a priority!! :flowerforyou:
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